How the hell do you shave your fanjo?!

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Sorry to be so graphic but how on earth do people shave their privates?

Im 32 yrs old, have tried several times, but my pubes are so thick that it itches like crazy/bleeds gets so irratated and at times has been so uncomfortable I've not been able to go out.

Is there a knack I'm missing ? I've waxed a few times but mostly stick to using electric razors and shaving it really short. It's just way too thick

Sorry for tmi just curious as it's not something you really discuss amongst friends over lunch

I get waxed every month, it's quick and easy (because I'm not doing it myself) and I don't have that much hair anywhere anyway.

Each to their own - for whatever reasons they have it done. I don't like it when women are judged and criticised for being hairless. It's their choice. I feel cleaner, especially during a period as ALL the hair is waxed off, any inside my labia too.

OP... if you find a good beautician you'll find that the regrowth really slows and even stops, but obviously up to you if you can stand a bit of discomfort. Waxing isn't quite up there on my favourite things to do but I like the result.

lying I rarely see anyone judging women for getting rid of hair. I see people judging the fact that women feel pressured into removing hair a lot more, but I think some people confuse those two things.

Finding myself doing involuntary Kegels while reading this thread.

I'm with you, seoul. Full bush and fuck 'em if they don't like it.

I did go through a trial phase of waxing in my mid-20s, but after a while I realized, "Ow, this fucking hurts and it keeps on fucking hurting every time." So I stopped.

Nobody has complained, and if they did, see above.

I disagree seoul, I see women who chose to remove their body hair (particularly pubic hair) constantly facing censure from women who do not. You only have to look at this thread to see the language and emotional investment by women who don't agree with the practice, on this thread.

You (general) do not have ownership of other women's bodies so just stop it. You don't want to do it? Fine, nobody cares. Just leave other women alone and stop referring to them as 'thick'. I personally feel cleaner being waxed, that's my body I'm referring to, my personal chemistry and nobody else's.

I never hear this or ever read it from women who remove their hair. They refer to themselves and acknowledge and accept the choice It's the other 'side' who can't and won't accept anybody who doesn't do as they do.

Even in reference to the porn industry; all of the aggression is at hair-removing women, not the industry itself or the men who so-called 'make women do this'. Women will do what they want and long may they have that freedom of choice.

I have seen porn where the women have smooth and hairless fanjos and it makes me feel self conscious because mine isn't like that and I don't think I could ever even get it to be like that... I get terrible ingrowns. I have felt a pressure to make mine look more like that, especially in my early-mid 20s. And I'm in a healthier relationship now so it doesn't bother me that much.

I would never judge a woman for removing the hair or keeping it - everyone should do what makes them feel best. It's her choice and tbh, I don't really care. I've never seen someone judging someone for "feeling pressured" to remove the hair... I hear about women getting judged for NOT removing the hair by their crap partners.

Maybe stop watching porn then? Sorry, that sounds a bit dismissive and I don't mean it to be but you could feel the same about a Veet advert showing hairless legs. Nobody seems to mind that though, it's the PUBIC hair - or lack thereof - of other women that seems up for public scrutiny and debate. Just HOW has this come to pass?

The judgement on mumsnet on this subject - from women who don't remove their hair - is horrendous. I'm not anybody's 'poster woman' and I don't think any woman should feel obliged to take on that mantle.

The partners who want hairless women are not posting here, it's other women. Other women who just cannot allow their own sex to have opposing views on their own bodies. It's pathetic.

Some men don't like hair, or they do but it must be this much and no more, or soft, or removed, or a specific colour - and the woman must not be too fat or too thin or too clever or too thick. If we (women) all just had a policy of refusing to entertain any man who made us feel 'less than', it would save countless broken hearts and wasted years.

Same token for women who actively seek to make us feel 'less than' by their censure of our bodies. Their opinions do not and should not matter.

On the subject of your ingrown hair, whether you shave or depilate, wax or leave it alone - one of those 'mits' that you can buy in the supermarket is excellent for exfoliating and 'freeing' up the hairs so that they don't turn in. Use enough soap and then moisturise afterwards. That's the advice from my beautician. Hope that works for you, it does for me. :)

I don't watch porn - EVER. This was in my early 20s... I saw it back then and at that time it made me feel self conscious. I was speaking more to how women are made to feel self conscious, like they need to remove the hair. I'm not a porn watcher. Just not my thing. I was relating to back then - I no longer feel self conscious about it. It's not something I really think much about it. I can't be bothered to care that much anymore.

Oh, and thanks for the advice on the ingrowns. I will look for one of those mits, but I've used a BHA which is supposed to help. Nothing really seems to work 100%... and I also get chafing if I wear dresses. I'm not overweight. Just doomed it seems.

Never put talc near your privates. Recently been a big pay out in US for a woman who developed ovarian cancer.

I remember that, Radishal. And then Johnson's came out admitting that talc "probably does" cause cancer.

lying If you re-read my post, I didn't say anyone was 'thick' for removing their hair. I said they were thick if they thought it was cleaner. Because it is empirically not. It is, in fact, dirtier, as evidenced by all the people talking about ingrown hairs etc.

It has come to pass for obvious reasons in my opinion. Shaving legs has been around for way longer so people are used to it. Does that make it any more ridiculous? No, of course not, it is also ridiculous to remove leg hair. And yet I do it. Do I think I am ridiculous for feeling pressured into this practice that wastes my time and money? Yes, I do. And yet, I continue to do it. I don't kid myself that it's my choice or anything though.

I don't blame women for removing their hair, and sorry if it came across like that. Reading back, I see that it could come across like that.

It just makes me sad that we feel all this pressure. And I KNOW many people say they prefer it and stuff. It's like I prefer my hair being blonde. But WHY do I? Because society has told me that it's prettier like that. So I waste one Saturday in six getting my hair tugged about by a hairdresser and then have to spend every day putting serum and whatever in it so it doesn't get matted from being dyed so much and it costs shitloads that I could spend on anything else. It sucks, honestly. But I look at my hair and think 'that looks nice' so I feel like it's worth it.

I am not judging you. It just pisses me off that society has made this a THING so that now women under 30 (and plenty over 30) now think they HAVE to do this, even though it hurts and is expensive. For so many women, it's NOT a choice at all and that is just so shitty.

I live in Korea and it's recently started to be a trend here too. Before, it would have been unthinkable for women to get rid of any body hair here. I still see plenty of women with leg hair, yes, even young, stylish women. Their hair tends to be much softer and lighter than western hair so I suppose it's not as obvious. Now I see waxing places everywhere so I assume it is going to become unacceptable soon and they'll say they find it cleaner, and when they see a woman with a bush, they'll say it's ugly and dirty. I find that really sad.

rain, my comment about porn was really for the posters who harp on about the porn industry and women being too stupid to realise, blah di blah... it wasn't a pop at you, sorry if it sounded that way.

Chafing can be a real problem - there's a gel that you can buy that cyclists use. It's supposed to be very effective. Anti-chafing gel or something, you can get it in Boots and other places.

seoul, I read you post, thanks. I think it's cleaner (for me). I am not thick. HTH

Why don't you leave it alone or do the odd trim. Christ, do I have to tell my dd that once it grows she should shave it off/wax it off even if only a select few ever see it?
Maybe she should be binding her feet or wearing a corset to get a tiny waste.
If a partner dumped her because her privates didn't look like an 8 year old girl she'd be well rid.

lying Sigh, OK. I never said you were thick, but take it that way if you want.

Rad waist training is a thing now too, again.

Laser!
Have the laser hair removal, I'm blonde so I need this doing each year, 3/4 sessions the the regrow the is monitor. But a bloody good razor, not the cheap disposables and I maybe shave 1/2 times a week.

I just shave with a men's face razor. It comes off in two or three swipes and takes a week or so to start to regrow, so it's pretty low maintenance. It doesn't itch or anything.

I'd try IPL if shaving doesn't suit your hair type though, I've heard good things about it.

Magic hair removal cream changed my life.

seoul, just stop ok. I 'met' your criteria for being 'thick' by saying that I think it's cleaner. I do think that (for me). I don't impose my activities on anybody else and perhaps that's where you needed to caveat your judgemental comment. You didn't so just own what you said and maybe be more circumspect in what you say in future.

How is it cleaner? Just ... how?

Radishal and you're another one. A grown woman's hairless labia will NEVER look like an 8-year old girl's, ffs.

Ffs back atcha! I think it's gross and slightly disturbing to remove pubic hair. You don't. You're not my partner so I don't care. But I hate the idea of my dd being pressured into this.

JeNeSuisPasVotreMiel It was nearly 3am when I responded to this post so yes, I did use incorrect terminology. Why do you feel it's needs pointing out more than once?

I don't care whether you remove your pubic hair or not, but saying women who do look "like an 8 year old" or "prepubescent girls" is nasty, offensive and wholly inaccurate.

Or I could say it looks like a wannabe pornstar.
Whatever, your privates, your aggro. I'll never see it so I don't care.

Today 10:34 Radishal

How is it cleaner? Just ... how?

This has got to be the most idiotic question ever.