Need to change my mother of the groom dress helps please

[Dky4]

Been told by my son that the dress I bought is "basically white"
So I have to get a new one in 2 weeks.
Obviously I didn't think it was white or unsuitable when I got it but hey, I don't want conflict and upset.
It suits me so can anyone help me find an alternative in a size 10 please?

All of the dresses on the thread I have seen look lovely, but I would avoid any very light pink, light grey or lilac, in case they look white in certain lights. Definitely avoid anything ivory of course.

Not quite sure which dress you were considering, but I think your son was considerate to raise a concern and avoid any issues on the day. If you are struggling to decide you could see if there are any personal shopping appointments available at your local John Lewis, as they can be really helpful.

Hope you all have a wonderful day!

I love your attitude OP. Your daughter in law is lucky!

No matter what the colour may be, I don't think you should wear it.

It's a lovely dress though.

If your son has said it’s too white, the bride has probably asked him to. Querying that opinion is not going to help, and really the dress is quite bridal.
As you’ve only got 2 weeks, can you get to a big shopping centre and try on a variety if dresses( in stronger colours?)

I love the Phase Eight Kathleen dress posted by a PP.

Obviously listen to what your DS says and change it.

Your original dress is lovely. However, another vote for the green Monsoon dress as an alternative here!
You’ve been very gracious in your response to this last minute request from the bridge and groom.

Do update us on what you choose and have a lovely day 💐.

Personally not keen on all the very dark dresses suggested here.

higher price but this is pretty

Or this one with the right accessories

this?

this is similar to the original dress but all blue-grey.

This with the jacket

It's a lovely dress you have chosen & if I was the bride I'd be very happy for you to wear it.

Someone posted on another thread that it seems to be the younger generations that are getting so uptight/rigid/pernickity when it comes to planning their weddings.

Once upon a time as long as a wedding guest was clean, tidy & had made an effort (plus couldn't be mistaken for the bride & groom) then that was all that mattered!

However I'm quite laid back as one of my guests wore jeans! To be fair they were new & ironed, though I was more concerned that said guest had brushed his hair & wore clean clothes to my wedding (which they did, but it was weird seeing a Mr Messy type friend looking like a Mr Tidy for the day)

Apologies to the poster who posted the long navy and white Hobbs dress which was, until your post, head and shoulders above any other dress on this thread but this one beats it. It's gorgeous in the full link.I love the hem. Far and away the nicest.

Monsoon

I think your dress us absolutely perfect. It's modest, a gentle nod to mom of bride/ groom without being frumpy or loud. It's not remotely bridal, the fact it's quite neutral is an asset,it won't jump out on the photographs. It hardly screams" Upstaging the bride "

I think the original dress is quite lacy and looks quite white too. It dominates the grey Obviously not a wedding dress itself but possibly jarring in wedding photos.

I thought the Roman version was a good compromise.Its a navy dress first and foremost with a white pattern.
Hope you find something lovely Op.

Yeah, it’s not a colour I would have gone for… White, red and black are the main ones to stay away from.

Red? You're not supposed to wear red at weddings??

I can’t imagine as a bride or groom being bothered by this. On the day it will be very clear who is the bride and who is the mother-in-law!

But I realise from years on MN that some brides and grooms take this stuff Very Seriously, so you are doing the right thing.

OP obviously there are hundreds of other dresses that you can choose from. Is it the exact style of the dress you bought that you are now looking for? What are your criteria?

I saw yellow mentioned once on a thread of banned colours, too. It’s crazy!

Personally I think it could be like a registry office wedding dress and I wouldn’t have chosen it but, as it’s been ‘requested’ that you change it by the groom
himself, then absolutely you must wear something different. It will always ‘mar’ their day if you don’t. Not worth the upset.

Traditionally, it’s been considered too bold and vibrant and in some circles the colour the secret mistress wears apparently. 😂 I don’t know anything about yellow as another poster has added, just as long as it’s not too close to ivory/white I suppose? I love a good pastel for a wedding myself, or royal blue/navy. Of course there’s also the consideration to avoid the colours on the invitation so as not to inadvertently look like a bridesmaid!

God people are nuts, my mum tried a sample dress on, it was ivory and she looked amazing in it and does wear a lot of white. She wouldn't buy it despite my insistence because of what others might have thought, I couldn't care less about these things. No one is mistaking anyone else for the bride at a wedding.

What a shame OP, its a lovely dress.

This dress is beautiful, nicer than the original imo !

https://www.marksandspencer.com/doube-layer-lace-shift-dress/p/clp22583152?color=BLUE&extid=ps_ps-pla-pmax_ggl_ww_ch__-UK-_-_CrossBUStores&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22492993877&gbraid=0AAAAAD7g6bQhj1dxlhiqitzMeeCqoMXIg&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8vvABhCcARIsAOCfwwqU2Wgufy-vKsKITvjtKL4iL7sYEuLWaPlKXIgDOuW1n4VfSZ85iwsaAuLoEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

This one is a really similar fit and the colour should suit given the original.

I can’t understand why anyone who was MOB/G would wear anything remotely white/ivory to a traditional style wedding. Any kind of white is going to look like an odd choice. There’s so many other options out there!