Fat girl summer - let's slay 💅

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So, for those of us who are chunky yet funky, what's the plan ladies?

Shall we give no fucks and wear nice comfy summery clothes or do we worry about keeping every inch of us covered head to toe in black until we sweat so hard we melt? What's the plan?

Currently a size 20/22 myself, unlikely to get down to a magical size 14 by July so I'm looking at the nice comfy looking linen pants, few maxi dresses, shorts because I'm a wee chubby pale rebel and to really go wild a jumpsuit or two.

Simply be has some lovely things at the moment including shoes, asos curve is looking alright and vinted is my best pal.

I'm 35 for a few more months and don't want to have another summer in my 30s hating my body, so this year I'm going to embrace it. Anyone with me?

Thanks so much for starting this thread, I was in dire need of it! Fellow fatty here, 46 and size 18-20....off to Florida for 2 weeks in July/August so desperate for summer style ideas! Rapidly reaching the not giving a shit stage so will be reaching for shorts and not caring if my legs look chubby and pasty! Any good swimwear recommendations would be gratefully received....

Great thread! I have been eyeing up some stuff on here for summer but was second guessing myself as like others here I'm used to hiding in leggings etc. But I'm off to order loads now!
Worth a look for anyone after some inspo they have some lovely stuff.

Over the last couple of years I have been buying these dresses - I now have 4!!

I am a 20/22 with G cup and I love love love that I don't have to wear a bra with these. They look great with a top or cardigan over the top for work & they are great for dancing & the beach too. I love just pulling a dress and underpants on in the morning & I'm ready for anything!

My black one is 2 years old now and still looks absolutely super duper.
https://www.mannersldn.com/collections/dresses/products/asri-dress-in-black

also I have 2 of these (green & black) and get comments every time I wear them.
https://thisisunfolded.com/products/sam-shirred-puff-sleeve-dress-black

all these dresses have POCKETS! and no polyester to be seen

Snags new swimwear range is in that odd crinkly fabric.

a cooler option is chamois cream - for cyclists. Lots of options on amazon. Its super effective and I'm only able to wear dresses since I discovered it. And since I discovered it I mostly wear dresses 😁

Florida looks incredible 😍

Sorry to hear you've had horrible comments. You are right though, why on earth would opinions of angry, obnoxious yucky men mean anything?

I've never had comments, it's all in my head. I was very slim, and was constantly reminded how attractive I was in my early 20s. The reason I cover up is because I'm scared of the "she's let herself go" comments, which is stupid as the only person to ever say that is me to myself. My thinking is if people never see my shape or skin, then they'll just assume I still look the same way.

I'm trying to embrace that while I'm not that stick thin, young and toned type of glamorous anymore, I'm now a more mature, womanly, (trying to be) confident, and stylish type of glamorous.

I've been out in York all day and seen all different shapes and sizes in bright colourful dresses, skirts, co-ords, women bigger than me in high waisted skirts and a crop. All look glowing, happy and nice. And here I am in black legging, a tunic and a cardigan (though saying that I am technically working so can't really wear a crop top) 🤣

Tomorrow I'm having some people round for drinks in garden. I'm gonna wear a dress and resist the urge to put a cardi on

Name changed as outing - but I’ve spent the past 2 weeks raving about the F and F plisse trousers. I’m technically not supposed to wear wide leg trousers as im short and fat but I’ve decided to F* flattering this summer and be comfy!

One worn them daily with body suits and cropped T-shirts telling myself I’m just like Winnie the Pooh letting it all hang out and if it’s good enough for him… 😳🤣

How do you get enough confidence to say fuck it though cuz I hate my arms and legs and I just can't bring myself to not cover them. My work uniform sucks because the polo shirts are tight and my bingo wings are flapping out and I hate it. I wish I could just not care but after years of being told I should cover up by my family I just can't break the conditioning😭.

The last sentence made me laugh

I'm about a 22/26 depending on fit and last year I bought some black/daisy print wide leg trousers from Yours and they were really comfy. DH said they suited me (out of the blue he never comments on my clothes).
I also got some cream and black wide leg trousers from Morrisons size 22 which I wear all the time. They're my new favourite thing.
If a thing fits and looks ok from the front I don't worry about my massive arse.

Seconding Manners London for quality, supportive Lycra jersey. You have to roll with the over familiar ‘hey babe!’ marketing though..😂

Wow that Manners London site is fantastic, thanks so much for the link.

I have a very toxic mother when it comes to appearance. I've found wearing what she deems appropriate around her and wearing things I like when I won't see her works for me. I dont think you can break the conditioning when its your family, we're just designed to seek their approval.

I hate seeing my mum if I've styled my hair differently or i'm wearing colourful lipstick or something I wouldn't wear around her as she's extremely rude about it and wrecks the experience of even trying something new. It's hell if she catches me off guard and I bump into her and I'm wearing something she's never seen before. I usually end up donating it to the local red Cross afterwards out of frustration.

I feel you pal, its tough 💐

Thank you, it is tough, she doesn't really comment on what I wear, just my size, a few summers ago I was wearing black shorts&a cotton shirt to go walking and she said god look at those legs, put them away no wants to see those and I haven't worn shorts since i'm even bigger now than I was then too. My husband and my kids always tell me I look great, but I just can't believe them because it's so ingrained that i'm disgusting. I hope you have an amazing summer❤️!

Fellow fatty here. Finally realising, at 46, that I may be fat, but I'm not ugly. And i deserve to feel.happy and confident in the clothes I like.

Summer faves are linen style pants, a couple of good throw on dresses.that I can wear wherever. This year I'm making an effort to find some.tsthirts I like, I love shirts tucked into my pants, but struggle with t-shirts. I'm a fan of black dresses and large shades, a red lip and a large tote. Love to pretend I'm a chic french lady. Who just happens to be short, fat and blonde. But who cares?

I'm also going for shorts this year, I just need.to decidee which, and find a good self tan...

@Seaside3 you've inspired me! Picked up a black dress from Fat Face today. Will def dig out the red lipstick and shades to wear with it! My current summer wardrobe is definitely bleurgh but I'm working on it.

It's a lot when others tell you horrible judgements about yourself.

Time to practice some radical self acceptance. I spent years covering my "hideous unsightly" upper arms etc. No more. They are my arms & I love them. I love them more with a bit of a tan.

Every time one of those thoughts come to you, tell it to fuck off & tell yourself something nice about yourself.

Most of this body loathing are merely thought in our head. Just thoughts. It's not you & not who you are. You are the one listening to the thoughts.

Work on valuing yourself, wobbly arms & all. It is work but things can change.

Taking up sea swimming has been amazing. I can swim & hang out in the beach with all kinds of people in my sz 22 swimsuit & rarely give it a second thought now. I doubt anyone else does either but if they do it's nothing to do with me. We cannot concern ourselves with thoughts in other peoples heads. 💜

Wow that Manners London site is fantastic, thanks so much for the link.

You are welcome. I don't usually spend that much on a dress (I like to make my own clothes when I can) but I am very addicted to these & they are absolutely good value per wear. I wore my new one last night (the pink/red one) & my teen daughters thought I looked amazing as did the friends I met. Most importantly I loved wearing it.

Small woman led business too. And while thick jersey might not sound very cool it is down to the swishy design and no bra.

The "petite" sizes are same size but shorter.

inspired to buy a dress from asda
i have been buying dresses lately, as i was pleased with a couple i bought last year, but cannot reproduce this pleasure so far, touch wood this will be ok

I am a size 20 and doubt I will lose much before summer. I do try!!

I got two tops from Amazon - I think they are linen - 1 pink 1 green and two pair of those floaty printed trousers which will be great for hotter days. I am embracing colour now but being careful not to go down the 'Art teacher/Children's presenter look. I also got a coral sleeveless top and a white cardi in Roman in the sale. I would buy much more from there if they weren't obsessd with bloody viscose!

Love this thread!

Let's talk chub rub shorts. My snags are 5 years old and getting tatty. Should I buy snags again or is there an alternative brand?

I've tried lube creams before but not been comfortable

Like others have said I really need this thread. I am a size 12/14 (I am petite and obese)*. A couple of years ago I got down to a much smaller size, and was getting loads of compliments which suddenly stopped when I gained weight again, making me feel as though I look horrendous. I saw pictures of myself done up the other day and I look different to how I used to but I certainly don't look awful. When I look around my area I see women of all shapes and sizes and they all look amazing because they've made the effort.

I have bought some really lovely summer dresses and plan to wear them. I am not one for covering myself up. I feel that larger women look particularly great in halter necks because they show your shoulders and accentuate a larger breast and make you look really feminine.

*I have a feeling that if weight tables didn't label me obese (I always hear "a beast") that I would feel much better about myself.

There are some linked upthread, I bought them yesterday on offer £17 for 3 pairs they are currently 5 stops away so i'll let you all know.

After reading this thread I ordered 2 new pairs of shorts yesterday too.

I feel ok when I go out until I see my reflection in a window or a picture that one of the kids has taken then I feel disgusted. Last summer I wore a beautiful beetlejuice inspired black and white striped dress, felt nice, went to play on the beach with my granddaughter and my daughter took pictures, when I saw them I cried, I just can't get past hating everything about my appearance. I'm 44 now and don't think I will ever like anything about the way I look.