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Wear same outfit to wedding

214 replies

ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 15:45

My niece married in 2021 and her brother is getting married later this year.
I adore what I wore to my niece’s wedding and haven’t worn it since.
Would it be appropriate to wear the same outfit to my nephew’s wedding four years later?

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EdisinBurgh · 19/05/2025 21:28

Actually instead of wondering if people will notice you should make an asset of it, show it off!

Rewearing outfits especially expensive and rarely worn ones should be admired nor shamed. It is for men. Always the double standard for women…

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 19/05/2025 21:33

HundredMilesAnHour · 19/05/2025 16:01

I wouldn’t for the weddings of two siblings as surely a lot of the guests will be the same but you’ll be wearing the same outfit in both sets of photos seen by the same people.

I wouldn’t either for two siblings. I’ve worn the same dress at multiple weddings too but they were different groups. This is such a distinctive dress with a pattern too.

Bonbon249 · 19/05/2025 21:43

I would, it's not like they've got married within months of each other. Just remember those who matter won't mind and those who mind matter.

Notquitethere60 · 19/05/2025 21:43

I think it’s absolutely fine. Who actually will care or remember. Lovely dress.

TerrysCIockworkOrange · 19/05/2025 21:43

Do the people saying they wouldn’t really think anyone else will even notice let alone actually give a toss?!? Madness 😂

RampantIvy · 19/05/2025 22:02

DisforDarkChocolate · 19/05/2025 21:22

My MIL wore the same thing to our wedding she did to her eldest son, it did feel a little like we weren't worth much effort.

I wouldn't have looked at it this way.

It wouldn't have bothered me at all.

Lickityspit · 19/05/2025 22:12

I would. I wore the same dress to 3 family weddings with different accessories and no one cared or commented. It’s beautiful btw

Sgreenpy · 19/05/2025 22:18

I would wear it.
If you love it and it still fits, why waste it?
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Enjoy the wedding.

fudgesmummy · 19/05/2025 22:21

If I was the parents of the bride or groom I absolutely would not have a problem with you wearing the same outfit to both weddings.
It would not occur to me that there might be an issue!

Yerdug · 19/05/2025 22:24

Of course this is OK!

Chrysanthemum5 · 19/05/2025 22:26

I could not, on pain of death, tell you what anyone wore at the last wedding I attended and that was only a year ago.

No one will notice or care because the focus is the bride and groom

Chrysanthemum5 · 19/05/2025 22:26

And that dress looks lovely so go for it

Busybeemumm · 19/05/2025 22:29

Wear the dress OP. I had a dress I specifically saved to wear to a wedding and then a couple of years later it didn't fit. It won't ever fit again and wish I wore it more!

Rtato · 19/05/2025 22:38

tigerlily9 · 19/05/2025 21:27

I do - with my kids and mother. That’s why if you wear some distinctive, it will be noticeable if it’s the same. I share outfits with my sisters, to get round this. It was a big day and I went to a lot of effort so yeah , I like to look back on the day around y anniversary which was a good few years ago now. It’s up to OP if it bothers her but she did ask!

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That’s lovely! I might do this with my dad. But, surely you wouldn’t be bothered that someone wore the same outfit to your wedding as they did your sisters? Unless you all got married around the same time, I’m not sure why you’d get other family members photos out all at the same time. And even if you did, I doubt you’d sit there with your family pointing it out in a mean way? I think it would be a lovely thing to wear the same dress.

MissMoan · 19/05/2025 22:50

It's lovely - wear it!

MissBattleaxe · 19/05/2025 23:28

I had a dress that was my wedding guest dress to every wedding I attended for about seven years. Everyone is looking at the bride.

Seriously where did this consumerist idea come from that you can't wear the same outfit in front of the same wedding guests?

Get a dress you love and wear it wherever. Also, wearing a dress twice is not recycling it. Recycling it would be making a cushion out of it when it no longer fits.

Sevenamcoffee · 20/05/2025 07:22

I find the idea that you can’t a bit ridiculous. It wouldn’t occur to me to notice this or if I did I wouldn’t think anything of it.

WhistlerInHisStudio · 20/05/2025 07:54

I wore the same (very expensive) outfit to the wedding of a friend’s eldest and then wore it again two years later at the wedding of the youngest - absolutely no one noticed.

FreddoSwaggins · 20/05/2025 08:00

My cousin wore the same dress to my wedding as she did to my sister's wedding. (I spotted this only in the photos, not one the day.) Didn't care though - why would I? She came to the wedding and It was a nice dress.

Lins77 · 20/05/2025 08:43

Being a wedding guest can be expensive enough (gifts, travel, hotel) without splashing out on a new outfit every time.

As long as you look nice, and appropriate to the occasion, who cares?

Bjorkdidit · 20/05/2025 09:07

I wore the same dress to multiple weddings over a few years. People probably noticed but I do not care for the opinions of anyone with such wasteful and sexist views.

After all, a lot of men will have one good suit that comes out for every occasion until it starts to look shabby or no longer fits, and not one of them will ever have been expected to 'mix it up' or 'change their look'.

Lins77 · 20/05/2025 09:21

Bjorkdidit · 20/05/2025 09:07

I wore the same dress to multiple weddings over a few years. People probably noticed but I do not care for the opinions of anyone with such wasteful and sexist views.

After all, a lot of men will have one good suit that comes out for every occasion until it starts to look shabby or no longer fits, and not one of them will ever have been expected to 'mix it up' or 'change their look'.

Just imagining a man being told to wear different accessories with his suit to change it up a bit 😄

Isometimeswonder · 20/05/2025 09:44

Doubt anyone will notice tbh.

Sahara123 · 20/05/2025 09:53

Illegally18 · 19/05/2025 16:06

Yes, I would! Even if there's an overlap. What does it matter? If it makes you look good, feel good, go ahead. if others commet, so what?

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Completely agree ! Realistically who is going to remember, I certainly can’t remember what other people wore, and even if they do, does it matter ?

Candleinalantern · 20/05/2025 09:59

If you are ok with it just wear it, I wouldn’t want to though especially for the same siblings