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piscofrisco · 21/05/2025 11:55

My mum is about to wear what she wore to my wedding to my nephews. Admittedly there are 20 years in between them. But it was quite a striking outfit and people still remember it (and say how nice it was now). She will never wear it again probably and it cost a bomb and still suits her so I told her she should go for it!

Doone22 · 21/05/2025 18:31

I can't believe all these people going oh no you can't wear the same outfit several years apart to an event where the attendees are the same. Who the fuck cares? You worried you'll be banned from attending functions? The only thing that matters is what you want to wear. Honestly this is so 1st world problems!

witheringrowan · 21/05/2025 19:38

If anyone makes a remark, just say that you felt all your nephews and nieces should be able to enjoy such a fabulous dress at their weddings.

mewkins · 21/05/2025 19:43

Shuttered · 19/05/2025 16:05

i have about three wedding outfits (in the black and green that so horrify a significant subset of as wedding wear) and I think I’ve worn those to all the weddings I’ve been at for about fifteen years! I wouldn’t think twice, OP.

Years ago, I had a friend who had two wedding outfits, one for summer and one for winter. Both lovely and she just wore the appropriate one for the season. Genius. If men can do it, why can't women?

mewkins · 21/05/2025 19:44

witheringrowan · 21/05/2025 19:38

If anyone makes a remark, just say that you felt all your nephews and nieces should be able to enjoy such a fabulous dress at their weddings.

Or tell them that even the royals reuse outfits these days 😁

PorgyandBess · 21/05/2025 19:45

Doone22 · 21/05/2025 18:31

I can't believe all these people going oh no you can't wear the same outfit several years apart to an event where the attendees are the same. Who the fuck cares? You worried you'll be banned from attending functions? The only thing that matters is what you want to wear. Honestly this is so 1st world problems!

Nobody’s saying anything of the sort. The question was ‘would it be appropriate…?’

Many people have said it’s fine, and a few have said they wouldn’t.

I like clothes, and I like putting outfits together. I wouldn’t wear an outfit to a wedding twice, especially where lots of people are guests at both. Absolutely nothing wrong with doing so, but I’m vain and into fashion. Nothing wrong with that, either. No need for righteous indignation.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · 21/05/2025 19:49

ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 16:03

I figured no one’s looked at the last set of photos in four years. Am I clutching at straws?

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Yes I think you're right - I can't remember what anyone else wore to my wedding, especially my aunties, I have photos up with my mum in so could probably tell you the colour but I honestly think nobody really remembers these things! It'd be a good memory to have kept that in mind after 4 years and even if someone does remember, and they say "is that the same dress" it's a case of "yes I really liked wearing it" - it's a churlish person who can't agree with that.

DoNoTakeNo · 21/05/2025 20:00

If you love it, wear it!
Good practical idea about the jacket, too.

Whiteflowerscreed · 21/05/2025 20:04

I wouldn’t

UnintentionalArcher · 21/05/2025 20:23

This is absolutely fine, OP. These things have moved on a a lot, I think. Purely from a sustainability perspective, it’s really positive to re-wear clothes. I would see it as a good thing. I can only remember bits about the brides’ wedding dresses from any wedding I’ve been to (and even then, the details are vague). I can’t bring to mind a single guest’s outfit, though I’m sure I would’ve appreciated some on the day. Apart from the odd person who is really into clothes and fashion, and takes particular pleasure in putting together a new outfit for themselves (and I guess therefore might remember others’ outfits more clearly), I bet most people won’t remember and, if any do, I’m sure they wouldn’t judge negatively.

Bobnobob · 21/05/2025 21:17

of course it’s fine! If anyone comments in a negative way you can say ‘you remember what I was wearing 4 years ago! You must be obsessed with me’

AlwaysPerplexed · 21/05/2025 21:59

I wore the same dress to my daughter's wedding (2022) and my son's (2023). I had different jackets. Then I wore it again to my niece's (2024). I really don't care, and I don't think anyone noticed, or commented. And I am the one with all the photos on display. The dress was expensive enough that at least I got 3 wears out if it!

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ClearHoldBuild · 21/05/2025 22:46

heidyho · 21/05/2025 07:16

Come on it's a bit sad to wear the same outfit with the same guests some years later. Why not buy something on Vinted for £20? It just looks tight tbh

Adding my DH to the numbers, there’s 14 people that were there four years ago and will be there later this year. With the exception of my brother’s ex mother in law, (the groom’s grandmother) I know that none of the 13 would give it a second thought. It says more about you that you would think someone was broke. What if I was, what if I couldn’t afford a new outfit? Do you suggest getting into debt for my nephew’s wedding.
The reality is that I bought another outfit for the wedding months ago but I spotted the old dress in my wardrobe and looking at it, I figured I could wear it again as I love the dress. I’ve ordered a new jacket to wear with it so with the dress originally bought for the wedding, the jacket, the hotel and the wedding gift it’s ended up costing me more money. I tried the dress on last night and also the new dress. The old dress looks fabulous, the new dress looks really nice. Old dress it is. 100%.

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 21/05/2025 22:51

Whiteflowerscreed · 21/05/2025 20:04

I wouldn’t

Why spend money on an outfit when you’ve already got one you love? Such a waste of money

heidyho · 22/05/2025 03:16

Fair enough if you love it and feel good in it but for me the style would feel 'done' 4 years on and I'd like something new. There are so many lovely dresses out there on vinted etc there's no need for anyone to get into debt. That's a bit ott.

Littlemisscapable · 22/05/2025 06:56

I'm soo fussy and i would wear it again....honestly no one is going to remember what you wore 4 years ago. Lovely dress.

RampantIvy · 22/05/2025 07:23

heidyho · 22/05/2025 03:16

Fair enough if you love it and feel good in it but for me the style would feel 'done' 4 years on and I'd like something new. There are so many lovely dresses out there on vinted etc there's no need for anyone to get into debt. That's a bit ott.

No.

You are the one being OTT. I never buy outfits to wear only once. It's so wasteful.

ZaZathecat · 22/05/2025 07:49

Of course it's fine!

notnowmrshudson · 22/05/2025 08:01

i think it could be a small cool and a bit of a funny story to point out in family gatherings to point out you wore the same dress to each wedding, as it could be more noticeable since they are siblings and can look back at each others' wedding photos. I'm all for reusing, I guess just styling it differently to have more fun with it. Other than that i honestly don't think most people would even notice unless it's a very unique dress x

slamdunk66 · 22/05/2025 08:26

I would. I don’t remember anything that a family or friend wore to a wedding 4 years ago.

MrsJoanDanvers · 22/05/2025 10:36

Why would it matter-do people really care what someone else wears at a wedding as long as they look nice? I would imagine no one would remember what you wore 4 years ago?

EdisinBurgh · 22/05/2025 10:48

Has this thread changed anyone’s mind?

Interested and hopefully that it’s made people think twice about feeling pressured to buy a brand new outfit for weddings!

NerrSnerr · 22/05/2025 10:48

notnowmrshudson · 22/05/2025 08:01

i think it could be a small cool and a bit of a funny story to point out in family gatherings to point out you wore the same dress to each wedding, as it could be more noticeable since they are siblings and can look back at each others' wedding photos. I'm all for reusing, I guess just styling it differently to have more fun with it. Other than that i honestly don't think most people would even notice unless it's a very unique dress x

How can it be a funny story? I have just had a quick look through some photos of my friendship group at our weddings (we all got married within about 5 years). One person wore the same dress 3 times, a couple more were worn twice. I don’t think any of us noticed and 100% no one would have cared.

If people mix with others who would judge or consider you wearing the same dress a ‘funny story’ I’d reconsider my friendships.

Picklelily99 · 22/05/2025 14:16

ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 15:45

My niece married in 2021 and her brother is getting married later this year.
I adore what I wore to my niece’s wedding and haven’t worn it since.
Would it be appropriate to wear the same outfit to my nephew’s wedding four years later?

Well that's a dress and a half! It certainly deserves to be worn more than once. I think you'll look fabulous, and more importantly, you'll feel it! Enjoy the wedding!

Pandasandelephants · 22/05/2025 15:19

ClearHoldBuild · 19/05/2025 15:45

My niece married in 2021 and her brother is getting married later this year.
I adore what I wore to my niece’s wedding and haven’t worn it since.
Would it be appropriate to wear the same outfit to my nephew’s wedding four years later?

of course! what a waste to buy a dress for each wedding if you don't wear it otherwise. and 4 years is a long time.