Wedding - colour code for guests…?!

[BigGlassOfWine]

Have just received a wedding invitation, and it’s got an actual colour chart (ivory, beige and various shades of green) as dress code attached. Lovely people, but I fear they have let themselves be talked into it by the wedding planner…
are colour codes a Thing these days?
I really don’t like the idea of buying a dress I won’t wear again, green doesn’t suit me 😝

Perhaps. I'm not exactly a spring chicken myself though.
Love sage green as a wall colour.

Irish fairies aren't exactly of the Tinkerbell variety of course. You wouldn't want to draw them on you 😉

Thanks for all the responses! It’s family, so I can’t/don’t want to dodge, am mostly bemused as my cousin (the groom) is pretty laid back and his fiancée doesn’t strike me as the bridezilla type, I think they’ve just let the wedding planner (oh yes 😛) run away with things.
Will trawl the charity shops for a dress, there’s time till June 🤞🏻

I'm a compliant type so would go along with it if I had to wanted to go, but it wouldn't do a lot for my opinion of the couple. I've had plenty of friends who only have one 'wedding' outfit and was in that position myself for some years (I had a lovely Nitya outfit i got on sale which I wore to nine weddings in a row). Trying to control other people's choices for something so unbelievably trivial is a bit rank tbh.

My grandmother (Irish Catholic) wore green to my wedding over 30 years ago. Mind you, she had English blood (her father) and they had serious notions, so may not have been au fait with traditional piseogs (superstitions).

I think it’s normal in some countries. In the uk you would normally try and avoid the wedding colour if you’re not in the party but I think elsewhere it is expected that everyone tries to wear something (tie etc) that matches.

I wouldn’t try and necessarily get a dress in the colour but maybe see if you can incorporate it somewhere in your outfit/ accessories.
i imagine it would look a bit strange for all the women to wear the same colour dress and risk of duplicates would be high

I think it is really rude.

Weddings are for the Bride and Groom, but they should be making sure their guests have a good time, not imposing ridiculous stipulations on them.

if the men can wear black, I'd be tempted to wear black and accessorise with a bit of green

for pp who said there's a shade of green for everyone: nope. It makes me look like a zombie. I love green but i just can't wear it.

I remember a very funny thread from some years back, I think about a Bridezillas invitation/FB where she had outfit requirements for thin vs fat guests and possibly a dance they had to learn. She had a fit when it was leaked

If it was for cultural reasons etc. I'd absolutely agree to do it.

Otherwise, not a chance. All we asked at our wedding was casual attire and explained why that was important to us.

Those are my colours. Can I swap? I’ve been invited to a wedding with a dress code of ‘rainbow bright colours’. I hate bright colours.

I will absolutely not wear wishy washy ivory or beige. Green is my colour, but if it wasn't I would just wear what suited me and just accessorize with the colours that the bridezilla demanded.

I don't want to be in someone's TikTok or Instagram photos anyway.

Those are going to be some sad sludgy wedding photos.

I’ve heard it all now, I thought wedding gift lists were tacky but now to demand certain colours are worn is taking the piss.,

I certainly wouldn’t be buying an outfit in a colour I wasn’t comfortable in. I’m not a bright or light coloured outfit person. If men can wear black then so can you, then accessorise it in their chosen colour.

last wedding I went to I wore black dress with rose gold accessories eg bag. Shoes, jewellery,

I hate this kind of wedding dictatorship.

I think it should be about making your guests comfortable and creating something that people want to attend.

But I know these days it's all about the photos or seems to be.

Well where I grew up green is considered unlucky and doubly so at weddings. So I expect they will get divorced!

My SIL tried this around 25 years ago, or rather it was her fiancé's idea. It was her second wedding, which made it seem all the more unreasonable given that we'd had to cough up for presents, wedding outfits etc once already. So we ignored it.

FWIW, it didn't last and she's on husband no. 3 now.

I would be tempted to find a neon green dress, proper fluorescent!

Do you like black then? As you say the men are allowed to wear black, if you like black, you could 'go as a man' for the day. THAT would be interesting, yes? 😂

They sound like bellends, sorry.

I wear green clothes but wouldn’t touch beige. It’s also unlikely many men own suits of any of those colours.

Any bride/groom that doesn’t give a shit that they are probably causing guests to have to spend money on a new outfit is a tosser.

I went to a colour coded one recently and it was nice. Everyone looked amazing and the pictures were beautiful.
It’s their special day after all, maybe they are just trying to include everyone in the theme rather than just have the wedding party?
This seems to be in at the moment, it was all hog roasts and take your own Polaroid pics when I got married 🤣

I think it's an utterly crap idea

I'm all for not wearing black to weddings, or white (or for some cultures, red) but dictating to your guests what else they can can't wear out of the whole rainbow of other colours is very naff (or perhaps, in MN speak, controlling).

If I was marginal about attending, then this might be enough to tip me in to not going (especially if the B&G had form for being self-centred and inconsiderate in other areas of life).

But if it was someone I liked and was usually considerate (and, well, normal) then I'd suck it up. Partly because I do own a green dress (and it would just have to do, even if it doesn't exactly match)

But they do risk someone like my DMum, who was buying a cushion for us for our newly decorated blue/yellow sitting room. It was pink - "oh, but it's got blue in it" - yes, a tiny stripe! I wouldn't do that on purpose, but I reckon there'd be people who would.

I might be wrong but the men wear normal suits and just match the tie?
You could wear a plain colour dress and just match the headpiece or bag? I think you are all overthinking this 🤣

Surely you can find something in a day glo lime green

But weddings aren't all about the photos. Anyone who thinks they are have their priorities wrong.