Wear same outfit to wedding

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My niece married in 2021 and her brother is getting married later this year.
I adore what I wore to my niece’s wedding and haven’t worn it since.
Would it be appropriate to wear the same outfit to my nephew’s wedding four years later?

Personally I wouldn't for a wedding with alot of the same guests, especially as the main people are so closely linked. Save it for a friend's wedding or friends of your other halves wedding where guests will likely be different

Why do you think the other guests will remember or notice? Or even care?

Absolutely wear it! We all buy too much stuff nowadays so re-wearing an outfit you love means you're doing your bit for the planet.

Oh yes I would. If you felt great absolutely. Just restyle it. Different jacket. Different shoes. Maybe the jacket and shoes in a totally different colour. Say last time you wore black accessories. This timeshare natural beige/ecru accessories.

belt it this time or wear it with a hat. That sort of thing

do your hair different.

Funny story as in just like a harmless "did you know I wore the same dress to your aunt's wedding, too" that sort of thing....just pointing out that that's probably the most you can do and it's still would probably mean nothing 😆just like a fun fact someone can figure out hahah i didn't mean like make fun of type story

That dress is stunning, I would absolutely wear it again. I would just add a contrasting colour hat, shoes and bag. I imagine if anyone can remember you wore it before they would understand why you're wearing it again as it is so nice.

Enjoy the wedding!

Can you explain why, how do you think these people would react to seeing the same dress for a second time, what would the negative impact be on OP? Reputational?

Honestly curious because I don’t get it. And I don’t get why it’s not an issue for men.

I would think anyone telling me that was really a bit odd. Not for wearing the dress again but why they think that is of any interest. Just possibly if I'd said I liked the dress, they might reply with that.

If I was in pictures at both then I feel it would be noticed. It's my personal choic of what I would do.

I don't think they would think badly of me and may not even notice but it I just personally wouldn't wear the same to two different family weddings that's all

I don't go to enough smart events to justify buying lots of outfits, so I wear the same one over and over again.

Fine, but it might be interesting to ask yourself what has made you feel that way. Is it media coverage of e.g. the royals, and royal commentators pointing out that one woman or another has worn that coat before? Is it adverts promoting the idea that new always equals better?

Or is it something more personal - family members who you know would judge you silently? Or your own unconscious desire to impress, or fear of being unimpressive in some way?

I'm not trying to get at you. It's a perfectly valid feeling - I'm just curious as to what prompts it.

Me too! This thread has really made me want to understand why so many women feel this way.

That's the question. Why do so many people have this expectation about women, but never men and why is it so rarely challenged?

Many men will wear their sole 'good suit' to every formal occasion for years, if not decades until it no longer fits or it starts to look shabby.

Women are expected to never wear the same thing twice, and people will notice or comment if they do.

Yet when an Australian newsreader revealed he'd worn the same suit daily for a year, no-one noticed or found it particularly remarkable even though he was doing at in support of his co worker, who had been criticised if she wore the same clothes more than once.

Same for Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and likely many others.We need to stop unquestionably holding women to a different and more onerous standard to men.