Looking older than my age

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Age 53 with nasolabial folds and dryish skin. I have never really worn much make up and have been using a tiny amount of Bourgois gel foundation to even out my skin tone along with Olay retinol 24 night cream and Olay regenerist day cream. I have tried all sorts of moisturisers and foundations but I am feeling really low with how old I look and wondered if anyone could recommend some sort of tinted moisturiser or other product that could give me a bit of glow, I was on the point of ordering some trinny London BFF de-stress cream but that has mixed reviews and I can’t afford to waste money. I hate thick make up and would never consider fillers or Botox as I have a fear of needles and don’t have tons of money to spend on beauty. I do wonder if years of running have caused the sagging of my skin so know I mainly do cycling and gym classes. Any suggestions?

Oh do jog on.

I'm not batshit.

Ok.

Cunt.

Batshit.

Pouty.

MAD.

Words we use against women.

Old.

We use these words against ourselves.

I don't agree with them.

Which is why I always post a photo.

I use it as a charm against our hatred for ourselves.

I like;

Love

Acceptance

Joy.

These are good words to use against the world.

You can't go through life hating yourself.

Rosehip oil is wonderful for skin. Mine looks so different!
Consider changing your hair style. The wrong cut and colour can be very aging

@Sonant It makes no sense. You’re telling OP that you use a skin product and are posting a picture to show how you look, except the photo is with weird angles, lighting and pouting. You’re also telling women to accept themselves but feel the need to post photos that don’t show how you look day to day, that doesn’t seem like someone who is accepting. It would be more helpful to OP to show what your face looks like in normal conditions. Posters are saying things (not that I think lots of the comments are ok) because they know that you insert yourself on threads to say how fabulous you look, often when others are feeling down about their looks, like OP, and it doesn’t always come across well.

I don't get all this weird angles lighting and pouting stuff, yeah pouting but so? Other than that looks like a natural photo. Why the big deal about it ?

It's ok.

That poster is probably AI / ChatGPT. I doubt an actual human would be popping up odd photos like that.

Wut!!

C'mon.

I was doing that way before LLM.

Oh look, another photo taken at a weird angle and pouting that is actually quite blurry. 😂

N'owt wrong with that photo friend.

That's my point.

Always has been.

That's a glad woman in her 50s.

Yep. Tru dat.

Doll.

Narc.

Love it.

Poor OP having her thread derailed. I hope you have found some of the advice helpful OP.

I buy it online from a Spanish pharmacy, been doing that for years and have never had a problem. They aren't allowed to advertise it any more, so I just email them and it arrives within the week usually.

Similar age to you op. I use Tret from Dermatica. Rosehip oil from The Ordinary. Tinted moisturiser from Erborian is great for blurring, and helping skin even out. I won’t post a weird selfie, but the above do a pretty good job for me, lol.

@Sonant If that's using tretoin , I think I'll pass !

I'll stick to my £5 L'Oréal from B and M

I agree. I think you've been doing that for a very long time.
And you seem to have always been somewhere in your early 50s.

I used to be in my late 40s.

I'm now in my early 50s.

How did we all get here?

Madness.

Yes you definitely love the attention 😕. To think I got told off for mentioning it early on in the thread. I mean, who does that?

It's an Instagram sort of thing at best (worst) but on here?? Just a bit odd....

It won't do anything for sagging though will it.

I've been using it for ages but I am so wrinkly that the wrinkles are forming quicker than the tret would treat them. One of my cheeks has totally collapsed, I'm having polynucleotides and the doctor agrees the difference between the cheeks is amazing so it's not just me being down on myself! So if you have saggy wrinkly skin you have saggy wrinkly skin, it can be just genetics.

I don't do socials.

I don't love the attention (for tis mostly negative and I'm not a masochist).

I truly and always have liked myself and that's always been my point.

It's ok to think you're ok.

It's not a bad thing to like yourself.

Why shouldn't women like themselves?

And I will keep posting photos as I get into my 60s.

Because I think I'm alright.

I and want other women to do to. And if laughing at me and mocking me makes you feel better.

That. Is. Fine.

I want you to feel good.

And if it opens up a little hole in your heart that makes you reflect.

Then, that makes me happy.

I will keep making you look at me.

And you can keep saying bad things.

It is a screaming into the ether.

You have no reason to hate me.

You don't know me. I'm a person that's kind to their friends. And who likes herself.

And I do see that it's not ok to like yourself as a woman.

It's never been ok to like your womanhood.

Um, ok....

Good as it is, It won’t match Tretinoin for visible results.