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Does anyone want to come on my Upper and Lower Bleph and Necklift journey with me?

403 replies

CollagenQueen · 17/10/2023 08:13

Having it done this Saturday. I booked it about 10 weeks ago, after dithering for a year or two. I'm almost 54 years old. Eek!

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Threewheeler1 · 19/10/2023 14:14

CollagenQueen · 19/10/2023 12:03

AgnesX I used to feel very attractive, and I just feel quite hideous these days. I don't want to keep feeling like this. It's as simple as that really. I just don't feel myself.

I recognise this feeling!
Definitely watching your progress Queen! x

Ohnanawhatsyourname · 19/10/2023 16:32

Same!!! To the point I’ve been avoiding seeing friends, I’m so uncomfortable/ ashamed with how I look :/ if anyone else said that I’d be horrified and tell them that looks mean so little… but here I am almost house-bound and looking ill (yes, people assume I am ill…)

Ohnanawhatsyourname · 19/10/2023 16:33

Anyway keeping fingers crossed for you and can’t wait to see the after photos (if you do them!) xxxx

Peacelily001 · 19/10/2023 16:47

Ooh, following OP!
Wishing you the best of luck 🍀
Looking forward to the ‘after’ photos, I’m sure it’ll be well worth it x

CollagenQueen · 19/10/2023 16:58

Thanks everyone. I promise to post the after pics. As per a PP (Ohnanawhatsyourname), I was getting to the point of not actually wanting to go out anymore. I don't go out a lot anyway, but felt very much like not feeling excited to go out, when I felt so unattractive. I know that's vain, but I'll be the first person to admit, that I am vain! The jowls, the eye bags, the double chin.....I just have to try something to find my old self, as drastic as this probably is. The children are grown up, this is something just for me.

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madeinmanc · 19/10/2023 17:48

Did the surgeon ask you your opinion on how much to lift or is it more a case of listening to his/her judgement?

RaspberryCloud · 19/10/2023 17:58

Hope it all goes well Smile

notapizzaeater · 19/10/2023 18:17

Watching with interest, I'm thinking of having my lids done I'm trying a LED face mask and a HIFU wand on my Jowls, which I've started daily this week

Efacsen · 19/10/2023 18:18

Good luck

Freetodowhatiwant · 19/10/2023 18:25

Good luck! I really hope it gives you the confidence you need. I am doing botox and fillers but quite fancy a tummy tuck :)

SnakeyS · 19/10/2023 18:30

Good luck Op. Really interested to see how it goes.

Farmageddon · 19/10/2023 18:55

CollagenQueen · 17/10/2023 11:40

I really hope it just turns back the clock, so I look like I used to.

Good luck OP, I'm sure everything will go great. The first few days of recovery may be hard but it will be worth it in the end.

I think there is a misconception that people who get facelifts and other surgeries are trying to look like the kardashians or will end up looking really fake or something, but like you said most people just want to look like themselves as they remember from a few years ago, and feel better about themselves.

wheresmyshoe · 19/10/2023 18:57

Wishing you all the best and watching with interest as my jowls and double chin get worse by the week!

MumUndone · 19/10/2023 19:11

@CollagenQueen I hope this isn't a rude question - I'm asking out of interest and not judgement in any way - but I was wondering, has your neck area worsened due to weight gain, or have you stayed the same weight and it's more related to general aging process?

bellac11 · 19/10/2023 19:11

Im so interested in this. I have lost a lot of weight and still have a couple of stone/one stone to go but my face has fallen off itself!! My god Ive never seen so much flab. The fat was holding my face up!!

Although as soon as I entered peri menopause about 4 years ago, I really lost the freshness in my face, the picture differences are stark

So Im really interested in a neck lift at the very least but am really worried about how to choose where you go, the money it would cost and if it goes wrong theres no disgusing your face.

I would worry about the surgeon recommending further procedures because of course its in their interest for the client to sign up to more, and pay more......

I wonder what a face look would do in terms of eyes though, I dont want a different face, squinty eyes, stretched mouth, I just want the face I had about 10 years ago

CollagenQueen · 20/10/2023 11:22

To answer some questions.

I requested a neck lift and upper and lower bleph. I had a virtual consult with a Dr (not my surgeon) who agreed that was what was needed. But as time went on, (and I watched more videos), I started to wonder whether I had asked for the right thing!

I watched one video of a Dr in USA, saying how a lot of his patients wish they had done X,Y,Z after the fact, which got me thinking that maybe the surgeon should be telling me what he thinks I need (with his expertise).

This led to a phone convo with him on Tuesday, and I think we will sit down together in the morning and discuss before getting started.

For eg. I asked for the neck lift, which I know I need, but will this address the downturned mouth? Answer is, no, so there may be additional tweaking needed.

I only want to be in his chair once - unless it's 15 years later. So need to get this right.

Regards weight gain, I'm sure this has made my neck worse, and lipo might be needed in that area tomorrow. But even if I got back to my goal weight (10 stone), I know that I would have a turkey neck, because I can see the crinkly skin that seems to tether of a bit in the middle.

Defo don't want to look like a Kardashian, lol. I would love to just look like I have wiped out the ageing that's happened over the last 5-10 years.

I used to feel quite attractive, but feel anything but these days.

I feel like I'm being pushed along this path by an imaginary force. Sounds super weird, but I've felt like this before in my life when I've been making big decisions - when I got divorced, for eg. And I've always felt as though it's my Nanna behind me. Last night I dreamt that she was here and we were dancing and she was twirling me around. I think she's with me. Sounds crazy, I know!!

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CollagenQueen · 20/10/2023 11:28

I had a call this morning confirming everything. I have to be there by 9.30am, and the Op is at 10am. So, we will leave here at 8am for the drive. DH is going to get some sandwiches for the car.

Just to touch on the weight thing again, as I'm aware that the photo's I've posted look like I'm super heavy, not helped as I'm looking down which makes the double chin look worse!

My weight a few months ago was 12st 3. I've been dieting and it's now about 11st 3. My goal is maybe 10st 5.

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Threewheeler1 · 20/10/2023 17:50

Ah good luck Queen, let us know how you get on!
It's exciting (from where I'm sitting anyway 😁)!
Really hoping it goes well, sounds like you've done all your research.
Be thinking of you!

Happy31 · 20/10/2023 18:21

All the best for tomorrow CollagenQueen!

Look forward to seeing the after pics.

barbarahunter · 20/10/2023 20:13

Good luck!

Catherinescat · 20/10/2023 21:49

Good luck tomorrow @CollagenQueen . Can't wait to see your fabulous photos.xx

zinfi · 20/10/2023 21:54

Good luck! Can't wait to see the photos.

Mirabai · 20/10/2023 22:16

Good luck for tomorrow.

Finestreason · 20/10/2023 22:26

This is exciting. Could be in my future. Hope it all goes well.

Rina66 · 20/10/2023 23:26

Good luck, what an amazing thing to do for yourself.
As an aside, what ever happened to @wagsandclaws (poster who had the neck lift in the link) I used to love her posts in S & B?

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