Wedding - colour code for guests…?!

[BigGlassOfWine]

Have just received a wedding invitation, and it’s got an actual colour chart (ivory, beige and various shades of green) as dress code attached. Lovely people, but I fear they have let themselves be talked into it by the wedding planner…
are colour codes a Thing these days?
I really don’t like the idea of buying a dress I won’t wear again, green doesn’t suit me 😝

I could maybe get on board with requesting guests wear bright colours. That gives loads of colour choices and the chances are everyone has something colourful they could wear. However, I wouldn’t be buying an outfit in a colour that doesn’t suit me for a wedding.

A colour chart, like one of those paint charts you get from B&Q? 😆

Do they mean the whole attire or an added accessory in that colour? None of those colours would be very flattering for me.

I'm struggling to understand why it would be 'fun'.

I wouldn't be going to a wedding in ivory or beige, and I wouldn't send a gift either! Such tosh.

Aaah, I think the big group wedding photos with lots of different colours look lovely.

As an aside, I went to a wedding recently where a group of four or five of the bride's friends who weren't bridesmaids all wore (particularly beautiful) dresses in exactly the same shade of red which I can't believe was coincidence... 🤨

It’s been many years since I first heard of this and the wedding was “elegant tan”. I did a big fat eye roll.

Unless I really loved the bride or groom, I’d give any wedding with too many demands a pass.

I did once attend a wedding with an optional roarin 20s theme and that was fun. A lot of women wore flapper dresses with boas and beads etc.

DH is colour blind. I would just wear what the fuck I wanted and claim he chose the outfit.

A frigging colour chart. Who are these people and what way does their brain work?

I wouldn't attend.

I do not take instructions from bridzellas with notions.

I couldn't deal with the ridiculousness either.

Oooh, or Tinkerbell. Maybe Robin Hood.

I think it sounds fun

This !!!

This.

I've never been invited to such nonsense. If I weren't that close, I'd just decline. If it were someone really close (and fortunately, I don't think I know anyone who would do this), then they'd be close enough for me to talk to them about it. I'd tell them I don't suit beige (or 'champagne' or ivory or peach or any other insipid lack of colour) and I wasn't prepared to go out and spend money on a new dress I would never wear again because someone has convinced them it would look good. So I'd ask them what they are going to do about people who turn up wearing other nice clothes ? Are there bouncers turning people away ?

My SIL not only had a colour theme but a selection of dresses I could choose from (this was for family not all guests). It was awful, I am not small, 2 were strapless and 2 had sold out and 1 wasn't in my size. I refused to wear strapless and chose my own (in her colour theme) my transgression is still snarkily referred to.

It's like going to a dress up party. I guess it adds to the event doing something a bit different. Unless you're a miserable old c**t

Well aren't you lovely. So your idea of "fun" is the only acceptable one and anyone with a different viewpoint is "a miserable old c**nt". Agist as well as misogynistic.

That’s just really bonkers! I’m sure this bride won’t be changing her mind at least. Meanwhile I am looking on Vinted for one of the prescribed shades of green … definitely not buying new for this wedding!

I think you made a sensible choice, and hope they can get over it!

Majority on here are always miserable about weddings, no matter what it is, I don't even know how these people get invited to them

It’s my favourite cousin, and an opportunity to see lots of family together that has most recently come together at funerals… so definitely going. I’ve decided to just put up with the silliness and look for something on Vinted or in charity shops. I’m not going to be the centre of attention, so it doesn’t matter too much what I wear, as long as it’s not something I actually hate 😂

They wouldn't allow you in the photos.

In fairness, must people are not thrilled at the idea of being forced to do/wear something they're not comfortable with or that doesn't suit them. But that obviously makes them miserable old cunts in your world.

Yes because generally we make exceptions for people we care about for their special day. It's not all about us.

Absolutely @OchonAgusOchonOh

Not wanting to be forced to spend good money dressing up in something you are going to look awful in doesn't equal being a "miserable old cunt".

I love weddings - although, I have to say I am generally invited to really lovely weddings, and I've never been invited to be a prop in a backdrop of someone's 'image' of what they want their guests to look like.

Your comment literally proves my point 🤣 Even that you feel that you are a 'prop', what's wrong if it's for their photos ... you know that capture the memories for a life time. What's the big deal, lighten up. (I don't have instagram BTW so I equally don't care about this and also think it's a bit silly but couldn't get worked up about it and as PP it probably will be a bit of fun).

Paint yourself green and go as Shrek, you know you want to …