Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

[ZenNudist]

@RandomQuest

Maybe he’s trying to be polite by saying the colour is the problem, it kind of looks like a flamenco fancy dress costume…

This!! Accessorise with a fruit head dress and sing copacabana at the reception!

[Chikapu]

After seeing the pic of the other dress I have to ask if it's meant to be worn like that? The cut across your arms looks wrong somehow.

[RudsyFarmer]

You have a kooky look which I really like. I think
you could find something nicer.

[thethoughtfox]

Planning an outfit change to wear a more outrageous dress in the evening, is a little too attention grabbing to be wedding appropriate.

[BellePeppa]

Why does he think it’s too red if your other dress was just as red?

[Stravaig]

Just to add OP, if that is you in the second dress, you're stunning. I love the dramatic flair. I agree with a previous poster, dial down the overtly sexy for weddings. You'd look gorgeous in a bin liner, so less is definitely more.

[Charlize43]

Just curious, but are you an entertainer of some sort... like a cruise ship singer?

[FabFitFifties]

I'm not a wall flower, and enjoyed attention in my youth, but no, no, no, OP. This is the brides day not your's. Not in ANY colour. Your poor bf 😂 he'd be rightly mortified at this lack of judgement.

[Forpoxsake]

Not rtft, I love that dress and would wear it to a wedding BUT I saw an Instagram post from a photographer that said guests who wear red are a nightmare in the photos as they stand out more than the bride.
can you find it in a different colour?

[Scoobydoobywho]

Does it come with maracas or castanets?

[Nocutenamesleft]

I don’t know anyone who changes their outfit for the evening?!?

apart from maybe the bride and even then I’ve only known 1!!!

that dress is inappropriate

[Lovemusic33]

OP, ignore the nasty posts. It’s not something I would wear to a wedding (as I don’t like to stand out) but if you want to wear it and feel confident wearing it then go ahead. Also it’s fine to change outfits, I’m sure many people do this.

[trulyconfuseddotcom]

I suppose it would depend on the wedding, and what sort of crowd it would be. There's quite a lot going on with that dress, to be sure! And clearly it's not something a lot of posters on here would find suitable for a wedding guest. But there are also a lot of MN peeps on the wedding threads generally who seem to think that only something vaguely floral and inoffensive would ever be suitable for a wedding, and to wear anything else would be to commit the terrible sin (only ever levelled at women) of being 'attention seeking'. For some folks, wearing red to a wedding would be like Scarlett O'Hara turning up at a birthday party in this dress in my photo. Personally, I don't love the dress you're asking about but if you feel fabulous and you think the bride & groom would be ok with it, and you don't care what some other people at the wedding think, it's up to you, right? I think the red lacy number you wore to the other wedding was very cute and really suits you but the straps are pushed down a bit too far, hence the wee bulges in the fabric where straps join dress.

[Maireas]

I, I, I, I like you verrrry much!
Good one, OP.

[SleepSleepRaveAsleep]

Are you the evening entertainment - bit of flamenco 💃 even the emoji looks like the dress 🤣!! If so very appropriate if not it looks ridiculous, he was being polite.

[Grenlei]

Happy to go against the grain and say the dress is lovely, OP.

At weddings I go to people typically make a big effort, with hats etc, very glam. This definitely wouldn't look out of place.

Unfortunately on MN most women dress in a very sober dull style, hence the popularity of Boden and other drab retailers, so you'll find people telling you its OTT or horrible.

It'd the sort of dress if I had the figure still I'd wear to Ascot, and my rule of thumb would be if its suitable for the races its suitable for a wedding.

[Maireas]

@humanpotato

I haven't been to many weddings but the few I have been to I've known a couple of girls change their outfit for the night time... I didn't think of them as "attention seekers" maybe some of us don't have many opportunities to go out much and wear fits that we really like 😂 i just saw a dress that I love (clearly not everyone's taste) and wondered what people thought it's really not any deeper than that 😂 other than it's a dress I'd like to wear and maybe if it's only suitable for a party then why is it such a massive "aww you attention cow" if I changed on the night I don't think it's that much of a deal considering we're sleeping there and it's a party outfit at a party?

You said you'd been to two recently.

[Forpoxsake]

OP you are young and gorgeous and could definitely pull that (or any) Dress off, weddings I’ve been to have been showy and lots of guests wear similar outfits and change in the evening.
Id just order it in a diff colour as I said upthread it’s the red that’s a nightmare for photographs for the day!

[ZenNudist]

Just seen your pictures. Last wedding you looked nice but this is way too similar. Get a different colour. Wearing red is a) samey and b) rather comes across as attention seeking.

[Maireas]

@humanpotato

This was the last wedding x

Brilliant!

[FabFitFifties]

Having seen your second dress OP, it is likely your BF, is trying to stop you making the same mistake twice. Don't get me wrong, I think you looked fab, but not for a wedding. Do you really want to be known for deliberately, repeatedly, wearing red sexy dresses at weddings, spoiling the photo's and upsetting the bride? Wedding photos are precious to dome brides.

[FabFitFifties]

Some not dome 😂

[Hoppinggreen]

Is it a Big Fat Gypsy style wedding?
if not then it’s not appropriate

[RiverSkater]

Ok for a burlesque night out not for a wedding.

Surely you can see it shouts look at meeeeee! 🤣

[SnappingAtHeels]

is that you? You are gorgeous. :) Save the red dress though for a fab night out. Looks like you are able to wear anything and look fantastic.