Proportional Crepresentation

[Cremolafoam]

There you go lovelies

Don't know BTM.occasionally I just feel completely overwhelmed and worried about everything and everybody. It makes me tearful and snippy. Not good company atm.

I'm feeling the same - worries about DS's health, both DC's exams, DH's job stresses, my own job stresses... It's shit, isn't it!

Awww....BTM and Crem, you both soldier on with so many worries, some you can't do much about but still feel responsible, no wonder you feel wobbly sometimes. I wish we could make that bench more comfortable.

Rose, hope you are sitting pretty now, after the appointment.

Thanks all...the results are on Monday...this was just the tests.

Crem I think many would share that kind of sudden, unexplained descent into anxiety and worry. Perhaps is just our bodies and minds reminding us we're human after all, and all this coping that we do has the occasional blip. We do rally though...and so will you, and you BTM This grey, cold weather doesn't help.

In S&B crisis news, we have just been allocated tickets to a charity gala which we thought we weren't going to...(DD is singing). I feel fat in all my finery (even though the bloat is reducing slowly with austerity eating) but it's NEXT WEEK. Have ordered a dress in my size and the size up.... Praying for vanity sizing.... trying to be discrete but stylish

BTM, Crem - sorry you are feeling wobbly. Not surprising, really - life is just so full-on at times. BTM - silly season will be over soon.

MI - sounds like DH is just "venting" but it's still not on. Hope he realises the impact of his words. Blinds are a pain - I have a Roman blind that has needed sorting for about two years. It goes down, but not up again, because all the cords have rotted. Quite frankly, I CBA, as it doesn't really need to be closed, and now we are planning to change the decor when we get the new wood floor down I CBA even more. I have plastered tape all over the cord holder in a big X, so no-one can release it.

Cloud - I apply the same method to chargers as I do for sellotape and scissors. I buy loads and scatter them everywhere. It helps that the DCs are Apple Tarts, whereas DH and I are sensible Androids, so our chargers are no use to them.

Very classy black number, Rose. Cloud - I have been considering this dress - would it work for you?

Lovely dress, Rose, but then I've never seen you look less than stylish.

Cloud, just to throw a sympathetic spanner in the works, are you sure you don't already have something that you know you like, maybe from a few years back? It's horrible shopping when you're just not feeling it.

MI, , everyone's right you shouldn't be scared. I get scared too - nowadays it's usually in case dh gets angry with the dc and it escalates, so I've become a serial preemptive confesser (can't be -or, that would be quite different) but accidents happen and that blind sounds buggered anyway. I gave Hyde problems with lalsy's curtains but she doesn't shout at me.

I don't mean to embarrass you MI but I'm still stuck on you being scared. You've said it twice now.

Household items break and need to be mended or replaced. Unless you were swinging on the blind, which you weren't, I can't see how you can be blamed.

I don't believe for a minute it will take hours to fix or replace. Even if it would, that's no excuse for shouting and slamming. That's intimidation. If he did it at work it would be gross misconduct and he could be summarily dismissed.

How do you tolerate it?

Sorry about the anxiety, BTM and Crem. I have it too, partly because of my own health and partly because DSis1 has relapsed into alcoholism again. Thank goodness for a healthy daughter and a healthy dog.

Trying to cook and keep constructively occupied.

Rose - you will look beautiful in that dress. I hope the test results are as you would wish.

BTM and Crem sorry things are so stressful and Auriga too - bad news about DSis - so difficult for all concerned. Your DD seems lovely though.

MI - my DB tends to do explosive shouting - he tried it on me once and I let him know what I thought. His wife who was there said he did this shouty tantrumy stuff often. I get the impression she tolerates it more whereas as I'm his Dsis I tell him where to get off. He is fairly harmless, if wanky but think it is an objectionable way to behave, if only because of the way it makes those about him feel. All that to say, does your DH realise the effect of his behaviour on those around him?

Thank you - I meant I'm embarrassed to admit that my domestic dynamic is like this and that a mouthy feminist like me has to edge round some discussions (see also: money - and quite often Where Is The Suchandsuch). The problem is that if I raise it it turns into "oh so it's all about you and I am not allowed to have any feelings or failings even though you...etc etc". Sometimes I rehearse telling him stuff and do realise I shouldn't have to do this.

The girls are better at telling him where to get off when he's grumpy. He doesn't shout at them. Which is presumably why they're a bit less cowering and pathetic than I am.

I don't want to tolerate it. I don't like it. But if I go home (I'm on my way from choir) and point out I'm scared of his reaction he'll either do the "right so I'll never admit to any weakness, I won't do anything about my feelings, it's all about you" or get angry again.

My BIL ( the not nice one) did explosive shouting to me once ( am loving that term, Hatty) & I have not spoken to him again since. I put the phone down.

No one talks to me like that - if they have issues they can come & discuss them with me - I am happy to talk and discuss things.

But being overbearing & shouting is NOT ON!

I suspect you have posted more than you wish you had, MI and a bit of me is sorry to drag it up again, but it is just not acceptable. Your (D)P is 100% in the wrong for making you feel intimidated.

I hope you have a moment to tell him all of the above.

(And not just my post but lots of Crepeys agreeing with me re his behaviour)

{{MI}}

Auriga I'm with you - it's the scared thing that bothers me MI. We all break stuff. I have shafted the lovely tall tap in our bathroom by being too heavy handed with the cleaner that scars it. I'm mortified, DP is it's just a tap....
Why should he treat the girls different to you? That's wrong.

MI - we have a blind like that, and it has never been right, but it is always me or DD2 (it's in her room) who breaks it. DH says there is a knack to it, and you shouldn't just pull the cord. DH used to shout a lot at me and I used to get scared but if he does it now I just ignore him. (He improved when DD2, who was about 8 at the time, shouted at him to not be horrible and make Mummy cry.)

MI, you have nothing to prove. He is the one shouting and getting angry - and of course that is scary and makes you feel rubbish - it would anyone. I remember you posting about money conversations before.

Right.

I've talked to him.

I think he got the point. I'm quite sure he will do it again at some point and I will do my utmost to tell him where to get off.

Well done MI

Very pleased to hear that, MI.

Off to Brighton to find dream dresses.

Already going through WTF to wear angst. Will it rain? Will it be hot or cold?

Will report back later.

May the Squad be with you, MI.

Crem and BTM, how are you both today?

There are some more [[
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Bit flattened today. Rather stupidly did not realise anniversary of my mum's death (tomorrow) would hit me like a truck.

Be kind to yourself, MI.

Yes, be kind to yourself MI. And Mr Inferior needs to stop being a Knob.

GGG - I have booked a ticket for Sunday. Molly - do you want to meet up and brave the wilds of Norf Landan with me?

DD1 has, so far (and still some way to go) concluded that the exams have not been as bad as she thought they would be. I have not, to date, had screaming hysterics after an exam, only before. But there is still plenty of time. Ho yes indeedy.

Does anyone have any idea how I can chase up a hospital appointment, when the hospitals concerned never answer the phone and never return calls when you leave a message? Take time off to go there and see what is going on in person?

In S & B news, my Hotter sandals have arrived and are blissfully comfy. They helpfully included a catalogue for Plumbs stretch covers. At least it wasn't Chums...

Email the department/specialist directly and every day? Can I help?

MrsS when I couldn't get the hospital department to return calls or answer letters I went through PALS. Would have tried emailing first but couldn't find any published email addresses. PALS got someone to call me back.

Mrs S , i tend to bug the consultant's secretaries. I keep a handy list of their extension numbers.
Go to the website and get the number for complaints. Or what Auriga, sensibly said.

MI , well done you.

Where is Rudy? Is she ok/away?

MI, well done. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Crem, hope you're feeling somewhat better today

Sun is finally shining this neck of town [reasons to be grateful] and I'm trying to tempt Lalsy out to the exhibition mentioned above.