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Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

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humanpotato · 25/06/2022 09:00

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?
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Chikapu · 27/06/2022 08:11

BronskiBeaten · 27/06/2022 07:35

If you wore that to my wedding I’d ask you to leave. It’s so inappropriate and looks like a fancy dress outfit and slutty. Modern day Pretty Woman (before she goes shopping!).

Channeling Peggy Mitchell on your wedding day, almost as klassy as that dress!

GoldenSongbird · 27/06/2022 08:15

I agree with your bf that it looks better in RL than on the website. Have fun!

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humanpotato · 27/06/2022 08:23

Thanks for the hair comments 🥰 however my hair doesn't look anything like that now, I'll have my dreadlocks installed a week before we go! However they'll be black and not blonde. I know some of you are gonna go off now 😂

I'll have little gold pieces in and not beads tho and probably an up do, maybe some sort of nice wedge from river island x

Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?
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TinaDina · 27/06/2022 08:24

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Wow! You're a fucking charmer, aren't you!?

OP is beautiful and I love her hair. And there's nothing wrong with the chap in the photo!

I think wearing something different is a wise choice, OP. I know people who would love the red dress and would be enthusiastic about someone wearing it to their wedding, people who would be scandalised and annoyed, and people who wouldn't particularly notice one way or another. Without knowing the people getting married/attending the wedding, it's impossible to say what reaction you'd get but a 'safer' dress is probably a good shout for a wedding.

I wouldn't wear it, personally, but I'm certain many MNers would hate my 'style', too. I have never understood people getting upset over what someone else is wearing, though.

TinaDina · 27/06/2022 08:26

Oops, looks like I should have RTFT!

bittertwisted · 27/06/2022 08:28

The obsession with what people wear to your wedding. If I ever married again it would be to a man I really love, celebrating that love with all the people that matter to us
Not for it all to be about me, what I'm wearing, all attention on meeee
Honestly couldn't give a shiny shit if someone came in a bikini

And the absolutely vile denigration of a woman who is very attractive on this post is shameful

OP you have shown incredible poise and grace by not reacting. Wear what you like. It does not make you a slut or a slag, incredible that all these critics would be up in arms if a man used a term like that about a woman, judged on her choice of clothes

Standrews · 27/06/2022 08:30

Totally inappropriate for all the above reasons.

Flyinggeese1234 · 27/06/2022 08:47

The OP here has been more patient than must would have been.

What a horrible pile-on this thread has been.

Bangolads · 27/06/2022 08:50

It’s a bit sexy for a wedding.

Foxgloves123 · 27/06/2022 08:58

You look like you’re off for a night of flamenco dancing… the split is high and the style is a bit loud…

This is probably why your bf says he doesn’t think it’s right… but wear whatever you like. The colour being red isn’t an issue and everyone knows who the bride is so you’re not going to upstage her in it. Is the bride the sort of person who would have an issue with it? One of my beautiful friends wore red to my wedding and looked stunning. She’s just a beautiful woman. Everyone complemented her in it. I didn’t care at all.

Bangolads · 27/06/2022 09:01

@bittertwisted whilst I agree some of the responses here haven’t been as sensitive as one might hope, no one has called the OP a slag or a slut. To imply we live in society where we don’t have rules about dressing is childish.- we do. You’re part of them and hold up to them whether you like them or not.

The also OP asked opinions- she got them. Obviously the dress will raise eyebrows at a wedding. Obviously you don’t just wear what you want. Obviously for better or worse people get hung up on what they wear to weddings. Obviously you shouldn’t wear a bright red dress with a slit up it. Also it’s all very well exclaiming she should wear what she
likes but you fail to address why she is quite so hung up on what she wears by your hypothesis. I’d ask why she feels the need to go so full on and eye catching - why does it matter so much that she’s seen?
We want women to feel they can dress for themselves but fail to point out when they are quite clearly dressing to get attention- and for the male gaze. That’s not liberation.

Sorrynotsorry22 · 27/06/2022 09:05

Very Mae West, if that's the vibe you're going for !

WhereIsVillanelleWhenNeeded · 27/06/2022 09:12

Obviously you shouldn’t wear a bright red dress with a slit up it.

But why? She looks lovely and if she’d come to my wedding in the dress I’d be one of the first to tell her how great she looks. I just wish I had the figure to wear it myself but a B cup won’t cut it.

FootontheHeartbreak · 27/06/2022 09:16

I suspect this thread is a wind up.. yawn.

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humanpotato · 27/06/2022 09:27

FootontheHeartbreak · 27/06/2022 09:16

I suspect this thread is a wind up.. yawn.

I've literally posted a photo of my order 🥲

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Zita60 · 27/06/2022 09:32

I'm surprised at how unkind many of the replies here have been, in effect pouring scorn on the OP's taste.

Quicknamechangefortoday · 27/06/2022 09:35

You would embarrass yourself asking someone to leave over a dress bronski. You’d look unhinged and as though you were concerned your DH may be looking at how attractive the OP is. But then I suspect that’s many womens problem that have posted horrid comments.

sunglassesonthetable · 27/06/2022 09:37

I’d ask why she feels the need to go so full on and eye catching - why does it matter so much that she’s seen?

@Bangolads

You've no idea about the type of vibe at the weddings of OP circle. I'd ask whether she will stand out anyway, if all her mates think it's a great dress for a wedding.

I'd ask why you don't acknowledge that ' the rules for dressing ' don't change with every different group.

As for OP being "quite so hung up" on what she is wearing. Don't make me laugh. On the one hand you talk as if the rules are 'obvious' but then posters are 'hung up' trying to figure them out. There is a new so called 'hung up' post asking about wedding attire on S& B practically every day.

I love that you also know that OP is "quite clearly " dressing for attention.

You sound hung up about clothes tbh.

ladydimitrescu · 27/06/2022 09:48

humanpotato · 27/06/2022 08:23

Thanks for the hair comments 🥰 however my hair doesn't look anything like that now, I'll have my dreadlocks installed a week before we go! However they'll be black and not blonde. I know some of you are gonna go off now 😂

I'll have little gold pieces in and not beads tho and probably an up do, maybe some sort of nice wedge from river island x

You are really pretty 😍 I suspect that's why a lot of the comments have been so awful tbh.

FootontheHeartbreak · 27/06/2022 09:50

To those who think many of the comments are bitchy because of jealousy, would you seriously want someone turning up in a flamenco outfit at your wedding? Or your daughters wedding?

Ddot · 27/06/2022 09:52

Gorgeous look fab in anything maybe a maxi hippy dress for wedding and red number for party

bittertwisted · 27/06/2022 09:53

FootontheHeartbreak · 27/06/2022 09:50

To those who think many of the comments are bitchy because of jealousy, would you seriously want someone turning up in a flamenco outfit at your wedding? Or your daughters wedding?

Absolutely couldn't care less

jillybeanclevertips · 27/06/2022 10:02

Nah, I don't think its right for a wedding. It depends on the type of wedding (If its a formal wedding, definitely no.no.) At ghe endof the day its your choice, but if BF is uncomfortable with it, then its probably worth rechecking your choice.

sunglassesonthetable · 27/06/2022 10:14

To those who think many of the comments are bitchy because of jealousy, would you seriously want someone turning up in a flamenco outfit at your wedding? Or your daughters weddin

No genuinely wouldn't give a hoot. I would only care if I was expected to wear it. 😂

Wouldloveanother · 27/06/2022 10:19

FootontheHeartbreak · 27/06/2022 09:50

To those who think many of the comments are bitchy because of jealousy, would you seriously want someone turning up in a flamenco outfit at your wedding? Or your daughters wedding?

I can’t say I would care to be honest. I think a lot of it is jealousy - OP is stunning and confident enough to wear bold and beautiful clothes. It’s not ‘wedding suitable’ but it would hardly be crime of the century if she did wear it.