DD's graduation - yes or no?

[Lobsterquadrille2]

I'm weirdly worried about it. No one else to ask. Is this ok?

You look bloody great - but to be honest the hair is a bit out of the eighties - get a slightly more modern one and you will be rocking!

@lonelysleep I sure am serious and it's seems I'm not the only who one who finds your opinions vile. You've been spectacularly rude and nasty end of.

Hope this link works

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/2957775-Graduation-what-do-mothers-wear

It’s from 2017. Looks like your dress will fit right in.

@Lobsterquadrille2 is the new wig coming before the graduation?

If not, please don’t skip it because of the absolute creatures posting on here.

If you’re worried about it could you take it to a hairdresser who could maybe style it for you?

@lonelysleep I've never seen such rude continued posts!! You say the OP asked for opinions - yes, on her dress!!

OP I like the dress. It really suits your figure. You might need a coat or jacket if this weather keeps up though!

Looks fab on you. Take a jacket if you feel more comfortable (and because it might be chilly!) .

OP, your dress is lovely, but I think it will be chilly enough to require a wee cover up.

My mum wears wigs, she get 2 per year on the NHS so I would be surprised if you don't already have another wig you could choose, which is less 'going out'. I don't think the one in the photo looks as good as you are capable of looking, so I would choose a different option, if you have one. Loads of women wear wigs and it is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

It's a nice dress, very summery. Can I ask where it is from as looking for something similar for ds' graduation.

OP I think I recognise you from previous posts.

There are always a few people who are going to be twats. As you know from previous threads. But there are also plenty of people who tell you that you look great and that you do not need to worry.

What’s important is that you feel happy with what you are wearing and how your hair looks. If the wig makes you feel good then that is what matters. You shouldn’t let a few comments on the internet dictate whether or not you attend your daughter’s graduation, should you? That would be hugely unfair to her.

In the kindest way possible, i think you need to accept that style is subjective. There will always be some people who don’t like what you’re wearing, or your hair, or wouldn’t wear what you like to wear. That really shouldn’t matter to you. What matters is that you are celebrating your daughter’s fantastic achievement.

I think your dress looks lovely on you, but you should probably wear a little jacket too just in case it’s cold on the day.

York Graduate here. Dress perfectly suitable. Add a cardi shoes and bag and the print will blend in nicely. My own mum wore something similar.

The hair is fine as well. TBH all eyes are on the students and if Yourk uni and not York St Johns they will all be moaning about the grey gowns anyhow.

Go and have a lovely time. Have you got plans for food anywhere?

@Lobsterquadrille2 the dress looks really lovely, very pretty.
Please don’t let some stupid & ill mannered comments on this thread knock you, the most important thing is that you will be at the graduation supporting your child & their achievements have a great day & enjoy it 💐

My DC graduations had photos afterwards on grass

So might be a problem for heels but maybe ask DD where the photos will be (like the stand thingy for the whole course photos)

Dress is nice but you may want something to keep you warm if the weather doesn’t improve. Also be sure you won’t be expected to walk on grass-if you are (sometimes they like to put the stage and chairs etc on a lawn for some reason) then wear wedges.

I'd go for something a bit more sober

😂 it's graduation not a funeral for God's sake! OP it's lovely but definitely take a light jacket or shrug in case the weather isn't favourable.

@Lobsterquadrille2 I'd also make sure you have a tissue in your bag. It might just be me (I can cry at the drop of a hat) but I was very emotional at DD1's graduation.

I'm getting a new wig this weekend. My confidence is shot. I was already getting a new wig, not this thread but now I wonder if everyone is laughing at me.

Just read the rest of the thread. Dear god they are some right nasty people on here, thankfully their posts were deleted. You will look lovely on the day and your daughter will be delighted her mum is with her on her special day . And congratulations to your daughter!

I'll get the new wig on Saturday. I feel utterly pathetic that I'm sitting in a cafe crying about comments when I've got through worse, and I'm meeting a close friend to work out her mother's funeral.

Not wallowing! No self pity either. Just weird how the odd remark takes over.

I might post my new wig in case it too is eighties .

I like the outfit and don’t think the hair looks as bad as others seem to!

I think the issue with the hair is that it looks bulky near the roots, the combination of a thick, straight fringe and the super curly hair emphasises this. Could you go to a salon to get them to cut into it? I think a looser wave and a thinner, slightly shorter fringe would look fine. No need to get a new wig really, just needs a bit of styling. Have you backcombed it in the photo? If so, there’s no need.

My mum used to wear wigs after her chemo's and brain surgery. Wigs tend to look a bit unnatural because you always have a good hair day, where normally you'd have thinner hair in places and split ends. Please don't let the wig stop you from going, you really look fine. Don't let the critics drag you down.

Well I hope those that made nasty comments feel ashamed of themselves. I know it's difficult but rise above them, they don't deserve getting upset over. As you said, you've been through far worse and come out the other side!

My comment has been deleted but I need to clarify I said nothing nasty to the OP at all.

Quite the opposite.

OP you look absolutely gorgeous! I love that dress on you. I do agree though that you should probably bring a jacket just because if the weather is anything like it is here (Ireland) you will freeze but please take it from me (and it seems lots of others) you look fab. That dress is really lovely.

I’m a lecturer and go to graduations every year. The dress is fine and you have a super figure. Ours are held in a very chilly hall, so most people start with a blazer or cardigan until it warms up. If there are photos on grass afterwards heels might be a bit tricky if you have had as much rain as we have had here!

@justanswerthephone you weren’t the poster who said it was a comedy wig to hide her identity?