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Anyone turning their back on ‘anti - aging’?

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omBreROSE · 01/03/2018 11:30

I’d always used organic/simple products... my skin is fine ( l’m in my mid 40’s)
Anyway, l got sucked into watching blogs/ YouTube tutorials etc... l wanted to try everything to delay the inevitable. I’d previously been sensible and realised there was nothing, bar botox/fillers that might make a difference.
Yes, there are the retinols etc... but *they need careful monitoring and can just set your skin off - whenever!
I’ve been trying one Ordinary product after the next, on ( what l think now) is a journey on to nothing!
Seeing as only the retinols can penetrate the skin - maybe everything else is just not worth it?
Emotionally or financially?
Has anyone thought they’d try to ‘fix it’ and then thought “bugger it!”Grin
If you did, what is your skincare routine now, and what did you do previously?
I’m leaning toward a nice simple moisturiser and a good SPF. Smile

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Gwenhwyfar · 02/03/2018 10:25

I've never done all the things recommended here. I don't even cleanse most evenings, but do moisturise and have been using SPF recently.
I have to completely disagree that everyone looks their age though. Some people clearly do look older than younger than their age. That's not always about wrinkles, it could be their personalities, the job they do, anything really, but let's not kid ourselves that there are differences.

Floisme · 02/03/2018 10:28

I'm sorry to hear that Olliv Flowers Being in pain sucks.

Flowers to you too billie. I spend nearly as much time on the Feminism boards as I do on here, although I don't post there very often. Yes I am cross and I don't care if I look it.

rightknockered · 02/03/2018 10:35

I do wonder at people who have so much botox that they have less expression lines than children, that is never a good look.

IfNot · 02/03/2018 10:50

some people are luckier with how they age than others. It's easy to be sniffy about anti ageing if you happen to have a face that's aged well (so far).

This!!!

Also, in contrast to all the " I have never smoked and just sip a small sherry at Xmas" I smoked for years and drank like a navvy in my 20s. I also spent most of my 30s being bone crushingly poor. There have been studies that show that poverty ages people's cells years faster than people who are well off- and thats after adjusting for factors like smoking/drugs etc.
It's stress- years of worrying about the bills do not make for a youthful face!
So I wouldn't judge any woman for wanting to give nature a helping hand. After all, men don't want to get fat and bald either you know.
Anti ageing creams don't work though- I agree it's just the effect of plumping and any moisturiser will do that.

blackeyes72 · 02/03/2018 10:59

I have been thinking about dermal fillers as I have aged loads recently. I agree with the previous poster, if I had an easier life I would probably look better.

I don't have time to exercise, diet is iffy because of lack of time and my job means I am always stressed

Looks unfortunately do count in certain jobs and looking knackered all the time is not a great look. I don't want to look younger I just don't want to look like I need 3 months off work

I am hoping dermal fillers will make me look more normal.. I am not going to bother with botox.. I might regret it and wish I never did, but I really do look terrible for my age

ParalyticPeach · 02/03/2018 11:11

Just recently seen an up to date photo of Ashley Judd, Jeez, she looks like a completely different person and kinda creepy. She used to be so pretty. She would have looked much better without the fillers and botox

Ollivander84 · 02/03/2018 11:18

Flo - thanks Smile it's not as bad now but a stressful job, emergency spinal surgery and some other health stuff has taken its toll!

bananafish81 · 02/03/2018 11:21

I had my first botox last year (I'm 36) and I'm absolutely thrilled with the results. No one who I've told believes me when I tell then I've had it done. But what's the point of having it done if no one notices I hear you ask? Well the point is just that I look like me, but less haggard! I don't want to look younger than my years, but I did resent looking significantly older than my mid thirties when I was 35. Several years of traumatic life issues had taken its toll - the deep wrinkles around my eyes made me look totally knackered. The botox just softens the deeper wrinkles into finer lines - I still have facial expressions, I just look fresher and brighter. There's loads of people who've had botox done who you'd never guess - you just notice the badly done cases.

Filler on the other hand rarely looks good. The consultant dermatologist I go to said it's very very difficult to get filler right, and in most cases it's not going to get the best results. Most people who have hideously overdone faces likely look atrocious due to the filler rather than botox (although plenty of awful botox faces certainly abound!)

Openup41 · 02/03/2018 11:28

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ShewasjustawishStevie · 02/03/2018 11:33

So the game is over when a random bloke is looking at a younger woman in a bar?

Delatron · 02/03/2018 11:40

Haven't had Botox but I think practicioners are getting better with how they use it. They've realised obliterating every wrinkle isn't a good look and that less is more. There's still bad Botox though. Also everyone responds differently.

I do think fillers are so hard to get right. So many end up with the puffy, chipmunk look which kind of closes up the eyes.

I'm thinking straight to a thread lift in about 5 years. The new ones are amazing apparently.

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Floisme · 02/03/2018 11:43

Three reasons why I don't buy into it personally:

  1. Pragmatic. I didn't realise until I was through the menopause just how multi faceted aging is. It's not just wrinkles. Not just jowls. Not just sagging. Not even just thinning hair - although that's a particular delight. It's multifaceted and it comes at you from all directions. Having work done might win you the odd battle but you're still going to lose the war.

  2. Philosophical. My face is telling me that old age isn't that far off, and beyond that, death. It's not a comfortable thought but, as I don't believe in an afterlife, I'd rather be reminded of it now, while I'm still in good health and (hopefully) have time to get things done.

  3. Political. I've found that a lot of people - including, I have to say - some young women - aren't comfortable around older women. Well tough.

IfNot · 02/03/2018 11:45

I don't give a shit if men look at me in bars, I just don't want to look like my grandad.

Pleasebeafleabite · 02/03/2018 11:47

Ah delatron a thread lift with fillers on the jawline is the way to go. My dermatologist uses a collagen stimulating filler for this, the results look excellent

So no puffy cheeks as no filler in this area but you lose the jowls

neveradullmoment99 · 02/03/2018 11:50

Sometimes at 50 men still look at me but I have to say I really hate it. I try to look good [ for myself] but its refreshing to hear other people just accepting ageing on this thread. I do find it hard to see things degrading. I agree with ageing being multifaceted. You wont win the war - that is true. I just want to feel and look good for my age.

littlebillie · 02/03/2018 11:55

Dimsum I nearly spat out my coffee 😂😂

pearlkent · 02/03/2018 11:56

Pleasebeafleabite I just don't get this. How does filler along the jawline make someone look better? Who the hell wants filled jowls?

pearlkent · 02/03/2018 12:02

Also Floisme I'm totally with you on this "wanting to look less cross" excuse for having fillers and botox. I'm also on the feminism board a lot (haven't contributed yet but I am REALLY cross since getting educated about what's being done to women). Perhaps if we all go around looking really cross instead of "attractive" then we might get taken more seriously.

Firenight · 02/03/2018 12:03

Getting old is a privilege- I’m happy to embrace it.

expatinscotland · 02/03/2018 12:06

My face definitely looks my age. I just don't give a shit.

expatinscotland · 02/03/2018 12:07

Did anyone see Lulu on The One Show the other day. She doesn't look younger, she just looks like a chipmunk crossed with The Joker.

littlebillie · 02/03/2018 12:19

Flo Thank you Smile I am fine but it has change the tone of paranoia. Now I worry about not living the life I'm in.

Pleasebeafleabite · 02/03/2018 12:20

It's a collagen stimulating filler Pearl which works by reintroducing lost collagen rather than filling up the jowls. The collagen loss is what causes jowls to sag in the first place so the collagen kind of anchors the skin back in its correct place iyswim

Catastropheeee · 02/03/2018 12:32

Shewas but that is how I** feel, and which is why I am considering having work done, and why I have spent a fortune on face creams.

My feelings are as valid as anyone else's on this thread, which is on the subject of ageing.

No one in RL knows I feel this way btw, so it's not as if I'm corrupting anyone else with my socially unacceptable views Confused