Anyone turning their back on ‘anti - aging’?

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I’d always used organic/simple products... my skin is fine ( l’m in my mid 40’s)
Anyway, l got sucked into watching blogs/ YouTube tutorials etc... l wanted to try everything to delay the inevitable. I’d previously been sensible and realised there was nothing, bar botox/fillers that might make a difference.
Yes, there are the retinols etc... but *they need careful monitoring and can just set your skin off - whenever!
I’ve been trying one Ordinary product after the next, on ( what l think now) is a journey on to nothing!
Seeing as only the retinols can penetrate the skin - maybe everything else is just not worth it?
Emotionally or financially?
Has anyone thought they’d try to ‘fix it’ and then thought “bugger it!”
If you did, what is your skincare routine now, and what did you do previously?
I’m leaning toward a nice simple moisturiser and a good SPF.

If somebody filled my jowls I'd look like Churchill!

I cleanse my face , use night moisturiser and that is it . In regularly being told I look 10!years younger ..
I personally hate the frozen Look ok of Botox and fillers but each to their own . I think it has the complete opposite effect of making you look like lizzy cundy who is frankly terrifying ..
my eyebrows are natural and again I think your own eyebrows always look better .

Dog or Prime Minister Ivor?

I was watching Nicole Kidman on Graeme Norton the other day and she looked awful - she has had that much work done she looked like she was wearing a mask. I totally get why she did it as Hollywood is brutal to women but I did think what a shame. She was naturally good looking with great bone structure and she would have aged well if she'd left her face well alone.

I'm not sure I really care that my face is aging. I'm 46 and yet to get any wrinkles but I can see my face is melting a bit. But the money used to rectify it (which generally looks a bit crap) could be spent on so much more interesting things so I've made my choice to enjoy my friends, family and travel instead of making other people richer.

I don't mind looking my age. But thanks to suitable cosmetics I can look like a less haggard and dull skinned version of me.

Lulu...oh God, in a certain light, she looks like someone has injected cottage cheese into her face.

My all time favourite model/actress/celebrity ager has to be Isabella Rossellini. She was fascinatingly beautiful at 20 and still is.

I'm quite lucky as have good bone structure, and my mother is 80, but still has good skin and her bone structure (which I've luckily inherited) holds up her facial skin well. She definitely looks her age, but is in good shape looks wise. Even her grey hair is thick and wavy. But if I needed it, I would consider fillers. I'm pretty sure I would. And if I had developed deep wrinkles at a youngish age, I would have tried baby botox.
But I got lucky.
I really don't think there is anything wrong with women wanting to look good to attract men. I like attracting men, and women, it's human nature. If that is why women are choosing to use anti-ageing procedures, nothing wrong with that. How else will the human race survive? Men don't seem to have a this problem with the thought of attracting women. Why is this a valid value judgement of women? That we shouldn't try to be attractive, and if we are doing it partly to attract a man, that our intelligence/political awareness should be called into question.

Oh dear, I know it’s wrong to judge people but my point is that Ms Rossellini has had nothing done and glows and then Nichole K, Lulu, Ashley Judd and Catherine Zeta Jones have thrown loads of cash at “the problem” and are a freakish version of their former selves. I wish all women didn’t have the need to have to pretend to be someone they’re not (anymore, in terms of looks).

I'm not comfortable pointing the finger at celebs (although I'm not saying I never do). I do wish they'd be a bit more honest about it and not keep feeding us the good genes and yoga twaddle, but I understand that they're mostly just trying to make a living.

I'd rather call out the people in the industry with the power, the ones who pat themselves on the back and give themselves an Oscar if they make one film a year about a woman over 50, and who even then would never hire an actress who actually looked that age.

I haven't read the whole thread yet, but my attitude to anti aging etc is that I think people forget it is a privilege to grow old...
I also reckon it won't be long until there will be studies showing Botox, fillers etc cause cancer etc

No one tells me I look 10 years younger.

She was very natural as an actress in the 1990s

I have! I stopped coloring my hair and it's about half dark blond and half silvery gray now. I'm quite pudgy so have very few wrinkles to start with. I clean my face this way, and it's been a revelation: oil cleansing method

I also quit wearing makeup completely about a year ago. I hated the way it made my skin feel, hated the faff of it at all. I don't miss it a bit, it's wonderful!

Just out of curiosity, these women who say they are constantly told they look years younger. How does this topic crop up in conversations? My age or that of others rarely comes up in conversations so, apart from close friends and family I really have no idea the age of most people I talk to, I could guess and would probably be correct given a year or two as imo most people do look roughly their age.
And women who have lots of work done still look their age, albeit a much more plastic and polished version. Just check out those ‘Housewives of’ series, those women are botoxed and filled to an inch of their lives but they still look like women in their 40’s/50’s.
I have to admit though that at 45 I’m starting to obsess about looking older and have been drawn in to watching lots of anti-ageing vids on YouTube it’s all a bit addictive, some of these women claim to be in their 40’s and 50’s and look really good. There is one I regularly watch she claims to be in her 60’s and has used retinol for the last 30 years, she looks fantastic and has the skin of a 30 year old. Not sure if it’s all for real or not. That’s the problem with the internet, a lot of it is smoke and mirrors and we get drawn in. How many middle aged men do you know who spends a fortune on skin care and looks in the mirror worrying that their face is sliding off!!

@SukiTheDog how do you know Isabella Rosselini hasn't had anything done?

Rightknockered, men worry too

Think of Rob Brydan and Wayne Rooney with their hair implants, not every man ages like a Clooney

I know lots of men who worry about balding heads, going grey, having a big paunch, sprouting hair everywhere (having to depilate their back, ears and nose)

It is a human thing, not a women thing

Yes men can be vain too and they have their insecurities - I would say hair loss is probably the biggest thing for them.
But bald men don't disappear from public life in the same way that older women do. They still have films made about them. They still read the news and present tv shows.

Also, ordinary men (as opposed to celebs) don't seem to be under any pressure to actually 'fight' ageing. And I do find it sad that we, as women, largely inflict that pressure on ourselves.

And, as I've already said, I have yet to hear a man say he was worried about looking cross.

I got diagnosed with cancer at 37, eight years later I'm still cancer free. When you are seriously ill you look at life very differently. Getting older is something I embrace I eat well, use SPF and face oils along with Retin A and that's enough for me. Life is for living not worrying about your appearance.

There is increasing pressure on men to look young too, but I agree, older men are still WELL represented in the media (George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Liam Neeson, and yes newsreaders for sure).
It seems ironic that actresses who were considered sexy are not allowed to get visibly old, and even with a lot of surgery they don't get work much past 50, whereas actresses like Judy D and Frances McDormand, who were never sex symbols are at the top of their game.
It's like if the men used to want to fuck someone they can't bear to see them old and supposedly unfuckable.
Hollywood is misogyny squared really.

I agree. Harvey Weinstein is just the tip of it.

Here's a game I was playing just the other evening. How many of Harrison Ford's 'leading ladies' can you remember by name? And how many of them are still making films?

twoweekcruise I've think I've seen the YouTube video of the woman in her 60s. She looks amazing. She says she's had no Botox or work done and she doesn't look like she has. Just retinol for 30 years.

@banana. I think she’s the Lancome model who, when she was sacked for being too mature, refused their offer of “help”. I could be wrong but, I’m sure I read it somewhere. Also, you can see that beyond her fabulous bone structure and genes, she has wrinkles, smile lines, a less than perfect jaw/neckline. I just love the way she looks. To be, she’s probably way too busy and intelligent to have spent time under the knife.

Floisme - did Karen Black appear in one of the Indiana films? Can't remember last time I saw her.

Kate Capshaw? Married Steven Speiberg and had lots of kids. Can't remember her starring in anything - but she's had loads of - ahem -cosmetic interventions.

Greta Saatchi (sp?) and Kelly Brook. Going to have to what they've been up to.

Meanwhile Harrison Ford married a much younger woman and carried on playing the action hero.