Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

OP, the women on here tearing you down are only doing it to make themselves feel better. They don't believe you should be content with the way you look or your style because they aren't content with themselves. You don't look 'mum' ish and they don't like it, basically.

but I generally prefer to listen to the people who know best, who have first-hand experience and in-depth knowledge

So you're not black @1000Pieces ?

They shouldn't be a costume for caucasian hair to try on and take off when bored of the style

I was thinking similar. I think they were probably ok on 1980s crusties and travellers (think The Levellers) - yes it might have started as a bit of an affectation but it became part of the lifestyle. It wasn't a fashion fad to take off when bored.

I'm white with a natural fro, it comes out of my head that way. 😱

My stepdads used to grow out as an Afro, he's bald now x

f I were to ask something for opinions I'd just go ahead and read the replies, not having to interject with every little discrepancy I have with a comment.

Great. Good for you. 👍🏻

You don't like how OP replies. You couldn't make this shit up.

The second of those articles in particular is actually very measured, with several black spokespeople quoted as saying that they don't necessarily disagree with white people wearing dreadlocks, that it's difficult to attribute them to any one cultural group and that there is a place for people (respectfully) showing love to parts of other cultures by choosing to showcase them themselves. Your own position comes across as a lot more hard-line.

@humanpotato I thought the dress was good btw, in the right context, which it sounds like this particular wedding is, given that your friends like it and you feel confident it'll be ok 😅

Can we not start the faux-naive “but whyyyyyy is it not the same when black women do this [superficially vaguely similar thing that doesn’t have the same cultural connotations]?” thing please?

The point about cultural appropriation in this instance is that black women got, and in some places/situations still get, a lot of negative shit and discrimination for wearing their hair in traditional black styles, because white beauty standards are considered the norm. Then along come some white people who adopt the style because they think it makes them look cool or edgy or whatever, and it becomes a fashion statement for which white people are praised, fawned over, copied, put on magazine covers etc…the exact opposite experience of the women from whose actual heritage it came. Yet another example of something from black culture that’s only considered to have worth if white people start doing it.

That’s why it’s insensitive at best and racist at worst for white people to appropriate locs.

I haven't RTFT but I think it's a lovely dress, if it's a glamorous wedding, I see no issue with it. I do think you will be conscious that you boyfriend has said it's not appropriate though. There might be a special Mumsnet sackcloth wedding attire shop where you can get something appropriate to suit the opinion on here. It's quite common for people to get changed at weddings where I live, although more often the older generation or people who've popped home in between to attend to kids/pets etc. I think people have been very rude about the dress, about which you didn't ask an opinion, only whether it was appropriate for a wedding. Have a lovely time whatever you wear, and if you don't wear that, have a great time in that somewhere else!

Wear what you want, style your hair the way you like and if you feel comfortable and happy sod the critic's. Oh and for the people who think its misappropriation, get over yourself. I much prefer the natural hair movement, I'm not black but have myself been told to straighten, tidy up my wild curly hair. My hair my choice! At this present moment I'm sporting a bright red fro, Ronald Macdonald style.

Thanks everyone for your responses and yes it is Vampire's Wife. I think I'll wear it (but may run it past the bride first).

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-10957613/Women-sparks-debate-claiming-boyfriend-said-dress-wasnt-appropriate-wedding.html

Are you @humanpotato ? I'm confused...

This whole thread has just made me think of this guy

This whole thread is so utterly bonkers it would be a crying shame if it wasn’t in the DM!

Never put a bride in this spot! She will feel she has to say yes even if she thinks YIKES! If you have to ask then you know it's wrong!

@GussyPalore no I am humanpotato lol

And there’s the lesson in posting identifying photos of yourself online…

@SkeletonFight that's not my account x

@Cornettoninja well not really it's not the end of the world being in the mail for asking about a dress... I didn't kill anyone 😂

righto.

Jesus, I’ve just checked your posting history.

Dude, you are very free and easy with your personal details on an anonymous forum. Fine if you’re not bothered by it but I hope you wise up before your baby is old enough to access the internet.

I've literally just posted a photo? On forum on about dresses... I don't think there will be a mob outside my door? Also if you're referring to one of my posts about work I made up the area in which I live just incase work ever saw it (very unlikely to happen)

thats something at least. Your BF happy with his photo linked to this thread through an international media site too?

Fine if you’re fine with it. Fits really.

Since said he likes the dress and once he seen it on changed his mind? He really couldn't care less about the forum ...