Cream lace mini dress, at a wedding…

[SummaLuvin]

I went to a gay (men) wedding recently and noticed a woman there wearing this dress. She looked really fabulous in it. But is it acceptable to wear this to a wedding? Even one with no bride?
https://www.harveynichols.com/self-portrait/crystal-embellished-lace-mini-dress-958059-crem-cream-157633/

@lunepremiere79 I personally wouldn't wear it - too short and strappy for my tastes for a formal occasion. But I think styled with black accessories - say a short structured jacket, black shoes and a black hat or decorative hairband it will look very nice and not at all bridal.

I think everyone on the thread is missing the point - the dress is totally hideous and twee.

Yuck!! Hate the bow at the front - horrible.

I think that I would still ask the couple getting married if it was ok just to be polite but it’s a stunning dress.

@littleblackcat27 I strongly disagree! It’s beautiful.

A gay wedding by it's very nature is not very traditional. I'm sure this could easily extend to a more flexible dress code.

I have been around a hell of a lot longer than MN too.
And it definitely isn't a thing in any of the social circles I have ever moved in. It was never a thing before the Internet.
Every wedding I have ever attended, the focus has been on the couple getting married, not making cat's bum faces about guests deemed to have transgressed some unwritten rule.

@Ellmau it would be over my knees. Must I cover my ankles??

You must be exceptionally short. The dress is 34" from shoulder to hem. Add another 10" for an average head and say another foot from below the knee to the floor, that would make you about 4 1/2 foot tall.

Times have changed, there is no such thing as a “standard wedding”, no such thing as a “standard wedding dress” and, in addition, as you cite here, men can marry men and women can marry women 🌈.

I have been to 2 gay weddings, one male, one female. The male one was very flamboyant and colourful to the extreme, the women’s one more sombre, with both brides in long dresses

So, l think the dress depends on the type of wedding. If you are a guest talk to those getting married. If it’s your wedding, it’s your day. Go for what you want.

It absolutely was a thing before the Internet, I remember older family members talking about it.

It's something that has come up for discussion several times in my own friend groups (we're in our 30s and early 40s). Some wouldn't care, some absolutely would. I tend to think its something you just don't risk, you have literally every other colour under the sun to choose from.

For those people who say not wearing white or cream at a wedding has always been frowned upon I was watching a TV programme featuring two weddings . Half the guests are wearing light coloured dresses some are white or cream with flowers, some women are wearing white jackets and one woman is wearing a white dress and jacket.
The programme is set in the 90s. No comments are made about what the guests are wearing.

In the 80s and 90s, as a child, I attended various weddings and I remember adults being disapproving when women were wearing white dresses. I asked about why you shouldn't do that. I daresay that many brides don't care but it has definitely been a thing for a long time. Kate Middleton got some flack when the pale yellow she wore to H&M's wedding photographed as white in some outdoor pics.

You're free not to care about the etiquette, or to think it's stupid or outdated, but to claim it doesn't exist and Is Not A Thing is daft. You shouldn't wear red to a Hindu wedding as a guest either.

I remember my mother wearing a white dress with a black pattern to a wedding when I was a child, nearly 50 years ago. She was heavily pregnant, and didn’t personally have a lot of options. I remember the discussions she had with my grandmother (her MIL) about its suitability, and they decided between them that it was very much not “bride-like” so it would be appropriate.

Their concern was for the couple getting married - my mother would not have wanted to upset them. Her concern was not that people might make a “cat’s bum face” at her. 🙄

Edited, because I originally said nearly 40 years. It was nearly 50.

Yes it’s about wearing ALL white/ cream dress when a bride is part of the wedding not two grooms in suits.

Oh no, that's fine. It must be the angle or something in the pic, it looked a LOT shorter :)

@Ellmau

ehen you click through the photos there is at least one from the back making it look indecently short, but the models legs are impossibly long too. I'm 4'11, it woukd cover my knees, but not most people's!

personally I think the style of dress is hideous for an adult, perfect in a 3 yo.

I'd look like a table lamp in it 😂

@CharlotteBog

What are you playing at? I know how tall I am. I said I'm short. I also know my proportions. I'm 4'11 as it happens.