Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

Great article and instagram account @1000Pieces, thank you for sharing it.

How fragile are these hypothetical brides who feel competed with or disrespected by a guest’s choice of outfit?! If they exist, it’s kind of their stuff, not the OP’s. Weddings are some kind of attractiveness competition where we have to let the bride win? Who thinks like this? It’s an especially illogical opinion to hold for those who think the dress is minging - so the OP won’t look nice in that case and the bride can win after all and all the men will think she’s the hottest, which is definitely the point of a wedding, what?

My point exactly

Truly don't understand it
And I really don't understand what is wrong with wanting to feel and appear sexy

But then I also wouldn't mind someone wearing white

My personal views on weddings are irrelevant though, but as a woman and a human being, the nastiness and snobbery towards OP is not acceptable

“Weddings are some kind of attractiveness competition where we have to let the bride win” erm no, weddings are a celebration of two people you’re supposed to care about not about how many outfit changes you can cram in to it. It might be an old fashioned attitude- but it’s definitely not supposed to be about “letting the bride win” the attractiveness competition, its not supposed to be an attractiveness competition at all, its about letting the bride have her special day and not trying to steal her thunder. No one’s saying you can’t look nice- but as a wedding guest how good you look shouldn’t be your main focus, and I really think it’s the OPs.

Weird isn’t it? Not being rude, inappropriate or disrespectful is the ultimate imperative when choosing a dress but doesn’t matter at all when ‘speaking’ to someone.

Anyway, sure you’ll have a great time OP!

It's not about fragility - it's about common decent manners which many do not seem to have nowadays. I would also sense though that there is a class thing as well. Someone wrongly mentioned a gypsy wedding but I was at another wedding in a very posh venue recently and the guests were from an advantaged background (some would say - let's disregard that these are young hard working professionals) and it was a far cry from the sort of stuff you see in TOWIE or ASOS.

My point is- why is it SO important to wear this dress at someone else’s wedding that you would risk upsetting the bride and also have people potentially talking about how you are trying to upstage the bride? If I thought there was a chance that something as simple to change as my choice of dress would upset someone I cared about enough to attend their wedding ceremony, I’d just choose another dress.

Anyway, I’ve enjoyed hearing other peoples perspectives on this. I hope you have fun at the wedding OP whatever you decide to wear.

I just think that unless the OP knows or has good reason to think the bride is emotionally unstable (in which case maybe allowances could be made for the avoidance of drama), the most likely outcome is that a flouncy red dress will have zero negative impact on the day or anybody’s enjoyment of it

I have decided to wear this... don't worry my ankles will be totally covered with knee socks...So excited 😍

Now you have offended the Toasties 😂 and religious appropriation!

🤣🤣🤣

Take the day off Ivy, seriously

In fairness OP, it would probably look great on you! You have the looks and figure to wear what you like.

Blue dress too revealing
Will be able to see your eyes, which are unreal
Please wear a mask as not to flaunt them and lure the poor, helpless menfolk

Good god woman, people will see your neck 😯

I actually love those dreads - is that you in the pic OP? They look fab.

Had to laugh at the cultural appropriation comments as I knew it would be coming 😂

Yes good point bittertwisted! We have to protect the pathetic helpless menfolk at all times don’t we! This reminds me of high school where we were told our mid length skirts were distracting 🙄 Nothing about the fact the boys should have been concentrating on work!

What relevance would a photo of me have to the question of cultural appropriation and racism (which is apparently hilarious)?

Why do you think it's funny?

Thanks @Stravaig , I thought it was really good too.

What relevance would a photo of me have to the question of cultural appropriation and racism (which is apparently hilarious)?

You tell me the relevance? You're on the Style & beauty pages? You've waded in like a ton of bricks about cultural appropriation and racism.

And no it's not a hilarious subject but your dogmatic approach to OP is.

Like she's going to drop everything and read an article you've posted within minutes.

That is a 'centre of attention ' dress so no not appropriate for a wedding.

Agree with this, the dress design looks tacky but red is ok, just IMHO

OP was the first person who mentioned that she knew "dreadlocks" [sic] are potentially considered very offensive on a person of her ethnicity.

Another 1 or 2 posters picked her up on it before I commented. So I didn't "wade in like a ton of bricks" (do bricks wade? Bizarre.)

I posted the article in good faith, thinking she might genuinely be concerned/interested to understand more about the subject from the perspective of a Black writer. But clearly I was wrong about that. And it's all just a big laugh.