Sobernow, it was completely brilliant from our POV, moving BUT it was because:
A) I had a job to go to and we could survive on just my salary for a while while dh sorted out a nursery for dd and a job for himself and we've moved to an area where there are lots of jobs and practically a labour shortage so we knew dh would get somethnig easily
B) ex dh is in London and ds goes to him every other weekend so moving nearer London really suited us and made a massive difference - ex dh is here a lot now and that wasn't pssible when we were in Bristol, it was just too far
C) Ds was in a terrible school in Bristol so almost anythng would have been an improvement
D) we've moved to a sweet place, in the countryside but with a John Lewis within half an hour and London an hour away, which suits us all and means I could work in London if I REALLY had to (would rather not but nice to know the option's there)
E) We didn't have a great social life in Bristol so didn't really have many friends to miss
F) We don't have time for one here! Well, I suppose we could fit the odd outing in but not a proper social life
G) We moved from somewhere where house prices were out of all proportion to salaries, 10x I think in Bristol to somewhere where we're paid London salaries but where house prices are MUCH more realistic, bizarrely.
H) We're fairly self sufficient as a family unit and don't need many other people. I've made an effort to invite ds's and dd's friends to tea and they both seem to have settled v well
I) We're further from ILS and my mum but neither of them help out or anything anyway. And we're nearer EX ILS who DO help out, a LOT so we're much better off from that POV, ex MIL has stayed and had children overnight twice and we've only been here just over a year.
It was absolutely 100% the right move for us. I don't want to move again though, this is is, we're settled now I think and hope. HTH, do feel free to call me/email if you want a chat.
You'll make friends and get a job I'm sure - aren't you from up North originally?