Bloom Its not something I've openly talked about and no one in RL beyond my school friends know we had a household of staff.
I don't really want to do an AMA because people can get very upset and rude about it. What I will share is that my father also grew up with staff and was the one who was very clear it's not normal. The staff worked for my parents not us and we had to help them. The staff were viewed as family and they are still on the payroll today.
Today I don't have staff. I don't have a cleaner. I hired a housekeeper and a cook earlier this year and the housekeeper left for a job that paid more cash (we had fully paid benefits so pay was a bit less) and the cook wanted to only work weekends which didn't work for our schedule. Before that I've not been able to find a cleaner who is good enough (trained by the best so I know my expectations are high). We clean as a family. My 2 year old is brilliant at the skirting boards!
I've never had an inheritance and won't get one. DH is completely self made. No joke I was almost paralyzed by fear when I was 18 and the financial support was turned off. I had been told but didn't think my father would actually carry it out. My sister had registered herself with my mother, a single parent with no income, so got a lot of financial help. My father was so upset by this, that help is for people who need it, and I agreed with him. I put myself through university, graduating with £15k saved up. You name it I did it. I ran student club nights (vodbull, loop etc) and got self certified mortgages to buy homes which I flipped.
As my boss said, I'm a grafter. I don't put up with bullshit. I can go from a car boot sale to equestrian event to an evening function. All are fun! Treat others around me with disrespect and I will annihilate you as a few people found out when one of my team came out as transgender so they could transition.
Anyway back to tiaras.