I need a killer dress for day/night

[Maximusdecimus]

I’m a size 16, I’m going to a day thing that will go on into the night. Party vibes. I’m 49 so it’s a group going out for a 50th.

Budget is up to £150.

I carry my weight on my stomach so sometimes that goes into an 18 dependent on how hormonal I am.

Im going with a bunch of women where I constantly feel judged. I can’t not go. So need some help! It’s in October. Help!

OP why do you have to spend time with these people?

https://deadlyisthefemale.com/product/silver-sequin-claudia-gown/

Wear this if you wanna stick it to them judgemental witches.
Or give them something to talk about.

ooh I'm a 14/16 with weight on my stomach and that is my nemesis of a dress 😂clings right to my stomach as it juts out in front of me 😅

I agree, that 3rd one is fab and will
work in day and night

Because I’m related to them, that’s why unfortunately.

I’ll have a look at the suggestions but am not going to go with the grass skirt vibe if you don’t mind. 😂

Im 5’3, shoulder length brown hair. A bit pasty in the winter but not too pasty I can carry off a fake tan but don’t like to be too orange.

try scarlett and jo london..they have built in shapers to flatter and a few in velvet. The only thing is you will need to do is get it taken up,cos I am your height and they are all 5ft 10. Brilliant dresses I have a few.

I’m still dying of laughter at the green grass skirt

Has anyone stopped to wonder if the dress the previous poster has suggested is part of her culture and you're all laughing at it?

Nowhere in the OP does it state what ethnicity or culture OP is from but of course we can all assume she's white/british/American and find it hilarious.

Bit fucking racist rude.

It’s awful, no matter what

I second Kemmie Telford. Or scamp and dude? They do some really flattering maxi dresses with ruched top half.

@VivaLaResistance

Good point!

This was my thought too.

Amazed at how quickly the absolute behaviour started. On a thread about a dress.

I don’t think she’d take much persuading😁

Other cultures can still have dresses that look a bit bizarre as a choice to wear with people who are going to judge, as the OP has said.

Nasty, deluded, dim. It's giving Tattle. 👀

thandth.com/collections/bridesmaid-dresses/products/camilla-in-emerald

For goodness sake it would be like suggesting these dresses . Then of course she might be Austrian or Scottish. Any excuse ..

Completely off-topic- but why do you NEED to go? I have a friend who's doing this to herself, too, and feeling crap after these parties (with the same group of judgy friends) every single time.
You don't need to go and socialise with these people!
If you decide to go, look for something with a knot in front. I have added a link from Shein of an example of what you should be looking at. But, obviously , do not buy from Shein 😅

https://m.shein.co.uk/goods-p-37026349.html?goodsid=37026349&test=5051&scene=1&pf=google&addtype=DPA&language=en&siteuid=pwuk&landingpageeid=1510&adtesttid=765&gadsource=1&skucode=I938v38oxo3&onelink=0%2Fgoogleefeeduk&gclid=Cj0KCQjwtZK1BhDuARIsAAy2Vzvjk9L7KqkKjwiHZQF55GYrvVuWntgYaDN7vU0JEDsbdXmYB1C8LTIaAg9fEALwwwcB&requestId=507958188628639888&gbraid=0AAAAADm0yO5hFL2B4J-A7SVtR1AUdWkOs&currency=GBP&lang=en&urlfrom=sheinngoogleukadplaENNGPMpriceewomen_20240619&cid=20965759827

The fabrics have a very African vibe and the models are all African, but so what? The dress styles themselves are not traditional African costume, so no-ones 'culture' is being mocked. Seriously, you can't be racist against a horrible dress. It has something of the circus performer about it. I feel that woman should be standing up on a horse as it gallops in circles.

But given the African connection with the fabric, I'm only surprised someone hasn't demanded to know the OP's ethnicity and been sure to tell her that she should be wary of cultural appropriation. Not that she's going to pick that dress in a month of Sundays.

Does it need to be more formal or more modern, going out type vibe?

What about a body, jacket, trousers combo?

This Bodysuit from mannersldn looks great and can be worn with jeans or wide legged trousers. With a jacket or a floaty kimono type top. Which means you can do the day/night transition easily.

Or even just a simple black dress with a colourful cover up kimono or jacket - and then a new necklace/lipstick for the evening.

But it's about what makes you feel good - it might be a really nice pair of shoes (esska do lovely party shoes) - if you feel comfortable, you will feel much more confident.

Have a look on Vinted at things from Max Mara or Marina Rinaldi. I bet you can get a deal on a great party outfit there.

Going out vibe, think brunch into dancing.

How about something like this from Wolf and badger?

www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/on-the-vine-maxi-dress/

I have this dress but in black and red, and it's very flattering and sexy. Great with chunky boots.

That gold dress is in the category of dresses which if it were the only thing available, I'd stay at home. Nothing would make me wear that in public.