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Super stylish ladies opinions sought on this for wedding guest....

213 replies

Bellsandwhistle · 25/04/2019 16:14

So be honest and let me know what you think. Also what would you think if you saw this on someone? Who do you think would wear this to a wedding? Eg age etc

Super stylish ladies opinions sought on this for wedding guest....
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user1474894224 · 27/04/2019 18:18

Love it. Beautiful for a wedding as long as the bride is wearing a traditional wedding dress.

bigTillyMint · 27/04/2019 18:18

It's a gorgeous dress and I bet you would look fantastic in it. I dont think it is really bridal, but it could be seen as that by other wedding-goers (and obviously MNers!) Could you ask a couple of guests what they think?

Pinkyyy · 27/04/2019 18:27

So, OP, are you wearing it?

EdWinchester · 27/04/2019 19:20

I would have been upset and insulted if someone had worn that to my wedding

But why? I genuinely don't see a problem. It is not bridal. Just a lovely dress. I'd have been thrilled if someone dressed this well (there were some very dodgy dressers at my wedding).

Alsohuman · 27/04/2019 19:35

I can't even remember what any of the guests at my wedding wore. Either of them.

Rooftree · 27/04/2019 19:45

I’m always amazed at how many people on these threads say how upset or annoyed they would be if their guests had worn soemthing like (insert whatever dress we’re discussing) Talk about bridezillas, if brides are that focussed on what their guests are wearing then they’ve got carried away and are focussing on the wrong thing on their wedding day.

Rooftree · 27/04/2019 19:56

Just seen someone’s post up thread saying because it’s such a beautiful dress then it shouldn’t be worn at a wedding as too bad form to upstage the bride. No mention of it being too bridal, just too beautiful. I mean seriously, guests have to look only average do they, and wear average clothes, nothing beautiful, so as not to upset a sensitive bride?? I’ve heard it all now.
I love the responses where posters say that they would be thrilled that someone had made that much effort for their wedding.

thewreckofthehesperus · 27/04/2019 19:59

Views in here are mixed the same way views of all the guests at the wedding would be mixed.

That's why even if the bride was cool with it I wouldn't wear white to the wedding because there will always be people talking about you behind your back. I know there'll be people who say you shouldn't let that stop you but I wouldn't want to draw that kind of negative attention on myself especially at a close friends/family wedding.

Bodear · 27/04/2019 20:25

@EdWinchester I know that it may not be a “cool” opinion to have but I think manners and etiquette are important. Whether you agree or not, etiquette dictates that guests should wear white/ cream/ ivory to a wedding. It’s not in case they are mistaken for the bride (everyone attending the wedding must surely know who the bride is) but a mark of respect. I wouldn’t attend anyone’s party/ wedding/ whatever and ignore accepted social convention be it eating with a knife and fork or not wearing white to a wedding.

Livvylovesgin · 27/04/2019 20:42

No, from me too. Too bridal. Love the dress though.

I also don't understand the 'fine for an Irish wedding, much dressier than here' comments?
All the weddings I've been to here are very dressy, wouldn't think otherwise.

And for this dress it isn't about how dressy it is but how bridal it looks.

Baxdream · 27/04/2019 20:52

Oh I love it!
I agree about no white to a wedding but beige is new to me!
I wore a similar style (but coral) and felt amazing!
If you're worried, send a photo to the bride and ask if it's okay

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Bellsandwhistle · 27/04/2019 23:25

Trying on tmw.
Re the English Irish wedding thing it really is a massive difference. Been to 20+ weddings in each and Irish weddings def way more dressy. For example there’s a thread on here with is it okay to wear navy to a wedding and I have 2 of the 3 dresses for work (love the fold for work clothes). I would never wear a navy fold dress to a wedding here in Ireland.
Re the etiquette thing someone posted I’m laughing cause it says think twice about wearing gold and two wedding outfits I got tonnes of wear out of were gold! Maybe im just a hopeless case but no one batted an eyelid.
Also I’ve just remembered my cousins wife (different cousin same side of family) wore a white trousers suit to my wedding and I’ve only just thought about that now. On the day not a thought.

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NeverTalksToStrangers · 28/04/2019 00:02

Huge difference in Irish weddings, NI included. We also spend at least £100 on a present if going with a partner. It was £100 actually 11 years ago when I got married so probably £150 now. Aunts and uncles would spend £200-£500. Siblings £400.

My sister married an English bloke and the difference between the presents from English vs Irish was very obvious.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 28/04/2019 00:07

Too bridy

Drochaid · 28/04/2019 00:10

I'm in Scotland, accessorise with a fascinator etc it would be fine for a wedding.

I agree about the navy dresses btw - we dress up for weddings here!

Flobochin · 28/04/2019 06:57

@Bellsandwhistle I think you're blinkered - obviously you posted the question, knowing all along you'd ignore the comments. Wear your white dress and ignore the comments made behind your back. I'm sure there were also many when you wore gold to a wedding previously.

kaytee87 · 28/04/2019 07:18

I'm Scottish (went to an English wedding once and we were massively overdressed Blush).
I think the style and shape is totally fine, the colour is slightly bridal but in the second pic someone posted, the bottom half looked taupe? So if the bottom half is that dark in real life then it's probably fine. Will you wear a hat with it?

Rooftree · 28/04/2019 07:28

flob you’re sure there were many comments behind ops back when she wore gold to a wedding?! I bet there weren’t! And if there were, then maybe those people were the ones with the problem.
I don’t get this at all, I simply can’t see anything wrong with wearing gold for a wedding, please explain?

Alwayscheerful · 28/04/2019 08:02

Fabulous dress, more Coffee and cream colour /taupe, looks very difference with the fascinator. I would wear it with taupe suede sling backs.

Snog · 28/04/2019 08:11

Fine for the bride

Snog · 28/04/2019 08:23

If I were another wedding guest and someone other than the bride wore this dress I would assume that they are either unhinged or deliberately trying to upset the bride.

If you are happy for other guests to judge you similarly then go ahead and wear it!

Blackorblack · 28/04/2019 08:28

To me the skirt looks a sort of beige and I genuinely can't understand the anti posts.

Flobochin · 28/04/2019 08:56

If I were another wedding guest and someone other than the bride wore this dress I would assume that they are either unhinged or deliberately trying to upset the bride.

If you are happy for other guests to judge you similarly then go ahead and wear it!

As this poster says.

practicallyperfectwithprosecco · 28/04/2019 09:27

I'm a similar age to you I love that dress and would wear it - with right accessories it will look perfect.

As for not wearing cream some brides are ok with it - we are about to go to a colour scheme wedding (hate being told what to wear) colours are gold or champagne.

beanaseireann · 28/04/2019 10:15

I just can't see this as being too like a wedding dress. It has a taupe/ pale mink skirt. It's just a lovely classy stylish dress.
I keep looking back over the photo of it to see am I missing something. Smile
I've been to lots of Irish weddings ( I live in Ireland). The brides have all worn long white dresses.
I've never been to a UK wedding.
Perhaps that's why I can't see what's wrong with it.