Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

Good god, don't change outfits. That's so completely try hard

I think there’s a fine line between wanting to look nice for a special occasion and going all out to take attention away from the bride. That dress is not appropriate for someone else’s wedding and that is what everyone will be thinking. It’s not your wedding and attention hungry at someone else’s wedding is not a good look on anyone. Red is quite a sexy colour anyway so you’d bed to tread carefully with the fit of the dress and how much flesh you’re showing, this misses the mark massively.

What is this bizarre nonsense about the OP wanting to take attention from the bride?! What sort of weddings do some of you go to where the other guests would be more interested in a guest than the bride?

Also- The only person who has license for a outfit change for the evening is the bride or little flower girls/page boys. Everyone will think you’re an idiot- it’s not about you! I wouldn’t normally speak harshly to someone like this but I really think you need to hear this- this wedding is not about you, I really hope the bride is a connection of your partners and not yours because you do not sound like much a of friend!

ivylane blinking heck have you had a bad morning or something?! I go to plenty of weddings where lots of the guests change outfits for the evening. This is completely normal and has been for years! Why so much vitriol for the OP?

I don’t think saying she is trying to take attention away from the bride is bizarre nonsense, otherwise the majority of posters wouldn’t be saying it would they?! This dress doesn’t scream “I’m here to support the marriage of…” it screams “look me! Don’t I look amazing!” Thing is people will just think OP is sad for trying to do that.

Omg get a grip lady 🤣 literally not that deep or dramatic having an outfit change... last couple of weddings I've been too a couple of lasses got changed for the evening party. Nobody thought anything of it for god sake man 😂😂😂 if you base friendship on outfit choices then your friendship group must dress like nuns?

I have just been at a wedding and most of the young women my age
( late 20s/30s) were beautifully dressed in dresses and jumpsuits - nothing too OTT - Ted Baker that kind of stuff.There was one woman who wore a tight red dress and hat and she was the affair partner and family friend who caused ( with the husband) the break up of one set of parents. I have no idea what she was thinking.

Oh you've just thrown some cultural in appropriation as well for good measure ? Do you have some African or Caribbean roots?

Mumsnet is such an odd place sometimes. What’s wrong with someone wanting to look nice for a day out? Yes of course it’s the brides day, no one in a red dress is going to take the limelight! I had a few famous people at my wedding for goodness sake. None of them stole my thunder (even the famous model one who fell backwards into a bush at the end of the night and sprained her arm 😂). Things have changed, times have moved on. It’s not always obligatory to wear the mumsnet uniform of Sea Salt sack cloth, Fat Face fleece and Boden sandals everywhere 🙄 Although thinking about it, threads about weddings in general are bizarre as well. It’s always a race to the bottom to see who managed to spend 50p overall. Spending anything more than £2.99 on your big day is seen as vulgar. Poster who wear a white bedsheet and have a bouquet made from stinging nettles are held up on the same parapet as a Saint.

I’ve had a great morning, thank you for asking 😁OP wants honest opinions doesn’t she? People might not say harsh things to her but I’m sure they will be thinking them. She has to put herself in the shoes of the bride, and think about I’d there a chance she will be upset about her wearing the dress, unless she’s 100 per cent sure then she shouldn’t wear it, it’s not her day. Sorry, maybe people do do special outfit changes now at someone else’s big day, I’ll accept I’m wrong on that. I’ve always just attended a wedding as a guest and enjoyed the day, rather than worrying so much about how I look.

ivylane, you choose wedding outfits on the basis of that they show you are supportive of the marriage? What do you wear then? A ‘team newlyweds’ fleece over your sackcloth? Do you wear a mask in case anyone looks at you? Thus avoiding any eyes not firmly on the bride?

Why does an outfit change mean ‘worrying about you look’? What’s wrong with popping back to your room for a quick freshen up and outfit change? It takes 10 minutes. Lots of my guests did it, I couldn’t care less tbh. It’s nice for people to feel good about themselves.

Op won't give a shit about this, but some other people might. It's interesting.

www.esquire.com/uk/style/grooming/a34465402/history-of-dreadlocks/

Does she f**k.

Have you seen the photo she posted?

But I really don't think she cares.

Actually I'm English and a lot of us have Cristian and Saxon heritage and they dreaded their hair, it was actually known for Jews and Christian'a the dread the front parts of their hair in front of their ears 🤷🏻‍♀️

Also, why is it such a negative thing to appropriate from other cultures? Should we only be allowed and entitled to be inspired from our own country and roots? That's very boring... I hope you've never worn a kimono in the summer because that's Chinese would be very inappropriate! 😱 .... god forbid we enjoy parts of other country's beautiful styles etc...

Try reading the article. It's a pretty good introduction to cultural appropriation, colour-blind racism, and all the other tired offensive tropes that you just posted.

And by the way... kimonos are Japanese. Not Chinese. Ffs

No, I’m not saying you need to turn up in a shapeless sack to someone else’s wedding. I personally try to choose an outfit for a wedding that strikes the balance between looking nice while at the same time not looking like I’m trying to capture the attention of every single person at the wedding and like I’ve gone out of my way to appear as sexually attractive as I possibly can. Maybe that makes me strange and out of touch? And yes, I have freshened up at weddings before, retouched my makeup, but unless you’re someone who sweats profusely and needs to change for hygiene, I really think having more than one look for someone else’s wedding day is a bit try hard.

I think kimonos originated from China didnt they 1000pieces?

Apologies if I’m wrong about that!

The dress is perfect for a chavvy night outwhen you're on the pull. It isn't the sort of thing you'd wear to a wedding. Everyone would think you're on the pull. You're meant to wear something smart/classy to weddings.
Wear the dress clubbing, not to a wedding.

Aren’t women allowed to dress for themselves though ivylane? I buy outfits that are short or show cleavage or my back etc. I buy them because I like them and I want to wear them. Why is the assumption that women are dressing to capture attention? That sounds like something the patriarchy would have us believe. Why do you assume the OP wants to ‘look as sexually attractive as possible’? And so what if she did? Why would it matter?

No. Japan. Like I said.

daily.jstor.org/the-surprising-history-of-the-kimono/

Oh ok, I’ve just found this regarding the origin of the kimono. Perhaps there are some discrepancies regarding this.