I look better in my head than I do in RL

[YellowHpok]

Is this common? Just back from a family do. I made an effort, looked nice. Cool even. Then family send me some pics and I realise I essentially look like my brother in a wig, which isn't the look I'm going for.

Not a single nice photo of me that matches how I perceived myself in the mirror. I don't think I'm a stunner by any means, but I was quote shocked at the disconnect.

Anyone else get this?

I'd imagine this is very common. I'm quite happy with pretending to myself I'm not half bad, but reality occasionally gets in the way 🙂

Oh this is me.

I get ready, put on my war paint and armour. I look in the mirror I think yes I've got this, I am a knight of the round table, magnificent and shiny.

Looks at photo...I gave Baldrick and monty python holy grail love child vibes.

Gutted 🤣

This thread has really made me laugh, thank you all I'm with all the posters who can't believe how old their school contemporaries are now...

I am told I am attractive, and sometimes I even feel attractive

but no, all lies once I see a photo of me.

I'm glad I found this thread as I feel exactly the same. I'm still 25 in my head and think I look great on a night out. I read on here years ago someone describe this and it stuck with me. She said: I have body euphoria, I think I'm a babe'. It's heartening that many of us feel this way actually. My brother used to be a photo developer back in the pre-digital days and he always said some people just aren't photogenic.

I'm not remotely photogenic and have literally had people commenting unprompted that I don't look like that in real life when they see a photo of me. I'll be screwed if I ever have to use online dating!

Doesn't help that I have an incredibly photogenic sister. I think it's the cheek bones. She definitely got more than her fair share!

'Body euphoria'!! What a great phrase! Love it!

Oh absolutely.

Especially as I am not very wrinkly - obviously this is lucky, but in my head I half belief I look the same as I did at 35 (I am 50 😁)

Currently compounded by being vastly overweight. I know I’m overweight, I just think I am only 30% as overweight as I actually am.

It’s the camera that’s wrong obvs. Bad angles. Etc.

I delete every photo of me that I can and dont let anyone take any if I can prevent it. I make sure that I am behind the camera at all functions. We have 25 plus years of holiday snaps, weddings family dos which apparently I never went to- just DH and the kids /grandchildren ..

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I think I look fine in the mirror, and then I see photos and look exactly like the FaceApped male me.

And YY to the PP who said about people saying they're nice photos of you. Makes me want to fetch a hessian sack to wear a la Oogie Boogie.

Oh good god yes the Teams thing where they are sharing a document, stop sharing that but share their screen and there you are - horrific. I have finally got used to seeing myself on Teams but I will never ever get used to that.

Surely it means you go out into the world with confidence and head held high, not creeping out like an apologetic mouse. And confidence is very attractive.

This is how I see it.

although I always wear makeup, it doesn’t seem to show on photos - looks like I’m not wearing any

god me too! I wear quite a strong make up look as I like it but in photos it’s disappeared!!

I hate photos of me, my passport photo looks like a corpse lying on the bottom of a deep swimming pool 🫣
In real life I look like my mother, but greyer, more haggard and much fatter. I don’t think all the makeup in the world would help!
In my head I’m neat, tidy and passable….