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So I've realised I'm actually just an old, fat woman.

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Wilburissomepig · 06/12/2017 21:23

I went out at the weekend - nothing fancy, just a meal in a nice restaurant with friends. I bought some lovely cigarette pants, great top and heels and put a lot of thought into jewellery, shoes etc and I felt great for the first time in ages. (It's been a tough year and I haven't been out much). A friend posted the most unflattering photo of me on Facebook and I could cry. Firstly because it's so clearly a terrible photograph and I would never do that to a friend (with a 'ha ha ha, not your best look' comment underneath), and secondly, mostly actually, because it's me in the photo - that's what I look like. Even when I thought I looked my best I look old and fat and I'm feeling like shit.

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LovingLola · 06/12/2017 21:24

I am so glad I never joined FaceBook.
Can you ignore her?

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 06/12/2017 21:26

What an absolute fucking cow! I would tell her to fuck the fuck off, for a start. I bet you looked lovely and she’s just jealous.

SandyBeachandtheDeckchairs · 06/12/2017 21:26

Friend must feel threatened by you to do that OP, I reckon you must be fabulous. Who cares if you are old - we're all going to spend the majority of our lives being old, let's embrace it!

mintmagnummm · 06/12/2017 21:26

And ur still calling her a 'friend'! I'd say Bitch is more appropriate!

ggirl · 06/12/2017 21:27

not nice of her
photos can be so unflattering at some angles for anyone regardless of size and age
I hate it when people put pics of you on FB without asking.
You could ask her to remove it ..

SandyBeachandtheDeckchairs · 06/12/2017 21:28

please do not tell me that you are a size 10 and 23 please...

Grrrrinch · 06/12/2017 21:28

Ask her to take it down, that's shitty behaviour.

I'm sure you looked great, please don't let her knock your confidence.

Cakescakescakes · 06/12/2017 21:29

I hear you OP. I caught sight of myself in a full length mirror the other day when I thought I was looking quite good (hair done nice etc) and I looked awful. It’s so demoralising.

Tinselistacky · 06/12/2017 21:31

Sounds like 2018 is the time to make some new friends op.
I have no friends but at least nobody can make me feel shit.

to 2018.

Pebblesandblamblam · 06/12/2017 21:31

I bet you looked as great as you felt! I hate photos, they definitely lie!! No doubt the pics she posted of herself were gorgeous. God, I hate social media. Try and remember how you felt rather than the awful picture (and maybe put up an equally awful pic of her hee hee). Don't let her bring you down!

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Wilburissomepig · 06/12/2017 21:32

No not a size 10 and 23 I'm afraid, if only.

52 and size 12 or 14, mostly 14 if I'm honest. I would just never do that anyone, even if they weren't a friend. I look at it and think, how the hell did i get like that?

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KarmaStar · 06/12/2017 21:34

Hi OP, I bet you're being way too hard on yourself!
The camera can catch us at the worst angles and accentuate small problems.
Look how many so called celebrities touch up their photos.
It was just a bad picture.
I reckon you looked stunning.
Plus a beautiful smile,a lovely person,shines through and puts imperfections out of the window.
Ditch the photo.Ditch the 'friend'
Reaffirm you are an intelligent,eloquent,curvaceous woman.

ferntwist · 06/12/2017 21:35

I bet you looked a million times better than that, it was just a dodgy angle. Was anyone else taking photos that night? 12-14 is not fat!!

PhyllisWig · 06/12/2017 21:35

I do hear you. I am constantly telling myself that it's a bad angle, that I'm tired etc. The reality is that nahhhh, this is it.

Meanly my bathroom and hall mirrors are really flattering. I look in them and I look good. Then I see myself in a window reflection and meh.

But you are how you are, you will be harsher on yourself than anyone else and I bet you looked fab. And your friend is a cow.

Tantpoke · 06/12/2017 21:36

Oh OP that's awful, what a Bitch.

I have in the past asked friends to take down unflattering photos of me and they have done so straight away.

I have also actually done the same for others when they've asked.
So to actually put a comment on saying 'not your best look' is mean, but it is more a reflection her than you, so at least find comfort in the fact everyone reading her comment will never trust her as a friend again.

CallMeDollFace · 06/12/2017 21:39

She is no friend of yours.

CountFosco · 06/12/2017 21:40

Some people are shit photographers. DH is one, he took a photo of SIL and showed her straight away. She was genuinely horrified that she might look like the photo so I told her it was him not her then took one (with the same camera) and she was greatly relieved to discover she did not look like a baboon but was actually a very attractive woman. So post some comment about quality control and how you wouldn't be showing off your terrible photography skills if you were her. Or, more sensibly, rise above it and ignore.

How old are you and what's your BMI? You can't change your age but do you need to lose weight and has this horrible photo inspired you to do something about it? Or is it truly just a horribly unflattering photo?

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Wilburissomepig · 06/12/2017 21:43

I know I need to lose weight, I'm pretty small with a small frame so I don't look good with extra pounds I guess. I feel if I ask her to take it down I'll look churlish as people have already commented on it so it might be obvious I've asked to remove it.

One lovely friend has commented 'are you trying to embarrass Wilbur?' bless her.

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Tiddlywinks63 · 06/12/2017 21:44

My god, what a first class bitch!
Certainly no friend of yours op. I'd block her and console yourself that it reflects far more badly on her than you.
And you're certainly not old and fat I claim that title 😊

Cherrypie32 · 06/12/2017 21:45

This could be me OP, in every photo of me ever. What I see in the mirror is nothing like the photographic evidence. I'm obsessed with clothes, love make up and getting dressed up but am constantly disappointed by photos. It is a running joke that I'm the least photogenic person in the world so I take some comfort that I might be a bit better in real life but I personally would never put up a pic of me and prefer others don't.

nutellatruffle · 06/12/2017 21:45

How unpleasant of your friend.

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Wilburissomepig · 06/12/2017 21:47

In do need to lose weight Fosco, I've just started running - very slowly admittedly, but it's a start.

I'll be fine tomorrow, I'm normally pretty self deprecating but I've taken this to heart for some silly reason.

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RNBrie · 06/12/2017 21:47

You can untag yourself so at least it doesn't show up on your timeline. She won't get notified that you've done it.

I reckon she's jealous of you. I'm also a size 14 and mostly look fine but the wrong angle does me no favours. Friends are supposed to make you feel GOOD about yourself. What a bitch.

user1480334601 · 06/12/2017 21:48

Please don't go by one bad pic. It'll be a million miles from what people will see when looking at you moving about in real time etc. Bet you looked lovely!

Was there any other good pics from the night or did you take any yourself?

Christmascardqueen · 06/12/2017 21:50

friends don’t do this.
Please ask her to remove the photo.

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