What do you wear to look understated sexy in your 40s or 50s?

[Allwelcone]

Basically after an updated version of a previous thread from 2021. There, recomendations were about skinny jeans, silk camis, cashmere jumpers and heels.

Just wondering if things have moved on, the young 'uns seem to wesr more comfort driven androgynous styles nowadays but I'm getting ancient so don't understand if they're exactly 'sexy'.

Hiw do you tread that line?

😂
Not even the ones with a toilet flap?

phwarrr

@Laiste is sexiness is in the eye of the beholder or the wearer?
Does a (sexy) tree falling in the woods still fall if no one hears it?😃

Why would a tree need to feel sexy? Can't a simple tree even exist any more outside the male gaze?!

Down with the pa-tree-archy!

@WhenWereYouUnderMe 💯
if it makes your man get wood....

@Allwelcone 👏👏👏

Placemarking

Right I have a tangential question: what constitutes sexy mid-40s hair? I'm getting mine done this weekend and am BORED of my middle parting shoulder length brown hair with bangs...

@WhenWereYouUnderMe are bamgs a fringe? I've always regretted that when I've had one as it's basically only one style, would growing it out be a massive pita?
Ask your hairdresser maybe?

hair goals

Ooh that is gorgeous! I have curls today but my hair is not convinced about it 😁

bisexual woman here so maybe a different view on looking sexy in older women - though not necessarily clothes:

Looks sexy:

• good skin
• showing some skin, e.g. neck, collarbone, wrists, ankles
• a genuine smile
• twinkle in the eye
• soft fabrics e.g. silk and cashmere
• crows feet when you smile
• good teeth
• dressing a bit more formally
• Clothes that fit
• Putting some thought into what you wear, e.g. not wearing a black parka with a shiny silk scarf

Looks unsexy

• ill-fitting clothes that belong to when you were slimmer, or are not properly altered
• Clothes that are unflattering, show lumps and bumps etc when you should have worn a size bigger
• resting bitch face
• hoodies and leggings
• unkempt hair
• dirty shoes
• dressing in childish colors or patterns
• dungarees
• Lining the insides or your eyes
• dark/matte lipstick on thin lips
• overlined lips
• overfileld lips
• poor skin or showing too much skin

@LoraPiano agree with all of that! Particularly thebtwonkle, its an attitude thing lore than anything else