Dress for 16 year old attending a family church wedding

[lavenderjune]

We have a family wedding to attend in July. I’m trying to find a dress for my 16 year old daughter. Everything I have suggested has been met with a big thumbs down. She has just shown me this dress. I really don’t think it’s right but thought I would see what others could come up with please.

It was you yourself who mentioned the fiancés disapproval…

As I, too, am a balanced professional with a mind of my own, I would not wear this dress, but I can respect others’ decision to wear whatever the hell they please.

I agree that it isn't suitable for ops daughter.
But, seriously, it's not that revealing for an adult at the right occasion. It's quite worrying how controlling your GDs fiance is. I'd be worried, not bragging about it.

What on earth. What a vile bunch of people on this thread judging a child they know nothing about.

I think the 'vile bunch' is actually only two or three people - and they've been called out on it.

I think that is fine
Would expect 16yo to be wearing a young person style
If cold in church can have a cardi or shawl over it
Sure there will be girls in 20s wearing that type style

Absolutely not!!!!

Yes good point, if there are other teen girls there they will probably be dressed similarly.

M&S had a cream halterneck dress on their dresses headline page - might look at that?

Many people are saying bare shoulders are not suitable for church , but what about brides ? Most weddings I’ve been to of the last 2 decades most brides have had bare shoulders.

The general rule to keep it classy is that you EITHER show shoulders OR legs. Obviously it's not law but it's generally a fail safe approach.

I like the dress but it feels like sticking two fingers at the bride because it's a play on a wedding dress but much sexier. So sort of out shining the bride which isn't fair.

I do think that there is a lot of leeway for teens at events like these.
But I also think that you have to learn how to dress for an occasion, and she may not know exactly what to wear for a family wedding.
So a conversation around, daytime not evening, no showing knickers, Garden party not nightclub etc is in order. Most churches honestly don't care about strapless for a 16 year old wedding guest!

Having said that, she will be fine if she turns up in this. Just a bit chilly (churches are always cold)

I recently had to buy dd a last minute dress for a funeral. We dashed into Asda, and were very surprised at the dresses in there. Some really good stuff. Dds dress is actually really nice. (not that she will wear it again, it is now 'tainted' by being worn to the funeral) But loads of summer dresses in different colours and styles.