So is my perfume for old ladies?

[ferriswheel]

Following on from the other perfume thread I'm now questioning how old-lady my perfume is.

I love wearing Miracle by Lancome.

I'm trying to get myself back after having three small babies under the age of five and going through a traumatic divorce with an abusive partner.

Any other recommendations?

Hi all

Thanks for your reports about this. We can see that this has been debated on the thread already, but do bear in mind that Mumsnet is for all - casual ageism can be hard to spot, but is as hurtful as any other ism when you're on the wrong side of it.

Cheers,
MNHQ

... and is also against Talk guidelines!

Tom Ford scent in blue bottle very like 4.7.11 but a hundreth the price!

I’m apologise if my remark caused offence.
But I did share a perfume with my Granny and she was chic.
I am not exactly young myself, and I just didn’t consider it offensive.

'Granny chic' or 'old lady chic' - a bit stereotypical but not in the same league as 'Help! an old lady likes my perfume what should I do?'

I said I would leave you to talk perfume and I will do but, In case you're wondering, I didn't report this thread. I've never reported one in all my time on here. I'm a bit of a lefty-libertarian and mostly I prefer to argue with people or laugh at them - or both.

I'm sure some of you think I lurk on these boards looking for a fight but, believe it or not, I'm just here because I like talking about clothes and half the time I tiptoe quietly away when I see a thread like this.

When I have engaged, my feelings have normally been a mix of amusement, bemusement and exasperation. The mix has varied, depending on my mood but I never have and never will understand the fear of old ladies on Mumsnet. I don't know if you realise just how starrling it is - if it's not a poster on AIBU worried because one smiled at her baby, it's someone on here in a panic because they saw an old lady wearing their shoes and ..... well and what exactly? I still don't know. It must be hard being so scared all the time.

Not read thread.

if you like it wear it

Join fragrantica OP, you will see a lot of fans of various perfumes. I like strong perfumes. Coty l'aimant, poison dior, mitsouko guerlain but I also like sweet perfumes like Prada Candy. Be free to like whatever you want.

Flois

I just don't mean what I think you think I mean.

At the moment I am very fat. I am going through a traumatic divorce following an abusive relationship. I have three very young children and I wear crap ugly clothes that could belong to any age of women.

I am slowly trying to he hip and trendy, kind of. I have no idea how to do that anymore. None at all.

I would like to upgrade my image from slobby, eventually I'd maybe even like to turn a few heads.

And for that I want to know what is hip and happening. And not dated, like someone who is older and a lady.

And, I threw my h out, so I'm not scared anymore.

Good to hear op. I am very sorry to hear about your relationship. That must be very hard. Good for you for kicking the fucker out.

I'm sure you will get a lot of support and good advice on here. Good luck and goodnight.

Thank you.

I've rediscovered the joys of Estée Lauder youth dew.
You don't get more old lady than that.

Ooops. Obviously haven't rtft

Funnily enough I like Miracle too. Even though it is sweet sm,elling so not my usual stuff. I find it quite uplifting thoughhave not bought some for a while.

I've got a secret love for Giorgio of Beverley Hills.
Also- has anyone sniffed Near Dusk - the Jen Anidton smell - it's supposed to be coconutty and is well liked on fragrantica ... No idea where I could sniff it though.

Some perfumes that I think of as being glamorous sophisticated Catherine Deneuve types are probably what others would call old lady - e.g. Caleche, Arpege.

Definitely Monty. Two magnificent grande dame powerhouses there. Love both of them.

Is "granny chic" or "older lady chic" a bad thing to say??
I actually like that style or "aesthetic"..I don't consider old to be derogatory because I don't think being old is bad. I think older everything is far more fascinating and has more character, history, wisdom, intrigue, layers, etc. But is that offensive? Honest question. Should I not say granny chic?

I can understand being offended if it's used in a mean way,but just saying old surely shouldn't be seen as shocking or bad automatically?
Older lady perfume to me is powdery and floral. Or a musk.
Cotton candy body spray or Vera wang princess is very young perfume

@Dustbunny1900 I always say/said Granny chic. It is actually what I call my fashion style.
I had actually never thought of it or meant it in a demeaning way.

My position?
'Old' in itself isn't complimentary or derogatory. It's not a look and nor is it a personality trait. It's just a life stage.

I take issue when it's used as a synonym for 'ugly', 'unflattering', 'unstylish', 'frumpy' 'small minded' and so on. I'll equally disagree with people who say 'its just a state of mind.' Bollocks to that - it's real.

I haven't really got a strong view on 'granny chic' but I think people talk far too often about old women as if they all look and dress the same so I don't use it myself. But I wouldn't call it offensive either.

Hope that helps.

Yes, it's ageist:

"Ageism is defined as negative or positive stereotypes, prejudice and/or discrimination against (or to the advantage of) elderly people on the basis of their chronological age or on the basis of a perception of them as being 'old' or 'elderly'. Ageism can be implicit or explicit and can be expressed on a micro-, meso- or macro-level" (Iversen, Larsen & Solem, 2009).

Estée Lauder perfumes are very old lady

Genuinely give up

Good grief

Why?

That was to 3way.