wedding ettiquette , is a white dress ok when your not the bride?

[LilyLoo]

Just looking for opinions. I have a friends wedding in August when i will be 4/5 month pregnant. I have a white knee lentgh dress from monsoon i have never worn, strapless but fitted under the bust with a full skirt. I think it would fit me then and would save me getting a new outfit i wouldn't / couldn't wear again. But is white to a wedding ok ?

What a great idea Filly, repeat the genius all over again! Wish I'd thought of that.

Babyblue2 - umm, yes, you may have a point. And I'm yet to open the wine. Perhaps I should Step Away From The Screen.

well the bar is a bit low atm babyblue

its set at adult women spending the wedding photographs bitching about a pg guest (who, understanably, can't be ar$wed to go shopping) wearing, amongst other colours, white. So really...

Unfortunately Tesco don't seem to do their clothes online - I've just had a quick peek in search of the now famous tea dress. Bah.

absolutely definitely NOT

do not wear a white dress to a wedding

Nice one Filly!

noooo sadly it is not

also importantly it is reduced, it is £22 reduced from £55, i got the last one in cardiff

No. Never. But especially not if your the mother of the groom giving the dress you married your second husband in another outing. A true story. I swear.

White to a wedding is not OK. It is your friends wedding day and you are their guest. So you do not get to say 'stuff 'em' and then happily swill their champagne.

If your friends thought that wedding etiquette was out of date and unimportant, would they even be having that sort of a service?

Actually, on a serious note and to put the bride's feelings aside for a moment (after all, she is only getting married and the novelty soon wears off) - if you suspect you will feel uncomfortable, Lilyloo, perhaps that's the deciding factor. Good luck finding something equally nice and striking. You are allowed to look nice on these occasions btw, if people are so inclined to discuss colour of guest's attire, they will also have been so inclined to make an effort themselves. Believe.

FWIW, "stuff em" was to those who have nothing better to do than discuss dress colour. And it depends on the wedding.

Definitely wine time.

ok seriously

as far as i understand it, the bride DOESN'T care

the problem that has been raised is that some OTHER people may bitch about it

it is to them that the chant is directed

if the bride CARES then that is entirely another matter, OBVIOUSLY

I think she wants a little help not a little inflammation.

One could equally get inflamed about how ridiculous to worry about the colour of a dress.

Fillyjonk, I bow before you with a hand-gracing-the-carpet motion.

i think it was said in fun LL. I just wondered what the general opinion was and i have got it, i consider myself to be a very good friend actually and would have asked her opinion anyway. My reason for asking was i have never worn it and finances are a bit tight at the minute so i didn't want to spend a lot on an outfit that wouldn't fit me to wear again. Sorry i have offended you to that degree and i will put the dress away and look for something else.

Isnt it the point that the OP can shop now but it is hard to know in advance what shape/size you will be a couple of months down the line when pg?
I was quite different shapes with both my pregnancies, what would have fitted me the first time wouldnt have the second time round.
With a bright coloured shrug/cardi the dress wont look like a bridal dress and that is the important point isnt it?

Have I missed something, how does anyone know that the bride wouldn't care?

Bless you lily. Do return and tell us what your friend said. Good luck with whatever you decide, hope you have a fabulous day xx

lily said that she didn't thik that the bride would care but that she'd ask (I think)?

but you would wouldn't you, if you weren't sure?

seriously also, yes agree with panacotta, i assumed it was also about the faff of trying to work out what shape she'll be, i have this and its only 4 weeks away and it is a NIGHTMARE.

If you do need so get sth new, you could always get an Isabella Oliver dress from ebay LilyL and that way you can use it during your whole pregnancy too.
As they are wrap around and very stretchy they will fit you now up until you are 9 months (or even post baby) so this avoids you spending lots on a dress you only wear once...

whheeeeee - - - donk!

lily asked for opinions... i just gave her mine! She can do whatever she wants to do as an adult.... but in the real world it is not well seen to wear white at a wedding...

oh fgs, its just a wedding, lighten up people!