Crepey coalition of chaos

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Roll up hags, for all things Hotter.

BD, it all sounds quite mixed up and confusing especially since you might come back but yes important to start reqlinquishing. i see people at work who can't let go of their old job as they start their new and it's v hard on them and their colleagues.

I love the heat too and the knowledge it will be sunny the next day - one of the things I loved about Greek Island holidays. Camping on the other hand tho lovely in many ways ...

I'm liking the sun and warmth. Just not the expectation that life goes on as normal!

What I'd really REALLY like is an air conditioning in the bedroom. I can cope with most things if I've slept.

Would be nice to have an all round agreement that we all start earlier, have a much longer lunch break, then work a bit later. I love pottering around the veg patch around 8pm. Trouble is, that's the time I should be thinking about supper!

In S&B news, I'm off for a hair cut and a manicure. Ascot tomorrow. Need to smarten up a bit. I wish them luck sorting out my post gardening nails.
However, the shellac pedi I had 2+ weeks ago still has another week in it.

Sleepless night possibly partly accounted fr. Y fact I left keys in front door (outside) overnight. 😧

Daniel Day Lewis cannot be 60. He lpoks amazing!

I agree BTM, that's just wrong. And it means , unfairly , that I am catching him up. ( imagining that beautiful creature that he was in My Beautiful Launderette )

Auriga, sorry to hear about rellies being hopeless. It is very dispiriting indeed, but dd will not be like that. You are so close.
My sciatica is back too.ON THE OTHER SIDE. I sympathise completely. I am currently in agony and unable to sleep for longer than an hour as pain wakens me. I am already on full whack pain meds, so what can be done? Pilates out of the question as can't even get on the floor without weeping. Not helpful.

Spufford is such an unusual name isn't it. Have finished the book. Am delighted by an aged Tabitha.

Crem that's so awful. Can you get referred to a pain management clinic? I wish you were nearer. I'm not a natural chooser of comp medicine but the acupuncturist that I see locally is a veritable witch doctor. Have you tried acupuncture? May I also pile grateful thanks onto you for giving me the Maguire contact for DD. He not only answered her, but responded to her email interview with amazing answers for her module. Xxx

Auriga I am so pleased you're posting again, but sorry about poor support and contact from your sibs. Please stay and chat.

Cloud DH has thrown spanners in the works yet again re us getting AC for the loft bedroom, kitchen and sun lounge. I am so angry as it's not that expensive but now it seems we need planning, fgs.

Am having a quiet cup of tea in Tesco Costa after singing lesson, but will go to visit DFriend this afternoon with DS2 who has suffered such a terrible bereavement. She told DH last night at prayers, that me and DS had been her rocks at the burial yesterday. I am a bit cos we really didn't do much except hug her. What else is there to do?

Have just ordered Golden Hill from Amazon.

Lovely to see you back here Auriga.

BD, it must be difficult not knowing whether you will be going back to your old job. I took over from someone once who couldn't quite bring himself to give up his/my job. He was supposed to have retired but came into work every day - I had to get there early otherwise he would be sitting at my desk when I came in. I got IT to disable his account and he got very shouty with me. He involved the head of dept who hadn't quite realised the extent of his meddling. She had him escorted from the premises and his pass removed. Not quite the outcome he had envisaged! (Not saying you will be anything like that, obviously!)

Rose - I think your presence at a funeral would be hugely soothing and comforting.

Oh Rose, that's wonderful. Really glad and happy for dd.
Agree with Mrs K , Rose, you would be v soothing indeed.

Will go the gp route first, and hope against hope that I can be sent back to physio for traction.

Oh Rose, that's wonderful. Really glad and happy for dd.
Agree with Mrs K , Rose, you would be v soothing indeed.

Will go the gp route first, and hope against hope that I can be sent back to physio for traction.

Auriga, sorry to hear your sibs are being crap. Your DD sounds lovely and Im sure she wont abandon you.

Cremo, how horrid. Fingets crossed the gp can do something or refer you to someone who can.

Rose good on you going to visit. I cant imagine how they are coping.

Auriga, it is lovely to have you back, and I agree with others about your dd. Sorry to hear about your sciatica. And siblings - it is a sad thing to accept, and you deserve better; perhaps though it is one of those things that once accepted becomes easier to live with, or not to try to over-compensate for, or feel unreasonably guilty about (not saying you have been doing any of those things!).

Rose, what a lovely thing for your df to say. There is nothing anyone can do but I guess one just knows some people can be leant on and relied upon.....

Sweltering here. ds just back from an exam that has gone OK - and going to do maths with his feet in a bucket of water in the garden.

sorry, meant dfriend

Today I gave up my office and desk and as the person I am replacing hasn't left I currently feel like a refugee - I have 'borrowed' an empty student office.

My 'life' is in two drawers and on a shelf.... very weird.

Rosen you are a star and just being there for your friend is a help.

Thanks all. We just spent the afternoon there. She is very upbeat about it all at the moment but the crash will come, I expect. The grandparents looked devastated...one never expects grandparents to survive a grandchild.

BD It must feel weird...but honestly, keep your eyes on the horizon. You hated what was happening in the old role. I suppose you're a bit in no man's land but not for long.

I am a sweaty and probably smelly mess. Best place is the car...with the AC blasting. And the house also smells of sweaty bodies. Lovely.

Gosh, I dont envy MrsM's DS and others who are still sitting these wretched exams in the blistering heat. Poor kids.

more waves from Dubrovnik
Still here.

Montenegro tomorrow. There will be wine.

I understand it is très chaud in the U.K. We are rocking a very comfortable 28 and clear skies.

Sounds lovely 😊, however, the heat is nice when you are allowed to do nothing. Utter madness when trying to work, I have given up today. Can't even get shoes on due to pain. have made an appointment with gp for tomorrow. Sad 😭 and weepy. Oh dear.

Cremo

Oh Crem, dear

I will join you in a little weep, Crem. Already in bed after unspeakable journey back from work in C London today. Hope your pain eases soon.

Thanks for soothing words, dear Crêpes. I wasn't thinking DD would abandon us; just anticipating the changes after October when we'll go for days (weeks?) at a time with no contact, as other priorities take over .

I've bought Golden Hill too. I know the value of a Crêpey endorsement.

Slightly cheered by the de-fanged Queen's Speech. Was she trolling the Brexiteers with That Hat?

Crem, I am not surprised you feel sad and weepy. I would be absolutely howling. I am so sorry your bastarding sciatica is back, but has moved. That must be so dispiriting, to say the very least. I am sending you white light and hoping the gp can offer some relief.

Likewise, Auriga, I'm sorry to hear your sciatica is back as well. I hope your other poorliness is gone now. Sorry to hear about the lack of sympathy and support from your siblings after all you've done for them. Am sure your dd will always be there for you.
I am currently despairing about my dd, as her life appears to be going nowhere fast. I can't tackle her about any of it until I have my last chunk of the course out of the way because I just don't have the oomph left to deal with the massive unpleasantness that will result. Feel damned if I do and damned if I don't.

Auriga, lovely to see you and so sorry you've been having a difficult time.
With ds1 home on Friday after finishing his second year and with the prospect of ds2 heading off in October (fingers crossed!) I can say it's not all bad. When we left ds1 at university for the very first time I thought I could hear the sound of velcro being torn apart. For a few weeks it was a bit like that feeling when you first left your baby with someone and went out on your own - I permanently felt like I'd forgotten something or lost something somewhere. But it settled down and now it's fine - any sadness is more than made up for by the pleasure of seeing him setting out on his own independent life and managing growing up and enjoying himself... and the terms aren't that long and then they're back making a mess and being difficult about mealtimes...
Take care. X

I seriously wish my dd was capable of leaving home.

Yes, that Isi that exactly. And you get used to having space and peace and order (my dd is a destroyer of all three). I will be wibbling in the autumn too, Auriga, if ds goes to university - and I know he won't be so good at nice long chats or days out. And no dc at home after 21 years. I am looking forward to much less cooking and cleaning and getting my living room back though.