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Is this too white for a wedding guest?

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FreekStar · 04/05/2021 21:10

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

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Fonfunnylomi · 10/05/2021 20:06

If opinion is 50:50 plit, you probably would want to be conservative side? 50 % of the guests might be judging you. A wedding isn't about you, it's about the couple so you probably don't want to cause controversy? Also your posts are so defensive. If you would not want to listen, why did you ask?

Fonfunnylomi · 10/05/2021 20:16

Ps- if you are cash challenged, you can try to distance it from a wedding dress by, shortening it, wearing a pink(or whatever else matches that's not white or cream) bolero, shoes and hat/fascinator. But def not as it is this...

DenisetheMenace · 10/05/2021 20:53

Divebar2021

.... but unless she accessories it with a bouquet, veil and tiara and gets little kids to throw rose petals around she will in no way be upstaging the bride.”

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Oh, so that’s where I’ve been getting it wrong all these years! Wondered why the dodgy glances.

BrassyLocks · 10/05/2021 21:03

Some people must be looking at a different link. There's nothing remotely bridal about that dress. It's lovely, and perfectly appropriate especially with the accessories shown. But to avoid embarrassment OP, you could always send a picture of it to the bride and ask her.

BrassyLocks · 10/05/2021 21:07

Just read OP's last message. Ignore what I said about sending a pic, lol. If it was a friend you could, but I guess not in this situation!

Level75 · 10/05/2021 21:10

It's fine. Doesn't look anything like a wedding dress. My SIL wore pure white to my wedding. I didn't care (wasn't actually wearing white myself but she didn't know that).

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FreekStar · 10/05/2021 21:25

This is me in the dress- I think it looks even less bridal on me than it does on the model as I'm not as willowy nor do I walk in a floaty manner. Seeing as the thread seems about 50/50 split I don't think it's a definite no. If it had been a resounding no then I think I would wear something else. It's a family wedding and my family are not the raised eyebrow judgey sort - they're very easy going and fun, and the couple are young so many of the guests will be too.

Is this too white for a wedding guest?
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Itsallhere · 10/05/2021 21:27

Gorgeous op

Palavah · 10/05/2021 21:34

I think it's lovely. If you're confident that the bride will be in a long white dress then I'd have no qualms about this for a guest.

Teaandsymphony123 · 10/05/2021 21:35

It looks lovely OP!
I have just bought a white dress for a wedding (with coloured spots). There's no way it would upstage the bride. The etiquette is ro make sure it doesn't look bridal. Yours is lovely and pretty, but in no way bridal.

frogswimming · 10/05/2021 22:08

I don't get why anyone thinks it's bridal. Wedding dresses are not covered in pink and green flowers. Not too white at all. I think it's gorgeous on you!

I don't like your shoes though, I think you need a brighter pink, closer to the pink in the dress, or a green. Would be lovely with a bright green clutch bag too.

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FreekStar · 10/05/2021 22:22

Yes agree about shoes- they've been returned as I didn't like them.

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FreekStar · 10/05/2021 22:24

And I must make sure I wear nude underwear as I was wearing purple in the photo and it shows through Grin

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sunshinesky · 10/05/2021 23:41

It's a gorgeous dress, but you'd need to know what style of dress the bride is wearing (big ball gown style - no one will notice yours; something with flowers and a simpler cut you'll be getting death stares all day). If you're going with it, get brighter pink shoes, bag, jacket etc

Lollypop701 · 10/05/2021 23:53

Lovely dress… if it was a boho low key affair might be an issue (although I’d still wear it, just dress it down ) . Go for it!

SaturdayRocks · 11/05/2021 02:02

It's a family wedding and my family are not the raised eyebrow judgey sort - they're very easy going and fun, and the couple are young so many of the guests will be too.

Nailed it then, decision clearly made.

It doesn’t look at all bridal on you. You’ll look lovely as a guest. Agree re the shoes.

For everyone else who needs to come back and froth some more on the basis of the OP’s decision - 🥱

Ollinisca · 11/05/2021 02:28

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Wbeezer · 11/05/2021 07:58

I think its the length combined with the colour. The fabric is lovely but, like a lot of dresses this season, the style is very Grannies nightie if you're not 20 and a size 8 (other opinions are available but i was looking through a few online selections and once I'd thought this i couldn't unthink it).
I think if the Duchess of Cambridge turned up in it, she'd look good but the DM would bitch about her upstaging the bride.
I do like high neck, long sleeved, midi length dresses though, just not in pale pastels.

Wbeezer · 11/05/2021 08:04

Just seen your picture @Freekstar and revised my opinion, i now think it looks less grannies nightie on an actual person (who isn't a stick insect) and less bridal too. Still think a lot of the dresses on the M&S website do look like nighties though...

WorkWorkAngelica · 11/05/2021 08:31

You look amazing in the dress! Love it.

HeadNorth · 11/05/2021 09:30

OP - I think there are going to be a lot of disappointed posters on this thread, because you look fabulous in that dress and it looks exactly like a wedding guest's dress and nothing at all like a bridal gown.

I wonder how many will have the grace to come back and admit they were wrong.....?

motherloaded · 11/05/2021 09:37

why disappointed? The OP could be wearing a white ball gown with a veil, it makes no difference to anyone but the bride and her.

Some posters having no experience of anything else convinced themselves that it cannot be a wedding dress. Well, I have seen a couple of brides wearing VERY similar gown, close enough that it would be awfully cringey to take a photo of the OP's dress next to them.

On that basis, it's an absolute no
added to the fact the OP HAS to ask in the first place
and 50% disagree.

Again, the bride won't be upstaged, might not care, but the OP doesn't come across very well, it's not about her, or any of the posters and that's the point many posters are missing, or chosing to ignore. 🤷

motherloaded · 11/05/2021 09:38

plus no one on this thread has pretended the dress wouldn't fit the OP, that's completely irrelevant.

CornishGem1975 · 11/05/2021 09:52

It looks fab @FreekStar, perfect for a wedding, doesn't look bridal at all. As a b2b myself, I cannot see how anyone could be offended.