Cream lace mini dress, at a wedding…

[SummaLuvin]

I went to a gay (men) wedding recently and noticed a woman there wearing this dress. She looked really fabulous in it. But is it acceptable to wear this to a wedding? Even one with no bride?
https://www.harveynichols.com/self-portrait/crystal-embellished-lace-mini-dress-958059-crem-cream-157633/

Definitely not acceptable for a wedding. Aside from it being cream lace (!) it's too short.

Wedding guests should look nice but nobody should be showing lots of skin, wearing white/cream, or anything totally show-stopping. Attention should be on the couple, not their guests.

I think it’s fine. Why do you want to wear one the same to someone’s wedding, or just have a go.

Wearing white/cream is fine at a wedding for two men IMO. I think it’s structured enough to get away with the mini aspect too.

That's an interesting question. I'd play it safe and wouldn't, but I can see the case for saying it wouldn't matter.

I was honestly just shocked, when planning my own outfit I had stuck to usual rules of etiquette and hadn't considered that without a bride it might be different. I first saw her seated so couldn't even see it was short until I saw her again at the bar. I adore little white dresses in warm months, so it does make me think about upcoming gay weddings and if I might be able to wear one, as I know it's something I will get loads of wear out of on holidays!

Honestly the angst on here it’s silly about wedding rules. It was two gay men, I’m sure she looked lovely. She certainly wasn’t upstaging a bride, and there is no issue with its length. I’ve no idea why anyone would be shocked

It would be fine at some weddings, not at others. Personally I would not have cared a jot if a guest had worn that at my wedding 🤷‍♀️

Me neither and I’m female. I can’t imagine thinking someone in that dress was upstaging me or showing too much leg. I’d just be glad they came, and hope they enjoyed themselves

I think it's fine, it's a very beautiful dress.

I saw someone wearing a very much shorter dress at a friend's funeral, barely covered her behind. I did think that was a bit disrespectful.

Maybe she checked with the people who matter... The grooms?

Can't believe anyone thinks that's appropriate for a wedding!

It doesn't matter that it was a gay wedding, it's very attention seeking.

Why do you care? The wedding has been, you said so yourself she looked fabulous and I’m sure the grooms had the best day. Why are you making it an issue for yourself after the fact?

So what, perhaps one of the grooms suggested it. I really don't get the angst over what others wear

It’s a bit of a weird choice

attention seeking! I’ve heard it all now. It’s a cream lace dress. There is nothing attention seeking about it, you’d think the op posted a scarlet slashed dress, cut to the naval

How is it attention seeking?!

Fine for a gay wedding. It does look very short.

No. It will stand out in the photos. You need to try and blend in not be the glaring white/cream object

I find in "can I wear this to a wedding?" threads I'm (oddly) drawn to Harry and Megan's wedding guests to check if whatever the offending item is appeared there.

Previously pashminas, cream and pale dresses and short skirts have all appeared.

As for "attention seeking" - well I suppose if you were really uptight about it then 99% of the guests. I'm posting this link not because I think it's "attention seeking" but because it's a fabulous dress. Why shouldn't a wedding guest not wear a fabulous dress?

Orange dress at Megan's wedding

It's no more "attention seeking" than any other wedding guest outfit.

Exactly this.

It's a cream, lace and very short.

At a party, sure. At a wedding, no. Can't believe this needs to be explained...

Well you'll have to explain it to me. I can't see what possible objection there is to that dress at a wedding with no bride.

The objection re photo makes absolutely no sense at all. Nor does the "blend in" stuff.

In the real world, wearing a cream lacy dress to a wedding is a no go and the vast majority of people are aware of this. If someone does wear a dress like that, other guests will notice and pass comment.

It’s not just that it’s cream, lacy and too short to be appropriate for a wedding, it also looks like something a toddler would wear. I think adult women in twee little dresses like that look ridiculous.

That orange dress is in a completely different league @IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle