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Wear same outfit to wedding

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ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 15:45

My niece married in 2021 and her brother is getting married later this year.
I adore what I wore to my niece’s wedding and haven’t worn it since.
Would it be appropriate to wear the same outfit to my nephew’s wedding four years later?

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Whoarethoseguys · 19/05/2025 16:20

If different guests were going to be at the wedding yes but in this case unless you can make it look very different with different accessories I wouldn't. Not because I think people will remember or care what you wear but because it may look odd in the photos.

WellyBellyBoo · 19/05/2025 16:20

Yes, no problem at all. Maybe add some different accessories.

Londonmummy66 · 19/05/2025 16:21

So long as you accessorise it differently then I don't think there is an issue

sweetpickle2 · 19/05/2025 16:21

Can guarantee most of the men who were/will be at both weddings will be wearing the same suit. Wear the dress, OP.

Icantstandupforlyingdown · 19/05/2025 16:23

Of course you can! It's a fabulous dress and it would be a shame to leave it hanging in your wardrobe.

No one is going to judge you for wearing the same dress twice in 4 years. I wore the same dress to three weddings one summer in my 20s, I couldn't afford to buy a new one for each wedding, loved my dress and didn't have much opportunity to were it except for weddings!

GoodWorkSally · 19/05/2025 16:23

I've worn the same wedding outfit for 3 family weddings within the past 5 years. It's something smart that I feel comfortable in and I don't care at all if someone spotted it. If anyone did, they can think what they like.

Hadalifeonce · 19/05/2025 16:24

Wear it.

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ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 16:24

HundredMilesAnHour · 19/05/2025 16:06

Probably. Is there a proud parent / grandparent who will display photos of both siblings weddings next to each other?

The other option is to just go ahead and own it. Say yes it’s the same outfit but I love it and if recycling is good enough for the Princess of Wales, it’s good enough for me. 😛

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Proud parents don’t have any photos up with the extended family. One set of grandparents are my parents and they only have a photo of the bride and groom up. My brother’s MIL I can’t stand so I couldn’t care less about her opinion.

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ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 16:26

I bet the only person to remember or comment will be my brother’s MIL 😂😂

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FastFood · 19/05/2025 16:26

I would. Even if someone notices it (unlikely), whats the problem?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 19/05/2025 16:28

No girl, people will remember and give you funny looks! x

FrodoBiggins · 19/05/2025 16:30

Yeah! It's lovely.
Bloody men get to wear the same suit to weddings for about ten years 😂

shewasasaint · 19/05/2025 16:39

All the talk about the photos. Most wedding photos are of the bride and groom, then the parents and the bridesmaids and best man.

As aunt I'm sure I didn't feature much in photos at all.

It seems a shame to have a lovely outfit and not wear it again.

CarpetKnees · 19/05/2025 16:43

shewasasaint · 19/05/2025 16:39

All the talk about the photos. Most wedding photos are of the bride and groom, then the parents and the bridesmaids and best man.

As aunt I'm sure I didn't feature much in photos at all.

It seems a shame to have a lovely outfit and not wear it again.

Although at my nieces weddings, we've also taken photos of us siblings.
I noticed recently that both my sisters, and my brother, and I ALL have a photo up in our houses, taken at niece's wedding, of us as siblings (as it is such a nice photo and we often aren't together, let alone together, looking smart).

Shuttered · 19/05/2025 16:45

CarpetKnees · 19/05/2025 16:43

Although at my nieces weddings, we've also taken photos of us siblings.
I noticed recently that both my sisters, and my brother, and I ALL have a photo up in our houses, taken at niece's wedding, of us as siblings (as it is such a nice photo and we often aren't together, let alone together, looking smart).

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And I bet your brother is wearing the same, or a virtually identical, suit at every wedding.

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ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 16:56

CarpetKnees · 19/05/2025 16:43

Although at my nieces weddings, we've also taken photos of us siblings.
I noticed recently that both my sisters, and my brother, and I ALL have a photo up in our houses, taken at niece's wedding, of us as siblings (as it is such a nice photo and we often aren't together, let alone together, looking smart).

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We haven’t got one of the three of us, only slightly tipsy end of the evening ones. I’ll have to get one taken this time.

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minnienono · 19/05/2025 17:01

Of course it’s fine, I doubt anyone will notice, men rewear their outfits all the time

Coffeeishot · 19/05/2025 17:05

You are right nobody is going to remember what you wore or care really I mean that kindly wear it again it's a fab outfit get your new jacket If you want but you probably don't need to, as pp said most men won't change their suits.

Doggymummar · 19/05/2025 17:07

Why not? I don't see the issue at all. My mum and dad both wore the same outfits to mine and my brother's weddings who has money to waste on fancy one time only outfits?

Lins77 · 19/05/2025 17:09

It makes no sense anyway that there's supposedly some kind of prohibition on women wearing the same outfit twice.

Why on earth would it matter?

It's not like you're turning up in gardening clothes.

nobodywantsit · 19/05/2025 17:13

I don’t think I would for siblings. I’d hate it if group family photos were displayed next to each other and I had the same outfit in both.

That actual skirt you shared is gorgeous. Can you get that and wear it? I would!

TheCurious0range · 19/05/2025 17:15

Even the princess of Wales rewears outfits to events, go for it, you might want to choose different accessories this time

verycloakanddaggers · 19/05/2025 17:23

I’d hate it if group family photos were displayed next to each other and I had the same outfit in both. Is this about not wanting to be thought of as 'poor'? Am quite fascinated by why this would bother someone. I'm aware it bothers plenty of people, but what are they bothered about?

BethDuttonYeHaw · 19/05/2025 17:24

Who the hell would even remember

olivelime · 19/05/2025 17:39

I can't believe people are even hesitating on this - of course you should wear it again! You've got a beautiful dress that you feel great in and rarely get the opportunity to wear, it would be crazy not too. You don't even need to try and make it look different. You've found a great dress, it feels special and holds lovely memories of family celebrations, its perfect.

Like others have said, men wear the same outfits all the time, no one bats an eyelid. How is it different? Its so wasteful, I'm terms of cost, but also energy and time, to have to find a new outfit for every event. Fine if you want to, but it's by no means necessary.