Found a dress for MOB, not sure of colour.

[Doteycat]

So, I have found a dress, a FABULOUS dress for my MOB outfit.
Only its Black, black with pearls, its gorgeous.
DD LOVES it and says yes go for it, totally the vibe of the wedding, so glam, so my style/type of dress i like to wear only fancied up a bit.
I said, but black, is that ok? DD say yes its her wedding, she says yes so thats that in her mind.
But im a bit, i dunno, is black strange?

or is that a load of shite.

It was my sons wedding last year and I was stressing out trying to find a dress. I found a dress that I really liked but it was a bit bohemian, so I asked my son if he cared what I wore to his wedding. He knows me so well as he replied “no not all, well actually yes, id prefer it if you didn’t wear Jim jams” . I stuck to his preference and found a smart comfortable dress.

DD loves this dress so I guess in that scenario, Im buying it.

At 55 for your daughter’s wedding it’s really not appropriate at all.

Why?

You can rent designer shoes by the day

https://byrotation.com/designers/jimmy-choo?srsltid=AfmBOoqLL6T6oJe87WfHjwYnnTyjLUQLJQB4-zSafiyLrRljwGveGRo9

I think it’s a gorgeous dress but my hesitation is strapless is quite a young look. I definitely think it’s worth a try on and if you feel great in it, you should buy it. I’ve worn black to a wedding before!

It's gorgeous, glamourous and if you can get away with it,perfect! I wore black to my darling SD's wedding (standing joke between us, I am the wicked stepmother (We get on really well)) I showed her the dress for her to approve before I bought it and she was more than happy. As I am a fatty it was more 'full' but definitely evening dress-y, and not at all 'mother of the bride' (This, but maxi length - https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/186746690276?var=0&mkevt=1&mkcid=1&mkrid=710-53481-19255-0&campid=5338268676&toolid=10044&_trkparms=ispr=1&amdata=enc:1xwmCB2jbSFeVpNnp2ZLMTw18&ff=11&gbraid=0AAAAADA7Q_KgEcp3-qAhRX3EPQZNN23aC&customid=Cj0KCQjwgIXCBhDBARIsAELC9ZgTqU6NIVK34mH4HZ6lySz6BH7wZ1z9ehSywkyA4q7TdCxps8vZR8IaAh2fEALw_wcB&gclid=Cj0KCQjwgIXCBhDBARIsAELC9ZgTqU6NIVK34mH4HZ6lySz6BH7wZ1z9ehSywkyA4q7TdCxps8vZR8IaAh2fEALw_wcB )

No hat! A rose in your hair?

Because the dress is more of a prom style dress not a wedding guest. Also the design is more suited to someone younger.

I’ve worn a black dress to a wedding but I think that dress is the wrong length and a bit “trying too hard “ vibes. Especially being off the shoulder in addition. Sorry if that sounds rude.

Can you define “gown” vs dress?

Sorry I think that would be quite dated/ageing and it would be much fresher with more natural glowy makeup and understated shoes. Aje is an Aussie brand and I can envisage this with that more effortless style of hair/makeup and minimal accessories.

I agree. I think minimal, to keep it looking fresh.

55 isn't old. I'd be more confident to wear something like that now at almost 50 than at 35 when DDs were small, and I'm slimmer and fitter than I was then as I have more time to look after myself. Go for it, OP @Doteycat

Me too.

I don't agree. Choosing a dress is dependent on the wearers shape and style (not age) combined with the event. I could/would wear that dress. I am older than this MOB but the style would really flatter.

What would you wear when the OP has said ‘The remit is gown, all the bridal party are in long and the guests have been requested to be in formal/long.’?

You like it. Your daughter likes it.

Who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks?

100%
Im a lot fitter and slimmer and more money for clothes than in my 30s.
And as for "trying to hard" what does that mean?
Showed it to DH who gasped and said jesus that would be fabulous on you.
So so far im 2 for 2 with DH and the Bride.
I saw the JC shoes in black with the pearls, Ill see if they have them in store and have a look.

I dont hugely but I do want to be comfortable, its a style id wear a good bit but not this dressy obvs.
I cannot stand the usual MOB ones that are out there, Nicholas ross etc and dd cant either. Its not that kind of wedding.
The dresscode is formal/long/gown and the men will be in some fabulous uniforms of diff colours or suits of all shades.

Yes on thinking I think you may be right.

Are you in Australia, OP? When I went on that dress site it seemed to be selling glam gowns for wearing on a warm beach- absolutely lovely!

I think some people here might be imagining a chilly English church and a reception at the local golf club.

I love this too.😍

https://uk.ajeworld.com/products/flora-gown-prismatic-floral-red

No no in Aus and its in the Uk but not local golf club!

Stunning dress but big patterns do not suit me at all.

They dont suit anyone.....

Agree with the soft fresh dewy make-up.

I loved the velvet headband that PP posted but I would be tempted to find one in a different colour than black - maybe a deep jewel tone depending on your colouring?

If your daughter is ok with it then go for it, personally i would not wear black to a wedding and i don't recall any of my day guest wearing black. My Mum says its bad luck to wear black to a wedding but my Mum is judgmental and superstitious, you do you.