You’re brave to wear that.

[Villanellesproudmum]

What would you think of someone you didn’t know came up to you and said that?

Regarding the loss of confidence. If you're in your 40s/50s, it could be menopause related. Similar feelings are reported on MNs menopause threads. Along with procrastination and a feeling that things are 'too much'. Perhaps you are 20s/30s, in which case ignore!

Lovely jacket and he was rude.

@DianaT1969 - really? Loss of confidence is normal with the menopause? I've not heard of that before, although I can completely empathise with the OP so maybe there's something in that.

I love that jacket!!
I'm glad a good thing seems to be coming from it. Fwiw I felt similarly anxious and out of place at a good friends party this year and put it down to the menopause.
I now take st Johns wort but I don't know if it's helping or not really

I would have smiled and said " Yes I am known for my courage!" then looked down at what drab shite they were wearing.

Very rude and the jacket is great. I bet you looked fab.

He was probably just as embarrassed. Possibly had a bit to drink. Came up and tried to make conversation or even compliment you and cane out with that instead!

That makes sense, I’m mid 40s and have loss of confidence, I’ve got to head a meeting this morning and sitting here dreading it. Usually I’m confident as i have to mediate.

St Johns ? I’ll look into that. Thank you.

St John's wort is great but just a word of warning - it can interfere with meds and especially hormonal contraception...So check all that out first.

Very rude, and even if you were wearing something outrageous or revealing
It would still be rude

He’s ether
Being hirribke on purpose, tryingto chat you up, trying to have a joke, or thoughtless twat