It's just not possible to look slim and elegant with big boobs is it

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I saw an article about Kelly Brook, she has a new business venture so is posting a lot on social including a post today of her cycling in a bikini! I think she's facially really beautiful and although she's put on some weight since her lads mag days I wouldnt call her especially large. But because she has big boobs that's all you see and it gives the impression she's bigger than she is.

It's so depressing as a fellow big-boobed person. I am overweight and nowhere near as pretty but I feel even if/when I lose weight I'll never really look slim or stylish.

Is there any way round this? Minimiser bras are awful and normal ones are hideously uncomfortable. I'm tired of either looking tarty or matronly.

🤔.....'teenaged boy!'. Some women do have this body type naturally and this is comment is bodyshaming at its best!

Fortunately mine shrunk when I lost the weight, before that I wore minimiser bras when out, as it is really difficult to look elegant with large boobs, I agree.

Which reminds me, last night we were out to dinner, and there was a lady in the restaurant, on a date, she looked mid 50s, about 5ft 4, a good size 16, typical apple shape, with enormous boobs, and a big belly. She was wearing one of those black transparent thin mesh type tops, it was totally transparent, with a black lacy bra on underneath. The bra gave her no support, her boobs were genuinely at her waist, and sort of swung when she walked, all at waist level. I actually did a double take as she walked past me.

on one side I applaud her confidence, I mean she was all but there in just her bra, on thr other I didn’t think it was a flattering look at all. Not that my opinion matters, but I also noticed a few others look at her and look away. Maybe she was trying to be sexy for her date, who knows, and wanted to wear a sexy bra as her top was so see through, but it did nothing for her. Maybe he liked it, but getting them out like that unsupported is not something you see often when we are larger.

As a big boobed woman, I sadly agree

I so admire the svelte women, they look so classy

I have to have everything fitted to look sexy

Not a humble brag I promise

Bravissimo clothing was the perfect answer to this. It's a shame that they stopped doing it.

A Polish firm called Urkiye will sell you shirts, tops, and dresses.

That is either an astonishingly naïve or disingenous question.

Bravissimo clothing is frumpy and outdated now anyway.

Totally agree.

I’ve gone from a size 10 to 12 and 32D to a size 12 to 14 and 32FF. Nothing fits well and I just feel matronly. I’m currently working on getting my weight down.

The matronly look is very ageing.

Agree! Hate having big boobs and very envious of women whose boobs remained small even through pregnancy and breastfeeding.

Has anyone tried the Fairlie curved range?
Some of their items look ok but I have never been sure of sizing.
Pleased to have found solidarity on this thread. Never feel particularly stylish and have never found a perfect fitting flattering top. top.

Agree 100%. I'm 51 now. When I was a size 8-10 I looked better and could do blouse shaped tops, waistcoats that could nip in my waist. Once I put on a bit of weight and got to a size 12-14 it was all over. Lumpy boxy matron is all I can hope for. I have considered breast reduction but it looks quite involved and I can't risk unnecessary anesthesia with kids and cats depending on me. I find now that neutral colours with good hair and make up results in a reasonable enough look. As much as they hurt I do miss heels as they added a bit of height but since covid I can't walk in them.

@SoftLass
There are a few companies doing a limited range :
Fairlie Curved
Pour Moi
Urkye (in Poland)
PerfectDD (USA, very expensive).

and there are a few others if you do an internet search

Next do a few Fuller bust styles…eg a denim jacket and a shirt

You can find Pepperberry styles on eBay, used or New Other.

There are also all the usual tricks which help to minimise the bust - lots of online tutorials for these.

32H here, and it's an issue. V-necks are not common ATM, and if you have a slimmer bum and legs, you look like a column.

I do wear dresses, not wraps, they always gape, but tend to go for empire line above the knee, which oddly are flattering, or with hidden sherring, which are OK. Fat Face dies a load, so I can get into 10/12's which are then more flattering.

I often wonder too about the whole bmi thing for busty women. Yes, boobs are fat, but without them, I would be comfortably in the "normal" range and not overweight, albeit needing to loose a bit for health purposes.

I am doomed either way, female relatives on all sides had mahoosive breasts, real comedy breasts. Sigh.

Totally relate to this, especially re: the posture!

I'm a 32F and have a slim waist, but I just look dumpy. I'm only 5ft 3 which doesn't help. Even at my very slimmest, I've never felt "light"... But having said that, I don't dislike them either, they give me lots of confidence in the bedroom 😅

I've shared this clip with many a female relative/friend similarly well-endowed!
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I'm tall, mid 60s (but like a PP look a fair bit younger), always been top heavy (34G). The only time I don't feel 'chest conscious' - ie can unthinkingly wear a tshirt, and don't wobble in my extremely well fitted and pricey bra - is when I'm underweight. If I lose just a bit of weight, it goes from my tum, bum and thighs, making me look more out of proportion than actually slim.

What stories our boobs tell about our lives! I went from being completely flat-chested throughout secondary school and resigned to 'never having a boyfriend' 😏, to suddenly sprouting from the age of 16. 50 years later I still veer between being proud of my shape and all it's done for me, to wishing I'd had a reduction.

It's always influenced my style and choice of clothes. But I think in the end you just have to own it. Be a Scandi Architect (with boobs). Be an interesting artist or ethereal poet (with boobs). Be elegant, in the silhouette that suits you (for me, it's long flowing lines). Wear a pretty dress (with boobs - though finding those one or two you feel great in is the work of a lifetime! Excluding anything with a waistband knocks out 90% of what's on offer.)

Like others I despair too at the boxy, high-necked, high-waisted styles that have dominated for years for now. Perfectly calculated to turn me into a solid block, with skinny shins poking out from slightly-too-short midis and trousers. (Yeah, even when they're billed as long. From reviews, you realise a lot of shorter women buy the long length if there is one, for better fit and proportions.)

Still and all, it helps to see the bigger picture. For me, pilates helps keep me supple, slightly toned and reasonably happy with my appearance. If you're otherwise healthy, don't let your boobs get in the way of enjoying life!

I agree, mine aren't even especially massive (E cup) but they ruin so many outfits. Anything with buttons, tie up fastenings is ruined. Anything that's meant to look chic and flowing just looks tent like on me. Breast feeding and perimenopause had created the most horrendous sag so I look about 80 without a bra and my bra's feel like wearing scaffolding....not to mention the sweaty cleavage when I do hoist them up to their pre sag level. Would love some sort of lift / reduction but it just feels so frivolous for the sake of appearance. I'd quite like it if looking middle aged could just become acceptable again rather than all needing to look like we are still in our 20's.

I'm 38GG and very, very short, so alas, appearing elegant is not going to happen for me. I do still have a waist so wrap dresses are good, but because I am so short the cleavage is too deep and shows more than I care to, so I need a camisole underneath. V necks and scoop necks are good but hard to find right now, anything high necked makes me look like a Carry On matron. Also have to keep clothing simple - anything with frills or ruffles looks ridiculous. I have to find the Goldilocks zone with necklines, not too high, not too low. It's annoying that my smaller bosomed friends can wear a low cut style and it looks chic and elegant on them, I try the same thing on and I look like the Whore of Babylon. Braless is never an option.

So relate to this thread. 30H and short waisted to boot

My people! I have having to wear stretchy tops. I feel it looks 'cheaper' than nice natural fabrics but buying non-stretch makes me look huge.

You totally sound like someone with no boobs. It’s such a no boob comment to make.

Same! I often get comments about ‘oh x loves getting her knockers out’ . I don’t especially I really just want to look thin like the rest of us. The only way for me to look thin is by wear tight tops that are tight round the waist too. I’m a size 10 as well. Anything loose or even semi loose I look a size 16!

I have found my people! I’m short, generally slim (size 8), weighed less than 7 stone at one point, waist still only 25 inches age 52, and I’ve never looked any better than dumpy thanks to boobs, short waist and short legs. Sexy wasn’t an option, I’m the breadwinner and have to be taken seriously at work (and now I’m in a senior job it would be wildly inappropriate). I used to like Pepperberry fitted shirts as their ‘super curvy’ fitting actually fitted me everywhere.

Suits with a very plain top and the jacket worn open are the best I can do at work, for casual I struggle. If I had untold wealth I would wear Armani all the time, as at least some of their stuff is cut for curves.

And I just know someone is now going to come and say ‘25 inch waist, you heifer, if you just lost weight you boobs would magically disappear’.

I know! I've spent a lifetime trying to find clothes that make me look elegant. It's a struggle. I love clothes but gave up on fashion a long time ago as it's designed for a completely different body shape. I tend to look for clothes that elongate, so, long dresses, wide,straight leg trousers that balance out the top half. I hate how pp on here diss waterfall cardigans as they're very flattering on me! I've also had chronic back problems for years. Sometimes I think having v large boobs is a bit like a disability tbh.

One thing I do that works is finding a pretty top or dress that fits my bust and sewing ribbons on to tie at the back which gives a bit of a waist.

Yes exactly this - I'm quite casual with short hair and not particularly glamorous. I might be able to rock my boobs if I had a more dressy style and long bouncy hair but that's not me.

I like the idea of fitted shirts but they never work unless I wear them open over a vest and then I end up with cleavage on display. Despite not being very thin I'm small framed and a shirt that fits my boobs is absolutely huge on the shoulders.

Has anyone found a minimiser that actually works? They all just seem to squash your boobs under your armpits which is neither flattering or comfy.