Wedding - colour code for guests…?!

[BigGlassOfWine]

Have just received a wedding invitation, and it’s got an actual colour chart (ivory, beige and various shades of green) as dress code attached. Lovely people, but I fear they have let themselves be talked into it by the wedding planner…
are colour codes a Thing these days?
I really don’t like the idea of buying a dress I won’t wear again, green doesn’t suit me 😝

Or Princess Fiona

I don't support utter nonsense so I would decline the invitation.

Beige and ivory are very odd choices.

Some friends of ours got married a few years ago and said that if guests wore something pink or yellow they would donate £5 to charity. Pink for breast cancer and yellow for CF. Both bride and groom had family members with those conditions.

It was made absolutely clear on the invite that this was optional, and could be something tiny (yellow earrings, pink socks etc). As it happened I was wearing yellow shoes to go with my dress, and DH wore a multi colour tie that had pink in it. They raised quite a lot of money.

I think it's really rude to insist guests wear a particular colour as their main dress/suit. Also, thee are so many shades of green and many of them clash. I suit most greens but not yellowy greens. There's a huge difference between mint green and olive green, or. bright green, or bottle green.

How is everyone attired in a choice of three rather dull colours remotely like going to a dress up party?? I would think it the complete opposite of "fun".

I wouldn't get "worked up" as MN loves to say, I'd just wear whatever I like. I'd never buy beige or green clothing. Even if it was for "cultural " reasons. People badge up all manner of shite as culture to get people to comply.

I would roll my eyes and have a bit of a chuckle about it with my family but would probably go along with it. Love green though. If it was yellow or pink I might decline!

Are we sure they’re the colours they want you to wear as opposed to being ones you may want to avoid as the wedding party will be in those colours? I know I’ve wondered before what the colour scheme might be so I can avoid inadvertently matching! Just a thought. Obviously if it says ‘wear these colours’ that’s somewhat different!

Mental.

While it's true that there is a shade of green for everyone - they're going to look dreadful all mixed together in the photos. Forest, lime, kelly and aqua greens all stood together? I think that'd be visually worse than just a mixture of random party dresses.

Note: this is not to encourage the bride to update the demand that everyone wear a particular shade of green.

I think colour coordinated/themed weddings are lovely as long as not too strict but you can bet there'll always be one guest who deliberately says "stuff that 😆" My cousin had a black/white theme so my aunt (mother if the groom) wore turquoise! At my intimate destination wedding I wore a blue dress, my husband and dad wore grey suits and blue ties but my mum wore pink!

I'm with @OchonAgusOchonOh and @NewName24.

Weddings aren't just about the photos and nor should they be just all about the couple getting married.

I don't particularly want to be in wedding photos anyway.

Besides, wishy washy beige and ivory are not fun colours, and green doesn't suit everyone.

In fairness I did wear a green and cream coloured dress to the last wedding I went to, but it was my choice.

I've been to tons of UK weddings & never once been informed what colour theme the bridal party will be wearing?

I've got one coming up. No black suits for men. Women to wear 'spring colours, hats and feathers encouraged'.
Accompanied by poem asking for money for honeymoon instead of a gift.

Very entitled and silly. What if guests can’t afford a new outfit?

Sometimes you know from the invite or what you hear. I didn’t mean it as in you are explicitly told what to avoid but I know in some other countries you find out what the colour is to try and match it which is not normal in the uk.

We let the wedding party know our ‘colour theme’ beforehand so they could choose something that fit in to wear, but I’ve (thankfully) never see it done for all the guests before. I think as long as you’re not in black or white, you’re good, tbh. If the colour of the photos matter that much, offer not to be in them.

I have it in good authority (my mum), green is considered unlucky as it's reserved for the fairies. Or pixies. And you won't want to upset them!

Depending on numbers, with such a specific colour scheme I'd be worried about people turning up in the same outfit that they've had to buy just for this wedding. I'd go in black tbh it's neutral, maybe with green/beige accessories

Why do people even have guests if they are going to treat them so badly?

How rude, expecting people to buy something specially when they might own perfectly good outfit already. DH has one formal suit for weddings and it's navy. No way would we be shelling out for a new suit.

Why on earth would any decent person want to make people they care about feel uncomfortable? Thankfully nobody in my circle is so self centred that they would expect people to go to the unnecessary expense of buying something they may never wear again and while it is their special day, would always consider the comfort of their guests.

🤣 tempting!!

they are odd colours for the guests, the last wedding I went to said DON’t wear ivory, champagne or pale blue as those are the wedding party colours. Being asked TO wear traditionally bridal party colours is really odd

This is mental. I find the “black or white” ott but at least people tend to own clothes in those colours.

Most people want their wedding to go well. What is the point of throwing a big, expensive party only to annoy your guests before they have even arrived? People have to go to an awful lot of weddings during their late 20’s/30’s and it does mean that people get a bit jaded. I think brides/grooms get egged on by others who have done similar themselves and who don’t want to be the only demanding ones!

I'd wear whatever I liked... but maybe some green knickers.
Just so I could say I was going with the theme, not necessarily for the photos tho 😉