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size 20/22 - Please HELP???

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SilkThreads · 16/11/2016 09:47

I am going to meet with a friend whom I last saw 25 years ago when I was a size 10.
For various reasons (mostly health related) I am now a 20/22.

I want to feel confident about my presentation.

I was thinking - dark jeans, white shirt, blazer/tweed jacket.
scarf, good boots and bag. sort of thing I feel comfy in.
I am not good with dresses/skirts/ heels, so that type of look is best.

But, what underwear for a good 'foundation'?
I have a protruding stomach and a bulge from 2 c-secs.
I also have comedy sized breasts.

Pls be kind.

I don't have the courage to go into a shop, and can't afford a personal stylist.

But I'd like to look as good as I can, for my own self esteem.

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SilkThreads · 06/12/2016 23:43

Yes, he HAS behaved appallingly. (far more than I've said here).

If I'd not sent the pic, or I was 'just' older not fatter, or I had any self esteem, I think I could think: 'tosser' and move on.

But, I did, I am, and I don't.
And it will be even harder to, now.
Aaargh!

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NewBallsPlease00 · 06/12/2016 23:48

Cos is great for an architect look so essentially trendy understated/ I'd go for a simple black dress over thick smoothing tights, get nails shellac and brows neatened, blow dry hair (self or salon depends on budget) a light spot of fake tan all over for a healthy glow, and lipstick. Basically head for simple with polish.
Or if jeans and shirt more you honestly avoid boot cut at all costs, it's frumpy. It is, don't be offended, but it is. Straight slim dark jeans with white oversized casual shirt, leopard shoes/boots, grooming as above
Voila

MustTidyUpMustTidyUp · 06/12/2016 23:49

I think you look lovely.
I'm glad he showed his true colours early on. Lucky escape for you.

Iwasbornin1993 · 06/12/2016 23:49

What an absolute tosser he sounds! Definitely his loss - sounds like you had a lucky escape Silk Flowers

You honestly look lovely, I wouldn't have guessed you were a size 20/22 either. I'd put you at maybe a size 18 and around 40 years old? You look great either way so don't let him get you down!

NewBallsPlease00 · 06/12/2016 23:50

Oh god sorry hadn't seen the invetween pages clearly hit last not next when I posted sorry 😳

PitilessYank · 06/12/2016 23:53

You are super cute!! Great face, great hair, nice curvy body.

He is delusional.

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SilkThreads · 06/12/2016 23:59

NewBalls you are alright! :)

I am 49.

He is 68
(and, not being horrible, but never was exactly attractive - not so much not handsome- though he wasn't, but BO and bad breath etc I never had the heart to tell him)

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FannyFifer · 07/12/2016 00:05

You look fab and I would have guessed around 40.
Do not waste another second on that utter prick.
Block his number, FB, any other method of contacting you.
He is no good for you in any way whatsoever.

BradleyPooper · 07/12/2016 00:09

I'm 43 and you look like a lot of my friends about my same age. I would look for lines around your eyes but you don't seem to have any and your neck (another giveaway) is supersmooth....

BradleyPooper · 07/12/2016 00:11

I would never have guessed 49. At 68 and given your description he's hardly God's gift. Write back to him, don't send it, and then shred the letter. That's what would help me.

pimmsy · 07/12/2016 00:14

Silk,

You look lovely, and you have a great smile, it make me think you are about to say something naughty that would make me laugh.

I would not have guessed you were a size 20 either. I'd think you were 43-45 ish years old?

The guy is clearly a self entitled bastard.

You deserve better.

Flowers
Rubberubberduckduck · 07/12/2016 00:17

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 00:18

I have written an ESSAY tonight.

I will try not to send it.

He recently wrote to me that
'so far, revealing the mess that is me does not seem to have driven you away'.

Perhaps I will reply: 'It just did' and leave it at that?

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pimmsy · 07/12/2016 00:27

Do not send the essay ! I would just go total silence to be honest. Then he can wait and wait and think you may reply!

2boysnamedR · 07/12/2016 00:35

I think you look stunning.

He is a cock of the highest order. Don't waste any more tears over such a twat.

BradleyPooper · 07/12/2016 01:55

Dignified silence is the way forward. Don't engage in any of his games, don't respond, don't give him the time of day.

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 07:02

Crap. I have reported my post with my pic in 4 times now, and it's still up.
Yike.s

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 07:43

Phew. they are gone. at last.
thanks MNHQ.
hope no one I know saw them.
off to lick wounds.
thank you for the kind words on this thread.
I've learned a big lesson, very painfully.

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Agiraffeisnotacat · 07/12/2016 13:23

I saw this yesterday and would have guessed at 40-45 but didn't want to risk it in case it was wrong and made you feel worse! You look great, he sounds like a knob...

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 14:53

I cant stop crying.

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 14:53

The Jacket and new underwear just arrived :(

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Bluntness100 · 07/12/2016 15:06

This is the second thread I've read like this today, WTAF is wrong with some men. 😡

Op, keep the clothes, you'll find someone worth your time and he won't be knocking on 70 like this total prat. 💐

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 15:10

I cant.
I had to go to the Jobcentre today.
No disabled parking.
I parked on a single yellow so I didn't get a sanction for being late for interview.
I got a parking ticket.
It has been a shite day.
I bought 2 fresh cream custard slices for the kids after school snack.
I decided to eat one.
I dropped the packet out of the fridge.
The dog got both.

I am trying to laugh...

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SilkThreads · 07/12/2016 15:13

sorry, should say I have a blue badge and really cant walk far at all.
I thought single yellows were okay in those circs.
apparently not.
the Church had had a 'loading bay' marked outside which I didn't see.
so, I am £70 down.
and bordering on hysteria!

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Bluntness100 · 07/12/2016 15:19

Oh, are you the same lady with the "walk into the sea thread? Sorry,,,I should check user names better.

Cmon, cheer up, he's a twat. 💐