In Crepey Remembrance Of CremCat Past

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Hope that's an OK unilateral decision!

Morning - Hope CV and Rudy are enjoying meeting LC? There's old 70's LC - full of youthful energy and oozing charm (still not upbeat pop obvs) and there's mature (much older) Leonard - oozing a different sort of charm...

It's like a LC memorial weekend in this house - have watched c 5 documentaries and listened to nothing else - wallowing in a sad but enjoyable way.

Shall I shut up about Leonard now?

Stropps, lovely pic of you and dc on FB

Monty - I don't know how DH is yet - still asleep. We had friends round last night which was great but and we were nice to each other but I thought we felt/seemed odd. So we'll see.

GGG - thanks for the LC.

On a different note - blocked toilets. DD's poor bf blocked our toilet yesterday morning and was getting understandably stressed about sorting it but refusing help. Hope it didnt put him off visiting - it would me. I thought as have thought for some time that modern toilet paper maybe too deluxe and quilted for old toilets? Not recommending we go back to Izal medicated stuff but maybe fewer ply good thing.

Hope you manage a calmer and less worrying day Addle. It's a terrible dilemma - but maybe one way of looking at it is that if dh is unwell he's not best placed to judge accurately how unwell he is or how worrying it is for other people who can see it more objectively? No one (as we know all too well on here) would stand by if their child / teen was unwell but refusing help would they? They'd try to step in to at least keep them safe.

Stropps, so pleased to hear about your lovely day with dd. I think you can take it in a small way as confirmation that what you are doing is helpful. Doesn't mean you won't have to do to over and over and over again... but still.

Feel worried about BD who seems to have disappeared. BD, are you there??

Stropps, that is great news!

Low key Sunday here - DD1 has gone back to school for a rehearsal, DH has taken her (moaning, but there are the dreaded engineering works, so would have taken her forever). I have made blackberry and apple gin. DD2 slumped in bed still. Going to put washing away now. (I know how to live!)

DD1's UCAS application will go in by the skin of its teeth, right at the last minute...

What a great day, Stropps, and what brilliant news about dd! She must have pulled her finger out AND it has left her feeling cheery - such a good sign I think.

Rose, aha, thanks. I will keep looking. Yes re Kew

Oh dear lord I think an Unfortunate Ex is on this train sitting RIGHT NEAR ME. Nooooo. Am moving. What fresh hell is this? And just realised my coat is right by him. Words cannot express how little I want to talk to him. Am full of dread and loathing. Please let it not be him - have not seen him for 15 years so there is a good chance it isn't...

I am 99 per cent sure it is. And it's where I was sitting so my coat is right over his head.

He is an utter bastard and I can't face him.

MI, get your coat, look straight through him if he looks at you. get the hell out!

Rose, do your family have a way of marking anniversaries like that? Ours doesn't at all - I think my sister would like to but it isn't the way my mind works.

Hello all, sorry for radio silence. Not in a great place and finding things very hard at the minute.
Lurking and reading and following you all and wishing everyone lots of strength with whatever it is you are currently facing (which seems to be pretty much everyone....)

Oh BD.

Train now too full to move but I grabbed my coat while he went to the loo....

Good afternoon ladies - a very grim and damp day here - the sort of weather where I wish I had a house with a real fireplace so I could snuggle in front of a lovely log fire.

Stropps - so glad you had a lovely day out with DD - things sound much more positive. Agree, lovely photo of you all. Hope things continue to go smoothly today.

Well done on the UCAS forms BTM and on DS's offers Addle. Mrs S - what's your DD applying for?

MI - I know exactly what you mean about friends with "grown up" houses. We still live pretty much like students here and cannot have posh dinner parties with posh plates and glasses which some around here seem to have. Everything pretty mismatched here.

Re - ex on the train (new film?). Move, and collect your coat later on arrival.

Went to dinner with old friends last night and mulled over the state of the planet, trying to identify where we could move to.

GGG - I thought Leonard Cohen sang Sweet Home Alabama - turns out this was a different Leonard

Our house is not grown up either, apart from the truly lovely glasses (thanks for addle et al).

BD, for you. One day at a time, and be kind to yourself. It will get easier.

X post - BD hugs and .

Love to you, BD xxxx

Dd has a friend over. They are both in dd's bed under the duvet ( she has a double) stroking the cat on friend's lap and chatting about this and that. Dd looks happier than she has all week. I am feeling a bit calmer. Thanks to everyone for your support

Oh BD, I'm thinking of you.
Rose, you too my love. ( candle lighting , special dinner of food ddad liked, letting a bloom go?)

Congratulations to the teens forgetting in their UCAS applications and finally pressing the big red send button. It is a bit knee-knocking I remember.

MI , I hope you have managed to ignore and avoid ghastly ex. Awfully difficult sitch. Sorry about you dad too.

GGG so sad about Leonard. Saw him about 6 years ago in concert and it was epic. I really gpfelt like I was experiencing something magical. I've only ever felt that before seeing. Ornette Coleman and perhaps Bowie.

Here I am lurking and avoiding family today. I know it's naughty but honestly finding them all a bit much. Will see dad tomorrow, that is if dmum allows it ,as apparenly I now need an invitation. And cakes on a plate must be planned. (Ffs)

I assure you, I do not live in a grown up way either, much to my utter annoyance. My sister has good china and glassware, paintings , as well as deep skirting boards and a conservatory. I know that last bit sounds mad , but in our house ,there are no grand architectural features and it's full of dust and clutter. Dh and I are equally to blame if I'm honest.

We were supposed to move a sofa into ds room today, but dh has fallen asleep.

KOBO everyone.mwah.

Rose I mean a Balloon not a bloom obviously.
Also mean dd not ds. I don't think I have a ds.

Hello Crepeys

Am chilling out after busy day yesterday. Had DM over for lunch, and then supper last night. She then stayed over. Heard her pottering about in the spare room at 0330 this morning. (I had left her with kettle, tea making stuff, radio etc etc) so she's sleeping as well as I am at the moment .

She has an uneasy relationship with DH - they spend a lot of time being slightly passive aggressive to each other - but have backed off since DF went downhill.

Went to see DF this morning to give DM a day off. He'd not been out of bed yesterday at all, and not eaten or drunk much either. Took a cold bottle of elderflower and a bag of ice, and spent this morning getting it down him, along with white chocolate drops. Hey - you just do what you can, don't you?? Also managed to shave him - well it was a joint effort. He did one side, and I did the other.

Reasons to be Cheerful:

1. Good weather (after yesterdays continuous deluge)
2. Went to collect my M&S Advent calendar. Cannot decide if its a present for me, or one for DM. She got one last year, but passed on most of the stuff to others. Grrrr....
3. Yet to start posh chocolate box. Plan to have a very light supper, then make a start - no doubt with DH and DS breathing heavily either side of me, salivating....

Rose - definitely a celebratory meal with his favourite things. And a toast to absent friends.

Rose Another vote for meal & toast to him.

Stropps - I have every finger crossed for you that this really is the start of better times.

And my sympathy to all of you who are having such a rought time atm. It will be very nice to say farewell to 2016.

Stropps, how lovely to read that to you for being such a fab and long-suffering mum and hope she gets the train back OK

BD, thinking of you - will you be coming down for the MU on the 26th so we can offer our shoulders and try our best to cheer you up?

Talking of which, it is 2 (II) weeks away - do we have a plan? And if not, can I do anything to help?

Had a lovely day out with a dear friend at the Good Food Show - ate and drank our bodyweights in free food and booze. We were at an Aldi prosecco/cava/champagne masterclass at 11am And DH seems to have managed to hold the fort admirably and is now out with a mate for a quick pint.

What is a grown-up house?

Also, great to hear DD has a friend over, Monty - it is hard for them, such a big step.

Rose, meal and toast sounds like a good plan.

Addle, hope today has been OK?

MI, hope you made it off the train without anything untoward happening!

I don't live in a grown up house. It is like a cross between Mr Trebus's house and a student squat. (Those of you unfamiliar with Mr Trebus, he featured heavily in A Life of Grime. My Gran knew him as they went to the same club and said he stank. Fortunately the house doesn't stink, but we have too much stuff and nowhere for it to live. If we ever have a Forever House I am going to call it Trebus Cottage.) To give some colour to this already lovely picture, DH took the shower out three years ago and it is still in pieces in the en suite (ditto the built in wardrobe in our room), stripped the hall and has left it in all its unloveliness. The kitchen is on its last legs and so is the bathroom.

Mmm, well I was thinking hard about what I could usefully do this afternoon - and fell asleep!

I managed to avoid awkwardness.am now nearly home. DP has been out at some t'ai fucking Chi related gig this afternoon and just texted suggesting soup and garlic bread for supper. I am bloody starving as last ate at11am so am unreasonably annoyed by this. (I feel justified in consuming Bombay mix and beer now, thus getting over my hissy-fit.)

Grown- up houses look finished and a bit glossy. They do not eg have tattered curtains, books overflowing onto the floor and grumpy cats.