Hm What crappy news BTM & Mrs S.
I think you are right BTM. Whatever their 'struggle' is, you can bet we won't think it as bad as they do, so good call.
Mrs S, i understand your anxiety over dd2. You know what I've been through with dd here, and from experience , no you can't make them tell you things if they don't want to. If you have any inkling about what it might be start here If you just don't know, you'll need to research, ask school , ask parents of dds friends, ask dd2 if there is anyone, MI for instance , that she could talk to. She must be terrified of whatever it is, that she can't or won't talk to a Cahms person. Dd wouldn't either, and thought she was, lame or just 'not very clever' ( dd could run rings around her and I honestly didn't think much of her I'm afraid) It won't matter if you cajole or threaten, if she is worried about what she perceives to be the consequences and had clammed up.
What about letting her see the gp on her own? The school nurse may be able to help, but I might worry that if the nurse works for the school, and school is part of the issue, dd2 won't want to give forth. The other option is to look at how willing she is to help herself. You can direct her to relevant websites, some of which can do online counselling and provide helplines. The anonymity of these can really be good.
It will come out Mrs S.It could be absolutely nothing, but I'd err towards caution and bring out the big guns, ( gp, referral, helpline, a Lot of time with her, extra gentleness, ) to get to the bottom of it.
Thinking of you both. Unable to sleep. Oh yeh, it's Sunday night again isn't it. I never do.
BD i hope tomorrow is not Completely grisly. You poor thing🌸🌷🌹🌺💐🐾
So far I'm a total failure in getting a pet. Herbs, what am I doing wroooonnnng?