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Oh dear God help me. My first date in 18 years!

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Shuffleuplove · 10/08/2021 23:03

I am going on a DATE. I am 50, newly single and I need help to get ready!!!

It’s next Sunday, we are going around a gallery/stately home type place. I have never met him in real life and my confidence has just ebbed away!

I’m 5’8” very too heavy size 18 and blonde. I have good hair, a nice face and then it starts to go meh the further down I go.Blush

So far I think I’ve settled on a maxi dress with a small sleeve, bit of cleavage at the front, but not sure about footwear. Or anything else for that matter. I’ve got one good hoik-em-up bra.

Help. I really don’t want him to be horrified and leg it. I mean, I know he’s a nice person and that’s unlikely but, well, you know...

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TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 15/08/2021 18:11

What an insensitive clod. Was he trying to say it in a nice way (you are so pretty and cuddly) or was he saying something like you’re not my type because you’re cuddly?

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 18:11

Some epic backtracking going on but pfft.

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 18:12

He said I was very cuddly and that cuddly was a polite way of putting something intimate.

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 18:12

I can’t be doing with the stepping around. I’m not about to clutch my pearls and have a touch of the vapours.

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KidneyBeans · 15/08/2021 18:12

Any chance it was said in a literal way? You said he kept touching you - maybe he meant literally cuddly?
Could he perhaps be a bit clumsy over text?

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 18:14

That’s a possibility -
However I just said “call me” and he said tomorrow, he’s relaxing.

Big ass laters.

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mouldyyoghurt · 15/08/2021 18:17

I said a woman I fancied was really soft and cuddly once. I'm a woman and I meant it like I love cuddling her and her skin is so soft. Now I'm wondering if that was bad!!

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 18:19

I don’t mind being called soft and cuddly AFTER dynamite sex. Not before.

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Islesands · 15/08/2021 18:41

That’s the thing about texting, it’s not chatting. It’s open to misunderstanding and misinterpretation. You get no tone, inference, etc.
Glad you had a good time and you sound fabulous OP. Sounds like there is fun to be had investigating the irons too!

Can I ask @Shuffleuplove what the Amazon tooth white stuff you brought?

Flyinggeese1 · 15/08/2021 19:01

At least you’ve found out he’s not right early on OP, and not too much time wasted. Next! As they say.

Mamamia35 · 15/08/2021 19:07

I've been busy this afternoon so I was dying to get back to check on the update. Glad you had a good time, 'cuddly' may be being misinterpreted but time to get on to Kinky Kermode, I think! Saw him on the Tube once... I would. Loving this thread. Keep it coming, your humour is infectious. X

louderthan · 15/08/2021 19:15

You're great OP. He'd be lucky to get a cuddle off you 😉

Whatliesbeneath707 · 15/08/2021 19:23

Well @Shuffleuplove he was a good trial run, as you step back into this dating lark. He’s testing your boundaries & you sound like you are clear on what you will accept - good for you. Work your way down your list of possibilities & see which one you have the most fun with!

NautaOcts · 15/08/2021 19:31

OP this is really reminding me of a time I was having a kiss and a cuddle with a guy at university, he was a bit of a tosser in retrospect.
I was a size 16 at the time, and short with it.
We were having a kiss and a cuddle in his bed and he said something like “ahh I’ve never done this with anyone so cuddly before” or something like that. I rather stupidly took it as a compliment and literally, and said something like thank you you’re very cuddly too… to which he indignantly said ‘no I’m not!’ or something…
I retrospectively realised that he was referring to my weight 🙄 and it wasn’t really a compliment

Moutainwoman · 15/08/2021 19:36

Love this thread, you should start a blog 😁 Can I ask about which hair masque you used please 😁

deeplyambivalent · 15/08/2021 20:46

I had high hopes for this bloke, OP, not least because I was hoping it would clear up an important question: if, traditionally, the third date is where shagging becomes appropriate, how many dates before you can ask to have a go at their blackheads?

AllTheSunshine · 15/08/2021 21:08

Blackhead popping is far more intimate than a shag IMHO

crimsonlake · 15/08/2021 22:06

The blackhead would have given me the ick from the off. Glad it went well, how long was the date?

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 22:13

@deeplyambivalent I was pondering that. And which tools I would like to use. It was a tooler, nothing that mere thumbs could sort.

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 22:13

@crimsonlake 3 hours.

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TSSDNCOP · 15/08/2021 23:00

That blackhead would have preoccupied me completely. Was it on the side or front. By the end of the date I would have been talking to it, rather than him.

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Shuffleuplove · 15/08/2021 23:02

It was on the side of the bridge. Properly embedded.

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Enough4me · 16/08/2021 00:06

Statistically I think you have to chat to and kiss a high number of frogs to find a prince.
One down...Next!

Candleabra · 16/08/2021 08:16

Enjoyed reading the thread. OP you sound ace.
Onwards and upwards!

MrsJackWhicher · 16/08/2021 08:30

Thank you for the update OP.
This had been a terrific thread and I don’t want it to end!Grin