This isn't really about Rugby or men who exercise, is it, OP?
No actually, I was consistently sexually harassed throughout secondary school and university by rugby players
Any woman who cares about abs probably isn't worth their time anyway
men who get into fights with other men, shout loudly in public, and disrespect women? That's what I think of as a masculine man
any man impressed by shapely bottoms and toned stomachs is not worth impressing
The women who are attracted to abs like them because they indicate brute masculinity (i.e. aggression, volatility, violence, etc)
You won't have your breasts and bottom forever. Will he get bored then? And also be careful, as your husband is unlikely to be the only man noting you. It's very possible then when you go out to the supermarket or at the gym, that other men are 'appreciating' your features
I'm saying just as she wouldn't want men at the supermarket noticing her body
How do you know your husband isn't noticing other women when he goes out? If he likes your bum and breasts, maybe he notices other attractive women.
They're usually either rugby players (very violent) or actors known for playing violent, aggressive characters. Nothing like the middle-classic people you met at university.
What I should have said is that you wouldn't want men to notice your body when you're out in the supermarket. You know it'd be wrong of them to do that, that only a sex pervert looks at women like that
It's that you were traumatised by men with a particular bodyshape and lifestyle. And fortunately, you found a safe male, a man you desceibe as 'not muscular. In fact he's quite thin' and who was 'more interested in studying and reading than sex'.
As an aside (and I'm not asking you to confirm it, just think about why I might ask it) are you quite large? Making a subconscious decision to put on weight to reduce any perceived attractiveness to predatory males is a known response to trauma.
You really shouldn't insult people for being fat. You don't know what happened in their life that made them like that
Wouldn't you rather your husband appreciate your personality and integrity?
I think you might benefit from therapy for your trauma. Not to make you suddenly love muscular men, but because your comments suggest that sexual arousal is something to be feared and despised.
It doesn't matter if a man notices I've got an arse and boobs in the supermarket, of course I have; bar needing a bilateral mastectomy and being unsuitable for reconstruction, I'm always going to have both, whether they are the same size or further South than they are already, I'm still going to have them.
It's perfectly fine for a man to find his wife and partner sexually attractive as well as loving their personality. It's fine for them to notice another woman's secondary sexual characteristics, just as it is fine for women to notice men's; there's a mile of difference between seeing something and those who cross the line into inappropriate comments or contact.
I can have conversations with DP about the industry in Papal Indulgences in the 14th Century (he has a Medieval Studies Degree) and we can also have a healthy sexual attraction for one another, as is our right. And we can also see if another person, whether in person or on the TV is/was physically attractive, even when there's no way either of us would want to shag a cybernetic organism tasked with killing either the Mother of the future leader of the human resistance following the Rise of the Machines and Judgement Day or John Connor himself. If they were real. Which they aren't.
If this thread stems from you feeling threatened because your DH has started going to the gym or is in some way wanting to be stronger/fitter and you're angry because you're scared he's going to turn into an abuser or leave you for somebody else, it's even more important for you to access therapy sooner rather than later.
But if it isn't, it's still clearly very much something you need to do for yourself, as being triggered to the point of anger/terror at the thought of a muscular/physically active/sexually confident not abusive or predatory man existing is a hugely stressful and unhappy life for you and could be having just as negative an effect upon your DS as bullying.