Spring is sprung, the grass is riz, I wonder where those Crepeys is?

[GiddyGiddyGoat]

Ha!

Well Done, Rose - I hope your gut feeling is wrong, and it all goes swimmingly from now on

Good to have you 'back' MM - I hope your mood continues in an upwards fashion.

MrsS and and more

Just back from bereavement counselling. My original therapist (who I'd seen 3 x) has now gone off on some long term sickness, and no-one knows when she'll be back. I have a rather young man in her place, who reminds me of a comedian. I'm not sure its going to work - AND I had to tell him the whole caboosh all over again.

It is, at least, allowing ME to vent and cry. I can't do it around here...

MrsS I found that because I live 200miles away and couldn't just rush up there, the GP took charge. Perhaps now is the time to do the same?

I am going to have to speak to the GP or Practice Nurse at some point. I will try and call tomorrow. She will need to give some kind of authorisation for them to speak to me, and I am not sure she will do this.

I spoke to her BFF (who is also my Godmother) tonight - she is one of the few people that my Mum listens to. She said she was going to try and persuade my Mum to spend some of her money on a convalescent home, somewhere nice for a few weeks. I said she would rather die on the bathroom floor in a pool of piss and use the money to line her coffin.

I am back home now and never want to see a sandwich or piece of bread again. Or a packet of value bacon, ham, cheese or fake butter.

Fingers crossed your Godmother can persuade her.

MrsS, I don't know what this means in practicalities but agree with others - she must not suck you down. Do what you can, but not that.

Cloud, you have a bumpy road ahead whatever you decide I guess. I am sorry you are not getting more support. What is the two days a week course you are thinking about, if you are able to say anything here?

Rose, a very cautious whispered whoop here. He sounds wearing.

NU, can I come on holiday with you please? .

MM, sooo pleased you are feeling better and brighter. Onwards and upwards.

Or in my case, upwards and bedwards. Took ds to an open day (where dd is), very long day, ds' only question was whether you get seconds at mealtimes . No-one could say he is not grounded.

Blimey Mrs S, is that what Granny S has been living on? Heaven help us. Let's hope that your fairy Godmother can wave a magic wand.
Have wheezed through a Pilates class, as she pushed us me to the limit.
Am now watching that medical programme about people with rare genetic problems. It's absolutely fascinating, particularly the girl who was treated with immuno suppressants for what was thought to be a mental illness.

Lalsy - It would be a Monday and Tuesday I'd be up in town. I can't say much on FB either, as I'm already doing a good job rattling the cage of my SIL who I helped on her final college project of her interior design course. She never thought I'd obviously go back to it... and I didn't either at the time. It could all get a bit petty if I'm not careful. So I'm just keeping very shtum.

MrsS - I say this because I can... but do you know what? If your DM wants to keel over on her bathroom floor yet again and line her coffin with the remains of her money - then let her. It's an awful analogy, and I know blood is thicker than water, but.... but.... maybe it's time to call the GP/ Godmother/ District Nurse and say 'I'm outta here. Can't do it. Work calls. Over to you'.

And then.. Just back right off.

Get yourself over to the Elderly boards. They're a great bunch and helped me hugely over several years. Hope you're now comatose with a large bottle of something and a decent meal.

MrsS much strength. I can only imagine how hard all this is (at least there was my dad and bros when I went through it)

BTM and Beachy how are the ds's? Beachy hope he was okay when you got home.

Cloud hoping all is okay.

Rose you go girl :)

Auriga

Everyone who needs it has my love and shoulder. KOBO crepeys

MrsS how is it going today?

BD, good to see you - how are things with You?

Lalsy at your DS - is he planning on catered halls?!

My DS is finding it hard ATM but it's almost the holidays - We are hoping that will help.

For those that (a) remember and (b) care I can report back on my attempt to unshrink a viscose dress. Following the advice on here I washed it with hair conditioner and then stretched it as hard as I could without tearing it and then cold rinsed it and spun it in the machine and then stretched it some more before leaving it to drip dry. It's not quite back to original state but it is wearable again so thanks to all for household management tips.

MrsW, I am most cheered by that.

WAF did inspiring and energetic talk at skool yesterday. I waffled

Wow Mrs W thats amazing!
MI i am sure you were brilliant and not at all waffley.

We will meed a new thread soon hopefully with Crepertoire in the title

Mi you are many things but waffly certainly isn't one of them. What a double act, you and WAF I bet it was inspiring!

MrsS good to have someone in your corner even if your Dm won't play ball. You must be firm with all stake holders in managing your DM about your circumstances. Then they will have to come up with a workable care plan. And what other support do you have apart from us? Is DH being at all supportive?

MrsW I am intrigued. Someone should write a book on clothing rescue.

BTM and Beachy I'm sorry to hear the DSs aren't so good at the moment. . beachy I am about to message you re coming down to the flat over the hols.

MM so glad you are at last well.

I have seen private client whose family are saying nice things about me. I SO need this. They say they have never seen so much improvement in such a short space of time and lots of people have commented. Can you Crepeys please remind me of this next time I slip into an "I'm useless and invisible" fug? I think my course has been saved with now 8 people booked but the buggers won't adjust the status to "viable"

Love Crepertoire ...makes me think of something between a birthing stool and a commode for some reason....

Crepertoire...armoire..boudoir...

A crepertoire of superstars in the boudoir, still in our peignoir in the late apres-midi

Peignoir! What a fab word. And a nice new f and b paint colour too..

... talking of which here is one of my favourite things from Facebook ever

Still under the cosh. Back soon. Love to all xx

What ho crepeys.

All been a bit emotional this week. DP has admitted that he is ultra depressed. He feels in a hole, in constant pain, that he can hardly carry on normal life. He's even looking into counselling, or even ADs, which is very unlike him. I feel bad now for bawling him out about DS, concert, etc...

His state of mind is not helped by a mad aunt (sister of mum), who is haranguing DP and his siblings about the fact they didn't play a tune she wanted at the funeral. Endless messages about 'I thought you cared about me', 'I can't believe you'd deny her own sister this one wish', etc.

Interestingly/disappointingly, despite DP coming from a huge Irish family, all of whom bang on on Facebook about being 'all about family' and all that, not one has phoned or contacted DP since his mother died, other than Mad Aunt. And at the funeral they all gathered together to get pissed and sing maudlin songs, while ignoring DP and his sisters, the grieving children. Not Impressed.

And this week I've left my lovely class of adults, some of whom cried and some said the wouldn't come back, and my lovely volunteering gig in the primary school, who gave me a lovely card from all the children and lots of kind words. It's all very sad, yet life-affirming, and makes me feel that maybe I do in fact have some kind of point to my existence.

Thoughts re new thread title - something about adding to the crepetoire, one wrinkle /tena lady / Hotter shoe at a time?

In and out the armoire with the crepey crepey crepertoire

lol

Sorry, Herbs, really crass cross post there. Was typing, clearly, as you posted.

ADs and counselling sound a good idea when someone loses their mum - I'm sure the GP would offer them both like a shot. What is the constant pain? Is that emotional pain?

Emotional pain, yes. He's always been something of an Eeyore, then his dad died three years ago, then a year after that his mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and of course subsequently died. It's been a hellish three years, and I just don't think he has any emotional reserves left. He's reluctant to get any drugs, as doesn't want to get dependent, and what he's feeling is perfectly natural and maybe doesn't need medicating?

He's away at the moment, in some shitty hotel in Brussels...

It is perfectly natural, but that's not a reason to avoid ADs. If he broke a leg, pain would be natural, but that's not a reason to avoid painkillers. People have odd thoughts about ADs but they are not necessarily rational.

Herbs, poor dh, and you. I agree with Colly. And sadness is different from depression.

MrsW, finding Viscose Unshrinkage cheering too - could it be a metaphor for something?

BTM - suspect it depends where he goes as the set-ups are all slightly different. Where we were yesterday, it is more restrictive than some and carries the hideous threat of room sharing.

Poor dp, Herbs and so many 'endings' for you too. Has he tried bereavement counselling, specifically to deal with the last three years? It may be worth starting there and then moving onto AD's if necessary. The counselling and AD's do work in conjunction with each other.

Here, ds is OK at the mo. He is really really upset at the level of casual sexism and 'crap banter' that the boys seem to dish out to the girls at school. Dh has disappointed me no end by declaring 'its all just nonsense that teenage boys spout'. I'm really not sure what to advise...I'm really pleased he's standing up for the girls, but he seems to be getting in quite deep.