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DD's graduation - yes or no?

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Lobsterquadrille2 · 12/06/2019 08:57

I'm weirdly worried about it. No one else to ask. Is this ok?

DD's graduation - yes or no?
OP posts:
justanswerthephone · 12/06/2019 13:49

you weren’t the poster who said it was a comedy wig to hide her identity?

Absolutely not.

IvanaPee · 12/06/2019 13:50

That’s weird that they deleted your comment!

Mine was deleted because I called lonelysleep a nasty cunt. 🤷🏻‍♀️

koolaider · 12/06/2019 13:57

Hi OP

Dress is lovely and absolutely fine for graduation. I wore similar for my DS.

Yes, post a pic of your new wig please. I think with your figure a nice, sharp bob style would really suit you.

MapleSpice · 12/06/2019 13:58

@Lobsterquadrille2 I just wanted to say you look wonderful, your dress is perfect and please don't be upset about your wig, I think with your dress and maybe something over your shoulders because it's freezing it will all come together.
Nothing wrong with your wig, I think it's just because it has a lot of volume and you're so slim that it looks so glamourous but a jacket would balance this out. Be confident, you look stunning. It's your daughters graduation so definitely the perfect time for a bit of glamour.

Please don't miss this, not just for your daughters sake but for yours.

fedupntired · 12/06/2019 14:08

Hey lobster, you look stunning. I am heading to my dsds graduation next month and I also have lost my hair to chemo. I've not worn a wig for a while (my choice) but I wanted to say you must go, your DD would miss you so much if you didn't. Celebrate the fact that you can go!
Are you done with treatment?

Itsagrandoldteam · 12/06/2019 14:10

I think you look amazing, you have a lovely figure and the dress really suits you. You absolutely have to go to your daughters graduation, feel proud, because you look stunning.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 12/06/2019 14:14

Thank you. I'm so nervous now. It was the dress, not the wig (I had loads of posts about that last year). I don't want to embarrass DD. If it looks like a "comedy wig" I'd rather forefinger the whole thing.

Thank you so much to those who've tried to make me feel better.

OP posts:
Lobsterquadrille2 · 12/06/2019 14:15

Forego!

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ooooohbetty · 12/06/2019 14:17

Yes it's fine. I wore a similar style dress. There were people dressed in all different types of clothes. Some not dressed up at all. I'd advise a jacket though.

ilovecherries · 12/06/2019 14:18

OP, we’ve talked on one of your earlier threads about wigs, as I’m a long term wig-wearer because of alopecia - basically been bald since I was 19. So hello again :).

Your dress looks absolutely perfect, your figure is gorgeous. You don’t need in any way to cover it up/be more modest/be more sober etc etc. Although as others have said, it looks as if it’s going to be cold. I have been having a similar crisis about my DD’s graduation next week - I was beside myself at the weekend as I was told many of the mothers would wear hats (ffs hats+wig=disaster. Just not happening). Also because of a previous accident, the only thing I can ever wear on my feet are either clumpy fly boots or trainers. So I am going to be hatless and wearing a dress and trainer combo. A ‘friend’ made me feel really bad about that and I cried all over another thread about it. Then I realised that graduation is really about triumph - not only for the academic achievement, but also for us as parents, that we have steered our babies into adulthood and independence. I reckoned that was worth a celebration, trainers/bald/hatless, whatever. My daughter’s sage advice to me was ‘mum, just be happy, you always look great, and I don’t give a shit what anyone thinks’. So (I think I’m getting to the point!), go, celebrate and don’t worry about the rest. My own graduation was a very sad affair, for reasons I won’t go into, but nearly 40 years on, I still remember it as a miserable day. We have the choice to make our daughters’ day wonderful, so go for it :)

Re wigs, I always hack mine about, they take work to look natural and ‘not perfect’ which is always the give away. But actually, I don’t care what anyone thinks of my wigs. It’s not my fault I need them, I didn’t ask to be bald, and I change mine up all the time - my DH is always losing me in shops as he can’t remember what I looked like when I left the house. The important thing is that YOU are happy when you look in the mirror, and if you like your wig, wear it and enjoy. Have a wonderful day.

ooooohbetty · 12/06/2019 14:20

I didn't think it was a wig. I though you had lovely thick hair!

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 12/06/2019 14:21

I like the dress, but agree you might need a jacket or cardi to finish the look and also because the weather has been awful lately! You can always take a pair of flat shoes in your bag in case the heels start to hurt your feet. I don’t think the wig is terrible either.. Bigger hair seems to be quite fashionable in northern cities just now, but less so in London (no idea why).
Hope you have a wonderful time celebrating your dd’s graduation, and also that your health improves too. x
Flowers

BackwardsGoing · 12/06/2019 14:22

Your dress is perfect and I have attended about 80 graduations!

ToftheB · 12/06/2019 14:22

Honestly OP, the dress looks great. Ignore any nasty comments, people are ignorant, and in this case, wrong. You’ll fit in perfectly with the wide range of people at a graduation ceremony. Go, celebrate your daughter’s achievements, don’t let sad, nasty strangers drag you down.

Fatkins · 12/06/2019 14:25

You do look fab op! I think a jacket would look smarter though. I've been to three graduations fairly recently and people tended to go quite conservative, meaning shoulders tended to be covered; men and women, young and old and everything in between. That doesn't for one second mean you have to dress conservatively too, but if you want to blend in, then I personally would go for more coverage.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 12/06/2019 14:26

@ilovecherries thank you so much. I do remember you and I feel a bit better. Sorry, self pity engulfed me. Thanks

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SuckingDieselFella · 12/06/2019 14:32

The dress is very nice but I think you need a jacket on top. I'd disagree with those who say that anything goes at graduations. I've been at a few and they are formal occasions. Most parents wear dresses or suits and families from overseas wear their national dress. I'd go for a navy jacket and maybe a blue belt if that works with the dress.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 12/06/2019 15:08

"Most parents wear dresses or suits and families from overseas wear their national dress."

I have literally never seen this and if my husband (forrin) wore his national costume, my daughter would murder him.

SuckingDieselFella · 12/06/2019 15:13

I've seen a few parents from Africa and the Indian subcontinent wear national dress. Either the Chinese don't have one or their national dress is a suit. Smile

SuckingDieselFella · 12/06/2019 15:16

I've also seen a Sikh family whose turbans matched the colour of the graduate's robe. Looked very smart.

ooooohbetty · 12/06/2019 15:16

@SuckingDieselFella they are formal occasions but at the one I went to there were parents in jeans and T-shirts as well as those of us who were dressed up.

SuckingDieselFella · 12/06/2019 15:25

That's fine as long as the graduate is ok with it, otherwise they might be embarrassed. In any case, the OP's dress is definitely smart enough.

EnidButton · 12/06/2019 15:54

It's really nice. You look amazing in it. I would get a little suit type jacket or cardie though as I'm guessing it's either in the Minster or a hall and it'll be chilly when you're inside. Possibly when outside as well if it's breezy. Otherwise it's perfect!

Losttbh · 12/06/2019 16:23

I think it's the fringe maybe you could always cut it if it bothers you? I didn't think it looked like a wig at all just thought the fringe looked a bit long. I used to wear wigs.
The dress looks amazing on and just think maybe a thin cardigan in a handbag incase it gets cold as the weather is so unpredictable at the moment. X

LoafofSellotape · 12/06/2019 16:32

I'm sorry to hear you had chemo, but the wig is not great! It looks comical. Can you not find something more natural?

You're a nasty witch, bloody unbelievable comment and you're not sorry at all or you'd not keep posting such hurtful comments. The OP asked about her dress,nothing else.

OP, your dress is lovely, please don't not go,your dd would be devastated if you didn't.Go and celebrate with her and have a lovely day Smile