Need to change my mother of the groom dress helps please

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Been told by my son that the dress I bought is "basically white"
So I have to get a new one in 2 weeks.
Obviously I didn't think it was white or unsuitable when I got it but hey, I don't want conflict and upset.
It suits me so can anyone help me find an alternative in a size 10 please?

This dress and jacket from Gina Bacconi is very classy:

https://ginabacconi.com/products/corinne-crepe-dress-and-jacket-sbd3072-na

FWIW I think your original dress is lovely and not bridal at all.

This is from the same shop and a similar style so should definitely fit. And also definitely not white. They also have the matching lace jacket in stock.

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/isabella-lace-midi-dress-221440840.html#isSecondPage=false&start=0&sz=60&is=true&cgid=dresses&prefn1=knee&prefv1=Knee%2520Length%7CAbove%2520Knee&prefn2=sleeve&prefv2=Cap%2520Sleeve%7CShort%2520Sleeve%7CSleeveless&prefn3=size&prefv3=10&prefn4=styleType&prefv4=Shift&pid=221440840&pos=11

Since when did married couples become so controlling? I had no idea what my mother in law was going to wear. She chose an outfit in her favourite colour, which was very bright, but she loved it, which is what counts.

Quite a few lacy options on the John Lewis website all available in size 10

https://www.johnlewis.com/maya-deluxe-3d-floral-tiered-midi-dress-rose-pink/p113388832

https://www.johnlewis.com/hobbs-ottilie-floral-lace-shift-dress-pale-blue/p113067051

https://www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-monica-lace-midi-dress/navy/p111291025

Above also in pink and green

https://www.johnlewis.com/alie-street-lila-lace-dress/glacial-green/p109804947

Keep it and get a grey jacket for the church service and photos? It's styles with a white one, so you could dye it maybe?

Unless the bride is in a short lacey frock, in that case you'll need a whole new dress.

I think there’s a danger you’re going to feel out of place and uncomfortable in the (beautiful) dress. Regardless of what anyone says now or accessories you buy. So I do think it’s worth changing it.

This is absolutely fabulous - very current with the fitted bodice and hem.

love it

edited because quoting doesn’t include picture. I was referencing the green bubble hem dress

Some people believe green to be unlucky, so that's on the list too. Black could look funereal. It's conversations like this that once led me to start searching for images of sludge-coloured sack-like dresses, and boy did I pay the price for that - the targeted adverts on MN for months afterwards presented me with sack after sack. It was very depressing! Quite a relief when I searched for online meat delivery services and started being presented with images of huge joints of beef instead.

It's a great shame about the OP's son (and almost certainly his bride-to-be through him) ordering her to get another dress, as the one she has is absolutely lovely. However, I suppose in the interests of family harmony she will have to obey. If this were me, I would be extremely disgruntled about it, especially if it's too late to return the first one. These nonsensical rules were not given so much importance before social media and the disproportionate influence of the wedding pictures.

Some others from Next website…

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su522331/at3438#at3438

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su522620/au3698#au3698

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su279761/b11135#b11135

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su662879/f68995#f68995

Here's the link !
It's the standout dress for me. I suppose because it doesn't look "Mother of the Groom" and it's an outfit you'd easily get repeat wear out of.
Monsoon dress

Good find StarTwirl [edit to make clear I can't claim credit for finding it]

It’s also absolutely nothing like the OP’s original dress and only available in Size 16 upwards (when OP is size 10) so zero point suggesting it.

It’s usually pretty obvious who the bride is at a wedding. I really don’t understand why people get so uptight about what others are wearing. My daughter wore white at our wedding (she was 19 at the time) and nobody thought anything of it, least of all me, because she clearly was not the bride.

Could it be that the lace style is too similar to the brides dress rather than the colour ? Only
because I had a lace wedding dress & MIL also picked a lace dress & the bodice, sleeves & type of lace were almost identical !

For all the people saying “The bride and groom are mad, of course you can wear that dress, it’s not too bridal” - the OP wasn’t asking us to help her prepare a case for the defence (very sensibly, in my opinion). She wants alternatives.

OP - someone else suggested this in blue via the M&S website; however, they’re still not taking online orders at the moment. John Lewis doesn’t have stock of the blue, but the pink is nice:

https://www.johnlewis.com/phase-eight-daisy-textured-bodice-dress/pale-pink/p111357286

Another Phase Eight option:

https://www.johnlewis.com/phase-eight-petite-dana-lace-dress-lavender/p112917345

However, my favourite is this one suggested by @Rollergirl11 - a beautiful, unusual colour, and one that could never be called bridal:

www.johnlewis.com/alie-street-lila-lace-dress/glacial-green/p109804947

He’s cheeky to speak to you like that, and he’s also wrong about the dress.

I have to say your original dress looks lovely. I think it is very sad you have been asked to change it. I do hope the clothes you chose meet with approval.

Yes I just noticed it was only available in a 16 which is a great pity.

however there is absolutely zero point in showing the OP the same/similar dress in similar colour ways.

For whatever reason the bride had decided against the original dress. OP sounds lovely and wants to avoid any drama so is looking for an alternative which will flatter and not cause upset. The same dress with a blush pink background is definitely not it.

An entirely white outfit, or all black, are the only unacceptable colours for weddings. White prints or the reverse of florals on a white ground, fine. Pastels totally fine. Red is fine ! I looked at my (very traditional church) wedding pictures from 22 years ago, Mil is in a gold/cream, my Mum is in pale lilac, grandmother in law in pale blue. Three friends in red, others in pale grey, florals, all sorts of colours. Someone suggested no pale colours upthread, but pale pastels are normal for Summer weddings.
I think as long as you aren’t in black or white, or something incredibly revealing, then it isn’t ever possible to detract from a bride. Plus a Mother of the groom or bride , in a short pale dress with hat etc, is never going to be mistaken for the bride ! Weddings have got a bit nuts it seems, so over controlling.
I have seen a couple of mothers of the bride in cream. Last wedding I went to the bride was in soft white and her Mum in cream with a huge hat , her sister in a pale coffee , they looked so beautiful all together .

I also think there are so many gorgeous outfits out there that the OP can do a hundred times better than the nylon lace monstrosities being suggested.

I had a tapework duvet cover which I dyed from duck egg to pink. The tapework didn’t take up any of the dye, which was unexpected but I was pleased. So I wouldn’t advise trying to dye the dress when you can get a refund instead.

Not sure why so many lace alternatives are being suggested, it’s a very different look to tapework and can be frumpy. I also think a PP may have guessed correctly that the bride may have chosen tapework for her gown.

They are being suggested because they are in keeping with the OP’s original dress, that she was happy with, and said suited her.

The dresses I linked wouldn’t be my preference or style either.. But this thread is not about what I would wear to a wedding or what I think the OP should wear, not knowing her from adam. It is offering alternative dresses based on the brief, which is her original dress.

I love the dress you have chosen and I don’t think it looks bridal at all, however, as mother of groom I think you are expected to look good, but not too good - not upstage the bride (sure that would not be the case) or the mother of the bride. Does your DS usually comment on your clothes? I would anticipate the comment comes from the bride or MOB. Did you not consult them first? When I was MOG, I waited until the MOB chose her outfit first.

Liberty has some great dresses in at the moment, there is one from Victoria Beckham that might flatter you and they have £100 off every £300 spend.

Not quite the same one but very similar and quite pretty

The whole world has gone mad. I swear to god, you could’ve turned up in a white lace bridal gown to my wedding and I wouldn’t have given a shit.

main character syndrome innit?

Well to be fair, I’d want to be the main character at my own wedding!