Found a dress for MOB, not sure of colour.

[Doteycat]

So, I have found a dress, a FABULOUS dress for my MOB outfit.
Only its Black, black with pearls, its gorgeous.
DD LOVES it and says yes go for it, totally the vibe of the wedding, so glam, so my style/type of dress i like to wear only fancied up a bit.
I said, but black, is that ok? DD say yes its her wedding, she says yes so thats that in her mind.
But im a bit, i dunno, is black strange?

or is that a load of shite.

Oh OP, that is fabulous. And the shoes sound amazing. I too, would go understated with hair and make up - the dress is enough of a wow.

DH’s cousin got married in New York last year and all of the bridal party (MOTB; MOTG etc) were told to wear black dresses!

This is a fabulous dress to show which other colours are in the same palette and will tone in and compliment the bridesmaids dark wine dresses rather than be an exact match.

You could also go for a contrasting colour where a jewel tone to the depth of the bridesmaids colour eg forest green, dark teal would look beautifully.

Alternatively let the dress and your sparkling smile do all the work and play with neutral receding accessories - maybe silver? Or you could mix the colour you choose with a neutral as quite a lot of accessories to coordinate - jacket/wrap, headpiece, bag, jewellry, shoes most of which get set aside after the church ceremony and reception drinks.

The only colour DD vetoed was green so thats a no no.
And I wont be wearing anything with a big pattern on it so that one in the link, while beautiful, is out too.

This MOB outfit finding is tough going!

Sorry I wasnt clear enough in my post - I meant that you could look at that dress to see the range of colours complimentary to the bridesmaid's claret to select accessory colours not wear that dress. Sounds like it will be a fabulous day.

Oh yes I get you now!

If the brides says it’s fine why on earth wouldn’t you?

Partly because I have looked at about 9 million dresses and this is one of the very few I liked enough to maybe buy.

Wow. I wonder what you think is glamour and magnificence then 😆

I have been M oB it's so stressful picking something that is suitable you love your Dd likes etc etc, I'm doing it again next year and I'm exhausted already looking😀

The dress is beautiful but imo it’s not a mother of the bride dress; not sure about strapless for MOB - would look too much like you’re taking the limelight from your daughter.
Black is a no no for a wedding too.

Personally, I’d look for something different that’s more appropriate for the occasion.

Wow! Gorgeous.

How fabulous. I like to hear about the evening wear style of US weddings.

You are going to look amazing, that is one stunning dress. Have a wonderful day.

Haven’t read the whole thread but if it’s for the winter then why not? Sounds fabulous.

It's definitely not MOB. More like your son is marrying someone you don't like and you want everyone to know and to stand out.

Buy hey, what do I know, I'm old fashioned and black for a wedding, just no. Plus it looks like a prom dress.
But, you obviously know what the brides and bridesmaid dresses look like. To pick that for starters, you must feel pretty confident and stylish anyway and feel you could pull it off.

It is appropriate for the occasion.

If you read the thread the OP said...

‘The remit is gown, all the bridal party are in long and the guests have been requested to be in formal/long.’?

I have read the thread.

It’s long and a gown but inappropriate as a MOB dress. I’m sure there are plenty of other dresses that would fit the brief!

Etiquette dictates you don’t wear black for a wedding. Everyone will think OP doesn’t approve of the marriage if in black.

No etiquette does not dictate any such thing. Plenty of people wear black or have black in the bridal party.
And surprisingly enough, there are not loads that fit the brief.
SO many of them are more granny of the bride than mother. They are shocking.

And trust me, nothing, not even a shining star falling from the sky could take the limelight from my DD on her day. She shines brighter on any day, not just her wedding day. Im not concerned about that in the slightest.

The bitterness is bouncing off this thread from people who obviously resent the OP having the confidence to wear that dress.

The bride has approved it so I'm baffled as to why anyone here thinks they are in a position to tell her it's not appropriate.

OP I wore a very similar one in red to my sibling's wedding. I felt beautiful. Nobody thought I was trying to outshine the bride.

I'm amazed nobody has suggested you show up in some smock from Joanie or Nobody's Child and with a bag over your head.

My friend wore a black MOB dress and it was stunning, undoubtedly the nicest MOB dress I have ever seen.

Not strange at all my sister wore a black with gold on it number with a black hat when mob I'm sure you will look lovely enjoy.

So many don't agree.

More importantly the MOB and the bride don't agree with you either.

FWIW, my bridesmaids were in black. I had a red dress and it was tricky to match.

To everyone saying you can’t wear black to a wedding, if you’re that interested in the done thing Debretts is very clear that black is fine as long as you don’t look somber, there is nothing somber about that glorious dress. OP you will look amazing and I’ve joyously worn black to many weddings and no one would have thought I didn’t approve by my beaming smile and happiness.