Looking Good, Feeling Crepe.

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New thread, anyone?

Molly

Have a good stomp round BP; wish I could come but taking DD to offer-holders' day at York.

Have a good Friday everyone and BTM, fingers crossed here

Best of luck everyone.

And to all newbies/relative newbies/droppers-in and lurkers: we really do our best to be friendly and welcoming. It's one of the big reasons we've not moved to being a closed group - we like new people. I know the threads can move confusingly quickly but please don't let that put you off.

Molly and Rudy, thinking of you re 'oscopies and hoping for good news all round.

BTM, fingers very tightly crossed.

CV - I love ALL GGG's suggestions - how very cheering

Thinking of all Crepes who have challenges today, Molly and Rudy's DS for hospital procedures and MrsS for interview. And Tilly's DS for getting to school. Thinking of you too BD, remembering your DM.

CV I'd go for the wench costume personally....

I do feel a bit of the BP park walks...being too bloody far away to partake. I could do it on my own hereabouts (in the north end of beyond), but it feels lonely...and I do need exercise and to lose a shitload of weight

Nevertheless, Monty I too am going to the hairdresser this morning. I don't normally dye my hair but I am resolved to go a bit red....

Best of luck, Molly! Hope dh gives you plenty of tlc afterwards.
Best of luck also to Rudy's ds.
And I will keep my fingers crossed for BTM's ds too.
I feel utterly wrecked after those 3 glasses of red coupled with very little sleep. Dd went into a full-blown meltdown yesterday, and I had to get one of the people from the meeting last week to talk to her. She is demanding that I go up tomorrow to help her clear her room and bring it all home. 1) I doubt that her doing a 2-hr drive with her cellulitis is a goer or any kind of a good idea, and 2) I do not have time this Saturday to do it because of a huge amount of prep required for an assessment I am doing next Fri. In fact, I will probably have to go into work tomorrow to pick up more stuff I need, as have no time for coursework during my teaching days. Also, I am currently struggling with the effects of my own MH issues and am v tired and whizzy. No surprise there, as it's just a reaction to having a bit much on my plate, but it does require management. 3) I can go to dd's accommodation next Thurs morning if I stay in the area after my course session on Wed evening.
I realise that to those who aren't aware of the years-long backstory, I must seem like a right old bag. But dd needs to realise that she's an adult now and I am neither her personal slave or superwoman. It is strange how if anything remotely trying happens to her, she gets to lie in bed for 6 months, whereas the last time I spent the day in bed was when I had a sick-bug during the May bank holiday last year.
I am waiting for a response to the suggestion that I help her clear her room next Thurs. It makes no bloody odds really, as she has to continue paying rent until April.
Sorry for long and dull post. Trying to marshall my thoughts and develop a plan of action for the next 7 days.

Stropps - you are totally correct. Do not budge. You have quite enough on your plate. Well, more than enough. Like fitting a massive roast dinner onto a saucer. Your DD has a car, does she not? Why can't she clear her room and put it in her car? Why on earth is it anything to do with you?

Stropps, you've suggested a constructive compromise that also allows DD a more realistic time to recover from the cellulitis. She's probably feeling like shit but you running yourself aground won't help her. You're very wise to heed the warning signs of overload in yourself and incidentally that models sensible self-care for your DD.

Rudy, thinking of you too today.

And BD, you too. I am in the middle of planning the tree planting on my mother's grave. Need to set aside a little time to snuggle that imaginary puppy under my coat collar.

Newcomers, welcome and what MI said

Good luck today to Molly and Rudy's DS for their hospital appointments, and to BTM's DS for his school visit.

Good news that you have a proper diagnosis, Crem. How are the injections going?

Stropps, second what everyone has said about DD: time for you to take care of yourself now.

BD,

Another milestone for me this morning: I managed to climb in the bath for my shower as opposed to coming downstairs to go into the freezing cold shower room!

Another freezing day here so I will settle down and do some paperwork. Seems that we agreed several weeks ago that two of the DGC could come for a sleepover tomorrow night: they have already asked for a Chinese takeaway, and blueberry pancakes for breakfast on Sunday.

Stropps, I would go as far as pointing out you don't have to help her clear her room at all. She can go back and do it when she's up to it.

Please don't go next Thursday.

Dearest Stropps, if dd is paying rent on the place until April ( shitting hell) then there IS NO RUSH! this is all she need to take in. The room doesn't need clearing instantly. You don't need to help AT ALL. in fact she can take her time. Poor you Stropps. I know what it's like to have a dd who has a sense of immediate and selfish urgency. Please do ignore it as best you can, for your own head. You have so much on yourself. It's , as others have said up to you to micro manage dd.
I could scream for you Stropps , I really could.

Molly hoping it's all over now.

BD i mean it.

Still have fingers crossed for everyone else facing ishoos today. 🌈

CV , have visions of a lace bonnet. I don't know why...

Stropps - totally agree with the others and a tough love approach is needed now. Also I find they assume we'll do things until we point out that they need to manage. I said to DD1 that when she moves to London she will have to do it herself as we cannot be expected to drive from France to Cambs just to move her gear. She looked a bit startled by this as I think she'd just assumed we'd do it but then she realised it made sense and is fine with it. It's all about that transition between being a child and being an adult. I realise you're DD has other issues but she needs to also make that step, and she did seem to have started doing this. As Herbs says, she has her own car and can do this on her own. If she wishes you to help it has to be at your convenience.

Freezing rain here this morning - so glad I didn't have to drive to work.

NOT up to you to micro manage Stropps!! ( damn it , I write so badly , but I mean Not!!h

Oh and NU - so glad things are improving and you've graduated to the warm bathroom

Stropps - you should show DD this thread!

Crap "your" DD not "you're". I do know basic grammar - honest. Goes to join Crem in the bad typist corner.

The for MollyMinge reminds of a joke.

Two women drinking tea in woman A's sitting room. Woman A sees her husband coming up the garden path.
Woman A: "Oh lord, here he comes. He's brought flowers. That means I'll be on my back with my legs in the air."
Woman B: "Why? Haven't you got a vase?"

HAhahahahahahahHA.

The old ones are the best Herbs.

Herb - I need an eyeroll emoticon for that.

Molly - hope things went OK.

Rudy's DS - likewise.

BTM - hope DS manages his morning xx

SE London folk, can you recommend somewhere for lunch on a Sunday near Dulwich Picture Gallery? It's a meet-up with old friends, so needs to be informal, though I'd like to book if possible. The gallery place doesn't get good reviews and I haven't frequented Dulwich for years. Thanks in advance.

Auriga, we go to Rocca which is in the village. Italian and informal, very cheery, though gets very busy. Booking essential.

DPG has a cafe for coffee and cake - there is other stuff too but I've not had lunch there.

If you don't mind a walk /drive along south circular, Tulse Hill hotel also very nice.

Sorry you know about cafe - other suggestions better anyway, even for coffee!

Strops - echoing what Hatty said, it is very odd, that feeling of withdrawing from doing everything for your DCs (as a mother of young children) and expecting them to take responsibilities for themselves as they hit their late teens. I'm just seeing glimmers of that now DS is 17; am stepping away from organising his driving lessons and anything to do with his job (booking time off, getting references, signing up for a pension ), even though he moans and begs for me to do it for him. It must be so much harder to sit on your hand when you know DD has had all those issues in the past, but you are absolutely doing the right thing.

Auriga

For those of you who envision me in a busty wench costume with lacy bonnet, the theme for the fancy dress is London Underground stations. I've got Wimbledon, so will beg/borrow some sort of tennis outfit and put my hair in plaits.

Cloud - are you local, then? I can't remember. Village starts with a W. Tis a Pageant, not a Fayre. A Fete worse than death....

A PAGEANT CV? How very W! Will you wear frilly tennis pants?

That's for me to know!

Auriga - I meant to say how very beautiful it is to plant a tree on your mother's grave. It is something I would want for myself.

DD2 sent pictures of the house she wants next year. I really hope they get it - it looks lovely and a snip at £80 a week. She seems much happier than last term - I am hoping her exam results are OK.