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Is this too white for a wedding guest?

675 replies

FreekStar · 04/05/2021 21:10

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

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Cam2020 · 06/05/2021 20:22

Beautiful dress! It's not too white at all - there's actually a lot of green and pink if you scroll through the pictures.

Im now obsessed with it!

motherloaded · 06/05/2021 20:23

Purely on the design (not the shape if you prefer something else) Hobbs website has other white background dresses that would be much more appropriate, as not bridal at all.

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 06/05/2021 21:33

You'll look fab OP, the dress, shoes and fascinator will look lovely together. Perfect for a spring/summer wedding.

worriedatthemoment · 06/05/2021 22:16

@motherloaded ai looked at some flowery dresses and they were not like this at all much mire like big wedding dresses
This dress is like no wedding dress ia have ever seen wear at any wedding I have been to, its pretty but not bridal.
And actually black ballgowns are worn by a few brides

unwuthering · 07/05/2021 02:02

You are going to look even more like a bridesmaid if you accessorise as you've stated with pale pink. A pretty outfit best saved for another occasion.

I'm not sure why you bothered asking if the only proper answer was Noooo! It's fine!

Hobnobsandbroomstick · 07/05/2021 02:06

Bridesmaids don't wear fascinators, or haven't at any wedding I've ever seen Confused.

unwuthering · 07/05/2021 05:01

www.etsy.com/market/bridesmaids_fascinators

SaturdayRocks · 07/05/2021 05:37

This thread is nuts. I hope the OP has hidden it and moved on with her life.

isthismylifenow · 07/05/2021 07:04

@FreekStar

I am not going to send the bride a pic! If I was the bride and some random guest I don't really know sent me their outfit for approval I'd think they were nuts! Do people really do this in real life?
No, they don't Grin

I am so very pleased to have never attended a wedding in the UK. The rules and do's and don'ts are quite mad.

At my brothers wedding, his bil turned up in shorts and tshirt and flops, and his sil in leggings and a not very flattering top. Actually now I think about it, it was white as well. We just assumed they got the dress code wrong, it was near a beach but not on the beach. And then we all just carried on enjoying the wedding and that was that. There was none of what some posters upthread have claimed might happen should OP wear (imo) a very suitable dress for a guest.

For us, a wedding day is about the couple and their marriage. It is not about who is trying to outdo who in outfits.

EdgeOfFortyNine · 07/05/2021 07:11

A female guest wore white at my wedding, I didn't notice at the time, to be honest I couldn't tell you what any of the guests were wearing on the day itself.
Looking at the photographs afterwards though she does kind of stand out, and yes comments were definitely made, not by me but by other people. She is quite a "look at me" type of person and would see being talked about as a badge of honour.

Funnily enough when she got married herself a year or so later, the groom's mother and sisters wore very dark clothes, I think the mother was in black. Bride commented afterwards about their choice of colour and what it meant, and yes they were definitely against him marrying her.

Laquila · 07/05/2021 09:31

@SaturdayRocks

This thread is nuts. I hope the OP has hidden it and moved on with her life.
Amen!!
Villanelle17 · 07/05/2021 10:25

It's fine. Looks nothing like a wedding dress

UnreasonablyPissedOff · 07/05/2021 11:30

This thread is utterly mad in the most amusing way ever!
I have never been to a wedding in England but the many very rigid rules make very interesting reading. I have been to two Scottish weddings. One was a humanist ceremony & i wore a cream & black polka dot skirt with a black top & No One fainted. The bride & groom seemed v happy that I had flown in for the event

At my own wedding I wore champagne non bridal but v elegant
My mother wore all black (gasp!) Chosen with me in Harrods & she looked and felt incredible! Again no one fainted & she loves my dh more than she loves me so no hidden messages in her outfit choice.
My sister (bridesmaid ) wore a very fabulous dark plum coloured dress from ghost & she looked amazing
We had a traditional wedding in a church etc so not alternative venue
We all looked like ourselves but a better version for the day
Honestly the angst over this dress has made me giggle - IMAGINE emailing the bride [grin!] Would any bride actually say to a guest they don't know 'no I forbid you from wearing that dress as it's too white!' ??.
I have no idea what most people wore to my wedding...And I have no group photos either

murmurlade · 07/05/2021 15:58

This is the only hill I'll die on! I don't even care what people think of my rigid view on this – if there are lots of people here saying it's a bad idea, several at the wedding will think so too.

Why you would want to raise even a single judgmental eyebrow, especially when you don't really know the bride, is totally beyond me. For the record I am not married so not some crazy bridezilla! Once more:

Pick. ANY. Other. Colour!!!!!!!!

Sooverthemill · 07/05/2021 16:11

But it's not a 'white' dress. It's a floral dress on a light background. You people are insane

UniBallEye · 07/05/2021 16:34

I totally agree @Sooverthemill. Insane.
I can think of a LOT of other hills I would chose to die on....this is most certainly not one of them.
That dress is a perfect summer wedding guest dress!

diddl · 07/05/2021 17:06

"Why you would want to raise even a single judgmental eyebrow"

People who would raise a judgemental eyebrow over this really aren't worth any headspace imo.

Who would care about such a person's opinion of what they were wearing?

snowcobra · 07/05/2021 17:13

I think it's lovely, not too bridal at all.

I never understood the issue with wearing white to a wedding anyway, doesn't seem like a big deal to me

murmurlade · 07/05/2021 17:49

The OP will crack on anyway, it's inevitable! There's no getting around what people will think, that's just a fact 😄

Sleepingdogs12 · 07/05/2021 18:01

I think it is lovely. Add a coloured bag , shawl or jacket shoes and hat at it will be perfect for a summer wedding . If you will feel anxious about it though choose something else.

DenisetheMenace · 07/05/2021 20:45

murmurlade

The OP will crack on anyway, it's inevitable! There's no getting around what people will think, that's just a fact 😄“

Some people. Most, like me, won’t give it a second thought.

Can’t believe that people are giving other guests’ outfits marks out of ten. Seriously?!

Thewinterofdiscontent · 08/05/2021 01:24

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Posh Camilla thinks white is ok to wear to wedding ...

HeadNorth · 08/05/2021 08:31

I think the sainted Kate Middleton wore cream for M&H's wedding - maybe that is where all the problems started Grin

PinkTonic · 08/05/2021 08:41

it's commonly known not to wear white to a wedding, but if you get your manners from Hobbs then good luck to you

A long white dress no.

This is a pastel floral dress which is absolutely suitable for a wedding guest.