Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

@Ivylane actually my bf likes it once It was delivered and tried on. Although worried I'm going to run off with the groom naturally... I'm just that way inclined that's all 🥰

Did you read the article at all?

C'mon OP don't take this pasting light heartedly didn't you realise you were being absolutely schooled by @1000Pieces on your choices?

And just for good measure can you pop up pic of you in your last attending a wedding outfit @1000Pieces? This is the S&B board after all.

I’m convinced this is a wind up

Just want to say that yes OP is beautiful and definitely confident- she doesn’t need to wear this cringey flashy dress to someone else’s big day. I just hope the bride whose wedding this is has a lovely day and feels supported by all the women she has chosen to invite to her special day, rather than competed with. That’s how I felt on my wedding day and the room was full of beautiful women who’d spent a lot of time and money on their appearance and looked beautiful but also classy.

Literally posted the delivered dress! It's not that crazy to believe 😂

I can't believe how many women find it hard to believe a woman wants to look and feel nice in something she really likes for herself 🤯

she’s gone so far as to post about it to get the opinion of hundreds of complete strangers to presumably validate her outfit choice.

@Ivylane

Oh give over. People validate their outfit choices ALL THE TIME on here. It's what it's for.

And you're on here happily giving your opinion.

You seem to have missed the crucial point that OP has since asked friends from her circle, who would know much better than a bunch of randoms on here on how appropriate the dress is.

They said 👍🏻

It doesn’t bother me what another person wears to a wedding ivylane. The OP didn’t seek out the opinion of hundreds of strangers. I’m guessing she thought she’d just get a few. Threads in s&B rarely take off like this (I actually can’t think of one that has). The OP asked for honest opinions. She didn’t ask to be hit with vitriol about looking ‘slutty’ ‘tarty’ and wanting to steal attention from the bride.

given how this thread has developed it’s probably going to go at some point but I would say to you @humanpotato you clearly do care what others think, which is fine most of us do, but when your fashion choices start skirting around trends like dreadlocks or other styles that aren’t inherent to your current culture you need to be careful because your frivolous choices could cause someone real offence.

Fwiw, I lean more towards your views on cultural appropriation in fashion but ultimately I don’t wish to offend people with strong beliefs and a deep understanding of symbolism over something I just find aesthetically pleasing.

If someone is telling you that your being offensive please don’t reel off a quick Wikipedia educated justification of your choices, because you haven’t chosen to wear your hair in dreadlocks because of ancestral inspiration and honour - you just like how they look. I think that’s a good enough reason but I think the cultural history and years of oppression and targeted hatred other people carry associated with that hairstyle is a better reason for them to not like you turning it into a fashion statement.

That’s how I felt on my wedding day and the room was full of beautiful women who’d spent a lot of time and money on their appearance and looked beautiful but also classy.

OmG.

Can not believe posters can not cope with the idea that it's different strokes for different folks.

Your classy ladies would have looked RIDICULOUS at this wedding.

Is that genuinely the truth though? If someone really turned up to a wedding in a bikini you wouldn’t bat an eyelid, you literally wouldn’t say a thing? For the record I haven’t once said “slutty” or “tarty” I’ve merely said she seems overly invested in appearing sexually attractive at someone else’s wedding, I’m not implying she’s going to try and shag all the guests 🙄

Yes because this beach wedding is a relevant comparison 🙄

and it was @humanpotato who in her post first aised the issue of the dreads turning people off so she knows they are contentious.

Yes because this beach wedding is a relevant comparison 🙄*
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@Ivylane

I'd say it's just the right level of extreme since you are talking about guests turning up in bikinis. 🙄 Yes.

The OP goes to different weddings to you. 🤷‍♀️ Seriously.

ivylane I didn’t say you had said those things. Re read my post again. I can honestly say I genuinely wouldn’t care! I changed my username on here after the recent GDPR issue, however I have stated on here before that my husband is relatively famous. We had famous people from various creative industries at our wedding. Some of them wore all sorts of wacky things! Did I care? Nope! It makes for fun pictures!

I’m just trying to understand where the line is for some of you on wedding attire so I used an extreme example in order to gauge that. Contrary to what you clearly want to think of me, I wouldn’t be offended if someone wore a bikini to someone’s beach wedding 😁

Good for you, I’m genuinely glad that you were not bothered by other peoples outfits. We don’t know the bride at this wedding OP has been invited to, I just hope she considers the dress in question appropriate and doesn’t feel like someone she has invited is trying to upstage her. Is it wrong to want to respect the bride on her wedding day?

@Ivylane

Totally depends on the group of people
and the venue.

And no, it wouldn't be a bikini even on the beach.

Is it wrong to want to respect the bride on her wedding day?

No.

Regardless of how appropriate it is or how it makes the bride feel? That’s a very selfish attitude.

I’m not really understanding your last comment, I’m not saying the outfit in question is a bikini, I was asking if one of the other posters who says she wouldn’t care whatever anyone chose to wear to a wedding really wouldn’t care if someone turned up in a bikini.

I’m just trying to understand where the line is for some of you on wedding attire so I used an extreme example in order to gauge that.

And I was answering this. I thought that "some of you" meant more than one other poster.

@Ivylane

I was asking if one of the other posters who says she wouldn’t care whatever anyone chose to wear to a wedding really wouldn’t care if someone turned up in a bikini.

I genuinely wouldn't. I'd think they were bonkers but I really wouldn't care.

Fair enough.

What I meant was even if someone was wearing a bikini I wouldn't care
I Had one big, formal, showy, conformist wedding to an abuser who nearly killed me
For me a wedding is not all about the bride, and her being the centre of attention
It is about celebrating love with those you love
What someone else was wearing wouldn't phase me in the slightest
Couldn't care less if a guest was more beautiful or sexy than me
I would actually be the first person to say the OP looked great, because that is her style and what makes her feel good. And she is very beautiful

So what if she wants to look sexy
So what if the dress is cheap

Everyone can have different opinions, but some of the disgraceful personal attacks, and downright snobbery at the quality and cost of the dress
That is what I can't agree with